Your friend's lover is giving you the eye. ( Archived) (30)

Oct 13, 2014 7:16 PM CSTYour friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England, UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts

Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.(Vote Below)

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Flirt back - it's just a bit of fun
6
11%
Firmly turn it back into friendly
15
27%
Laugh at your friend for being a sucker
3
5%
Hey, a chance to see what he/she has got
5
9%
Hint to your friend there may be problems ahead
12
21%
Tell your friend outright
15
27%
Total Votes
56
So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. hug I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.

Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.

Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? devil Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt? handshake

I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?
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Oct 13, 2014 7:24 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
secretagent09
secretagent09secretagent09New Jersey Girl in, North Carolina USA198 Threads 4 Polls 7,230 Posts
If she considers me to be a good friend, I would try to find a way to tell her that he has a roving eye. She won't believe me but at least I've done my part.

If he doesn't get the hint that I'm not interested in him I'd find a way to make him very uncomfortable.
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Oct 13, 2014 7:35 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
secretagent09: If she considers me to be a good friend, I would try to find a way to tell her that he has a roving eye. She won't believe me but at least I've done my part.

If he doesn't get the hint that I'm not interested in him I'd find a way to make him very uncomfortable.


I dont think he can be in any doubt now. I told her, too. Oh well. At least she knows what she is taking on, if she goes ahead.
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Oct 13, 2014 7:36 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
sirLarryIII
sirLarryIIIsirLarryIIIClump, Kildare Ireland72 Threads 9 Polls 2,016 Posts
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.

Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.

Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?

I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?


Many moons ago i was courting a lass who worked down at the local donkey stables with me.Her mother took a bit of a shine to me.Even though there was a forty year age gap between us and she had more facial warts than her daughter and a slightly bigger shoulder hump,i couldnt help the strong draw i felt towards her.One night in the stables she snook up on me and she started to undress me.i foolishly gave in to my urges.Afterwards i turned the light on and realised it was the daughter and not the mother! phew! i was lucky,so no harm donethumbs up
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Oct 13, 2014 7:48 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
sirLarryIII: Many moons ago i was courting a lass who worked down at the local donkey stables with me.Her mother took a bit of a shine to me.Even though there was a forty year age gap between us and she had more facial warts than her daughter and a slightly bigger shoulder hump,i couldnt help the strong draw i felt towards her.One night in the stables she snook up on me and she started to undress me.i foolishly gave in to my urges.Afterwards i turned the light on and realised it was the daughter and not the mother! phew! i was lucky,so no harm done


Your in luck, all girls turn into their mothers eventually. dancing
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Oct 13, 2014 7:48 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
That would a 'Damned if you don't and 'Damned if you do' situation even though I would most likely lose a friend.

I think I would tell the guy to knock it off and if he continued then I would have no other choice but to tell my friend.
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Oct 13, 2014 7:50 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
Ccincy: That would a 'Damned if you don't and 'Damned if you do' situation even though I would most likely lose a friend.

I think I would tell the guy to knock it off and if he continued then I would have no other choice but to tell my friend.


Annoyed with him for creating the situation. Friends are OFF LIMITS, right?
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Oct 13, 2014 7:56 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
CosyRosie: Annoyed with him for creating the situation. Friends are OFF LIMITS, right?




Didn't say they weren't.Just saying.
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Oct 13, 2014 8:00 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
joey987
joey987joey987Bowmanville, Ontario Canada1 Threads 1,417 Posts
What? Stink eye? Crook eye? Evil eye?

laugh
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Oct 14, 2014 2:42 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
BerrySmoothie
BerrySmoothieBerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand3 Threads 4,733 Posts
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.

Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.

Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?

I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?



I'd tell him I'm off-limits in no uncertain terms.

If he continued, I'd let my friend know.
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Oct 14, 2014 2:43 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
unlaoised
unlaoisedunlaoisedTwilight zone, Wicklow Ireland34 Threads 12,152 Posts
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.

Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.

Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?

I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?


I suppose it depends on how much you value the friendship. For me, it's a definite no-go area
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Oct 14, 2014 2:46 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
...just move along. you don't do that to friends........
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Oct 14, 2014 2:47 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.

Stick a knitting needle in itdevil
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Oct 14, 2014 7:21 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
mollybaby: Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.

Stick a knitting needle in it


Haha best answer!
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Oct 14, 2014 7:22 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
truheart1941: ...just move along. you don't do that to friends........


