You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
If someone has a cheerful character and captures your heart, how can they be no good at being cheerful and capturing your heart?
MerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia11,403 posts
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Hi ah... I reckon you have this all the wrong way round..
I cannot see how you can fall in love , and then realise that the person is good for nothing..
more to the point, you avoid who you don't like to start with, and if you do like them, you get to know them and get to know about them.??
This happens way way before you start to feel anything for them?? except of course, respect as another human being..
You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character.
Already not a good-for-nothing - cheerful charm is lovely. I guess though the problem is not with the person, but with you - if you are looking for solid reliable qualities, material success, ambition, and worth, your fault for falling in love!
Unless they are also irresponsible to a dangerous degree, or promiscuous, (don't walk away - run!) then enjoy, for as long as you reasonably can (it might be forever) and remember, you have been entrusted with a rare person, in this cheerless and dismal world. When you have to walk away, do so nicely and stay friends if you can.
VivianLee: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character.
Already not a good-for-nothing - cheerful charm is lovely. I guess though the problem is not with the person, but with you - if you are looking for solid reliable qualities, material success, ambition, and worth, your fault for falling in love!
Unless they are also irresponsible to a dangerous degree, or promiscuous, (don't walk away - run!) then enjoy, for as long as you reasonably can (it might be forever) and remember, you have been entrusted with a rare person, in this cheerless and dismal world. When you have to walk away, do so nicely and stay friends if you can.
VivianLee: Do you really think this a cheerless and dismal world, Vivian? That's a harsh judgement. But I agree with you that being charming is a rare attribute for men.
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Nobody is good for nothing, although the thought is.
NidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia1,430 posts
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Nidifugous: Very unrealistic scenario, I'm sorry to say.
No it is not at all unrealistic(leider;)). I know the man very well, his name is bauksi. Americans hate the unseccessful, they hate goofys and Donald Duck, they admire Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dagobert Duck. No it is not at all unrealistic, my german-american lady
NidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia1,430 posts
Bauksi: No it is not at all unrealistic(leider;)). I know the man very well, his name is bauksi. Americans hate the unseccessful, they hate goofys and Donald Duck, they admire Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dagobert Duck. No it is not at all unrealistic, my german-american lady
Schönes Wochenende, nice weekend.
Nobody admires Arnold. Everybody knows what he's all about, although you have to give him credit for coming from nothing and managing to marry a Kennedy and then producing a child with the housekeeper
From my perspective, the scenario is unrealistic and I tell you why I think so, mein lieber bauski Erstens, if he/she has a charming personality, then he/she can find a job, unless he/she is totally illiterate. How does this person make a living? If the person mooches off of the state, then he/she is either physically ill or there must be something else going on. Or does this person suffer from incurable laziness?
The answer to this question determines whether I allow myself to fall for the person. If the person has a questionable source of income, then I will most certainly not get involved. Maybe I'll remain acquainted with him/her and that's where the buck stops.
That attitude has nothing to do with nationality. I venture to guess that your countrywomen probably judge much harsher than I do. LG, Nidi
VivianLee: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character.
Already not a good-for-nothing - cheerful charm is lovely. I guess though the problem is not with the person, but with you - if you are looking for solid reliable qualities, material success, ambition, and worth, your fault for falling in love!
Unless they are also irresponsible to a dangerous degree, or promiscuous, (don't walk away - run!) then enjoy, for as long as you reasonably can (it might be forever) and remember, you have been entrusted with a rare person, in this cheerless and dismal world. When you have to walk away, do so nicely and stay friends if you can.
I can agree with this...but if the person is a con I would not get involved at all. If they were genuine and not tryna hide their lack of material success, I would be willing to stay friends. but I would not be willing to become a meal ticket, no matter how cheerful one is, it is wrong to look to take advantage of others.
all in all I probably would not get closely involved
felixis99: I can agree with this...but if the person is a con I would not get involved at all. If they were genuine and not tryna hide their lack of material success, I would be willing to stay friends. but I would not be willing to become a meal ticket, no matter how cheerful one is, it is wrong to look to take advantage of others.
all in all I probably would not get closely involved
I like this logo in relationships! "Treat me like a queen, I will treat you like a king! Treat me like a game, I'll show you how it is played"
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
It was difficult for me to answer this succinctly. Because I pulled myself up by my bootstraps, and man, it was really, really hard sometimes, I have pretty much zero tolerance for good-for-nothings, cheerful or not. It has been my life experience, too, that people don't really change personality traits very often, and the laziness of a good-for-nothing is hard-wired in; little chance to improve. JMO
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Once again you got me Bauksi
In 2005 I fell in love with a good for nothing. I knew him from my high school graduation class so I assumed he wouldn't hurt me.
It's a long story.....Short story ... love is blind. I was vulnerable and by the time I got out of that 10 month relationship my bank account was much smaller.
It took me years to get over the love I had for him but I did. The thing is, you can be over it but I'll never forget how stupid I was in not recognizing how he was working me for money
justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia2,592 posts
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Your question seems to more about material things than personal traits, I'm assuming that if you fall in love with a person then they have all the traits you find attractive and would be happy with them, but you seem to highlight, money, houses, cars etc, if that's all your looking for in a potential partner then I think you're setting yourself for failure, They should be a partner not a meal ticket!
justjim63: Your question seems to more about material things than personal traits, I'm assuming that if you fall in love with a person then they have all the traits you find attractive and would be happy with them, but you seem to highlight, money, houses, cars etc, if that's all your looking for in a potential partner then I think you're setting yourself for failure, They should be a partner not a meal ticket!
I agree with the gist of what you say. However, I want to add that, although material things are NOT my focus, I still think both parties need to be contributing to the maintenance of the relationship, and like it or not, it takes some material things, i.e. money, for most of us to live harmoniously in the world. So, my partner would need to be working at least part-time at minimum wage, and not be a slacker, etc....Do you know what I am trying to say? (disclaimer: Stay at home parents are contributing....even some stay at home home-makers. The key is to contribute, not be a good for nothing).
justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia2,592 posts
rohaan: I agree with the gist of what you say. However, I want to add that, although material things are NOT my focus, I still think both parties need to be contributing to the maintenance of the relationship, and like it or not, it takes some material things, i.e. money, for most of us to live harmoniously in the world. So, my partner would need to be working at least part-time at minimum wage, and not be a slacker, etc....Do you know what I am trying to say? (disclaimer: Stay at home parents are contributing....even some stay at home home-makers. The key is to contribute, not be a good for nothing).
G'day Roh Yep I understand and agree 100% with you, Mutually contributing to a relationship makes total sense, both financially and materially, it just seems the OP is a little too focused on the material and financial aspects, Or maybe I just interpreted it wrong ?
Bauksi: You fall in love with a good-for-nothing: no success, no money, no house, no car, but a cheerful character. He/she captures your heart at once. After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter. How would you behave against him/her?
Well, I wouldn't try to make him become.... anything. I don't have the right to try and change someone, nor would I want to.
I am sure there are things that can be worked with and can lead to a wonderful life together.
However, if my circumstances are perceived as better than his and he turns out to be an opportunist.....
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You fall in love with a good-for-nothing(Vote Below)
He/she captures your heart at once.
After few datings you must recognice: He(she) is a poor blighter.
How would you behave against him/her?