Don't do what? Flirt? or tell?
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Oct 14, 2014 7:31 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Count_Me_In
Count_Me_InCount_Me_InMackay, Queensland Australia1 Threads 570 Posts
...and I will throw it back at him!!!

uh oh thumbs down
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Oct 14, 2014 7:37 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valencia Spain8 Threads 6,354 Posts
The man is an absolute cad and bounder! snooty
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Oct 14, 2014 7:41 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Count_Me_In
Count_Me_InCount_Me_InMackay, Queensland Australia1 Threads 570 Posts
Count_Me_In: ...and I will throw it back at him!!!


to take out the other bloody eye!!!

problem solved

haha
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Oct 14, 2014 9:49 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
postneoludite
postneoluditepostneoluditeWest Vancouver, British Columbia Canada39 Threads 22 Polls 890 Posts
I just remembered.
I uh, I have this place I need to be right now.
Yeah, that's it.
Bye.
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Oct 14, 2014 9:54 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie: Don't do what? Flirt? or tell?
don't Flirt.
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Oct 14, 2014 9:55 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Harryonline
HarryonlineHarryonlineLondon, Greater London, England UK4 Threads 639 Posts
Is there no shortage of men/women
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Oct 14, 2014 10:04 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
pisceslady7online today!
pisceslady7online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 Posts
I found myself in the same situation and told him outright that he was well out of line and if he made even the slightest inappropriate move/word again I would not hesitate to tell her immediately.
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Oct 14, 2014 10:10 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Harryonline
HarryonlineHarryonlineLondon, Greater London, England UK4 Threads 639 Posts
Sometimes its wishful thinking from one or the other that this is occurring, when its not. Someone maybe just flattering themselves.
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Oct 14, 2014 10:39 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
reb56
reb56reb56carthage, Missouri USA55 Polls 8,629 Posts
Ccincy: That would a 'Damned if you don't and 'Damned if you do' situation even though I would most likely lose a friend.

I think I would tell the guy to knock it off and if he continued then I would have no other choice but to tell my friend.
1st wife got 7 yr.itch,buddy told me n others,we got divorced after that,she used my money to retain atty.she got underhanded,ended in court,judge was pissed,couldve been settled out of court,u just wanted to drag him thru the mud,still lost alot,but was worth it,her atty.fireplace burnt his house n called cops on me?they called come to station/why?atty.house fire,i said did it burn to ground/no,well i didnt do it n hung up/karma,n may she rip 2010 on.
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Oct 17, 2014 2:50 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
In response to: Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?


The most interesting thing on the vote breakdown has been the 'tell your friend outright' result - the ones who ticked that were all men. I sent my friend a tweet saying 'dump him' and she tweeted back 'okay'. Nothing since. I don't feel bad. I would feel worse if she said one day oh he is messing about and I said I know, he tried with me. I would HATE that, if it was the other way round.
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Oct 17, 2014 4:55 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Freedomofspeech9
Freedomofspeech9Freedomofspeech9Swansea, Dyfed, Wales UK94 Threads 67 Polls 799 Posts
I would say Cut ties with him and tell your friend, because if he is flirting with you he is more than likely flirting with other women behind her back too.
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Oct 17, 2014 5:50 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
xxDandelionxx
xxDandelionxxxxDandelionxxunknown, Hampshire, England UK8 Threads 2,525 Posts
CosyRosie: So, my buddy is falling for a guy - and he makes moves on me. Nothing obvious, but definite interest. I tell her we are talking privately, and shes cool with it, she trusts him. He says I should be more discreet about it in future. Even tho it means nothing anyway.

Guys, it could as easily be your buddy's new girl is flirting with you.

Leave them to crash and burn? Grab the chance to see what the attraction is? Or assume the trust is justified and there will never be more than a mild flirt?

I know what I will do but if he had been more my type, I wonder if I would feel different. Ever happened to you?


Yes, there's a bit of fun, and then.......

Your friend is being rather naive. It never means NOTHING, particularly when there's umpteen other people to flirt with.....
roll eyes
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Oct 17, 2014 9:16 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
Freedomofspeech9: I would say Cut ties with him and tell your friend, because if he is flirting with you he is more than likely flirting with other women behind her back too.


Every chance he gets, I would think. And more. He was at least careful with what he said to me.
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Oct 17, 2014 9:20 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
xxDandelionxx: Yes, there's a bit of fun, and then.......

Your friend is being rather naive. It never means NOTHING, particularly when there's umpteen other people to flirt with.....


I dont think she was fooled for long. She was having fun, enjoying the relationship but it hadnt got too serious luckily.
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Oct 18, 2014 2:45 AM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
Harryonline
HarryonlineHarryonlineLondon, Greater London, England UK4 Threads 639 Posts
CosyRosie: I dont think she was fooled for long. She was having fun, enjoying the relationship but it hadnt got too serious luckily.


What gets more complicated is when the friend is a women friend of yours and her boyfriend is a friend of your too (but its he who you know is [not just flirting] but cheating on her with other women).

I was asked by my friend (the women) if her boyfriend (my friend too) was using her.

I was just honest with her....but she still went back again and again getting used each time...until he had "enough" of her.

This did finally mess her up.
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Oct 21, 2014 6:19 PM CST Your friend's lover is giving you the eye.
CosyRosie
CosyRosieCosyRosieReading, Berkshire, England UK1 Threads 1 Polls 17 Posts
Harryonline: What gets more complicated is when the friend is a women friend of yours and her boyfriend is a friend of your too (but its he who you know is [not just flirting] but cheating on her with other women).

I was asked by my friend (the women) if her boyfriend (my friend too) was using her.

I was just honest with her....but she still went back again and again getting used each time...until he had "enough" of her.

This did finally mess her up.


Ouch. You still friends with both? Difficult.
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