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Oct 21, 2014 8:53 PM CSTIf someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
StandardsFirst
StandardsFirstStandardsFirstPhiladelphia, Pennsylvania, USA24 Threads 24 Polls 61 Posts

If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..(Vote Below)

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Say have to wait AROUNDfew emails+ first
21
32%
Say forget it.
12
18%
Say o.k.& give it.May want to share(whats banned)
5
8%
Say forget it..could be a scammer,spammer.
20
30%
Say o.k. & give it.
8
12%
Total Votes
66
Why do some want personal emails so fast ya know it? It doesn't make sense to give out when usually I get the most IMPORTANT COUPLE of questions out of the way to see if make BARE BASICS. BUT..if I HAD given out personal emails when I can write on HERE what is THAT for? Brother!
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Oct 21, 2014 8:55 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
StandardsFirst
StandardsFirstStandardsFirstPhiladelphia, Pennsylvania USA24 Threads 24 Polls 61 Posts
Uhh..screwed up in main question and said personal emails..meant personal email addresses specifically. I don't like giving those addresses out just like that.
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Oct 21, 2014 8:57 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
There's no way I would just give out my email cause mo ost of the time they are scammers.
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Oct 21, 2014 9:05 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
purr4mance
purr4mancepurr4manceCleveland, Ohio USA4,825 Posts
sure

no problem at all giving it out
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Oct 21, 2014 9:10 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Freedomofspeech9
Freedomofspeech9Freedomofspeech9Swansea, Dyfed, Wales UK94 Threads 67 Polls 799 Posts
StandardsFirst: Uhh..screwed up in main question and said personal emails..meant personal email addresses specifically. I don't like giving those addresses out just like that.

You are very wise not to and if they are genuine they will be happy to exchange plenty of messages here first.
You could later go on skype, exchange phone numbers, email etc once you feel you can trust them, but the moment they mention needing money remember tosuper away
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Oct 21, 2014 9:14 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
StandardsFirst: Why do some want personal emails so fast ya know it? It doesn't make sense to give out when usually I get the most IMPORTANT COUPLE of questions out of the way to see if make BARE BASICS. BUT..if I HAD given out personal emails when I can write on HERE what is THAT for? Brother!


They ask for your email or provide theirs in the first email it's likely a scammer. Bottom line...be aware and share private email when you feel comfortable to do so.
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Oct 21, 2014 9:35 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Ken_19
Ken_19Ken_19Winchester, Virginia USA68 Threads 26 Polls 1,055 Posts
Scammers harvest emails addresses. Big bucks business. They then sell it to spammers. Meanwhile they also try to collect credit info, name, age, address, phone number, maybe credit card numbers, etc. They will get credit in your name if they can while at the same time telling you hardship stories accompanied by 'our distance doesn't matter, I luv you, but please send 500 to me via Western Union' etc. Whatever info they get of potential value they will sell that also.
Giving them a phone number is equally silly in my opinion. #1, again they will sell it as a valid phone number, and also use a reverse directory and sites like scopio or knowx to collect more info, then again either impersonate you to 3rd parties and or sell the info.

My advice? If you haven't met them and verified the name they gave you matches their drivers license (and of course you will also do a criminal history and credit check on them later on Knowx (and they on you too if they have half a brain), then provide no info to a CS suitor.

The LDR exception is when you have encountered them enough, found other sites and established a relationship in multiple arenas. Maybe do a little 3rd party checking, learn where they work and live, confirm they aren't married (or wanted by the law), etc. Then when you know they really are a doctor at such and such hospital in Nairobi and have called them at work and confirmed they are there, then sure, go ahead and give them your email address, but not until you know lots about them and feel comfortable.
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Oct 21, 2014 9:54 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
sunnydaygal
sunnydaygalsunnydaygalbutte, Montana USA3 Threads 31 Posts
I say no to ANYONE (including scammers) who wants my email address right away. if someone really wants to know you, let them take the time to exchange a few messages with you and allow both of you to get to know a little about each other. you can always decide if you want to talk off the site later. scammers want you off the site so there is not a paper trail and it is step one to try to isolate you and gain your trust.
but this was a GREAT question....thanks
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Oct 21, 2014 10:52 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
rizlaredonline today!
rizlaredonline today!rizlaredNot in Cebu City, Central Visayas Philippines89 Threads 2 Polls 5,588 Posts
Gosh what a lot of fuss over nothing, the simplest answer is create a throwaway email account, once you have established the person is genuine, then you can start to give more details, but under no circumstances give out your full name and/or address to someone you have not even seen or met.

Its all very well saying do security checks, but these are not always reliable, plus I would need to have met or at the very least seen via webcam the person in question, before thinking about giving my family name.

Throwaway email addresses are easy to create and you do not have to give personal details to have one, once it starts to get multi spam messages, discard it and get another one.
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Oct 21, 2014 11:12 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Harryonline
HarryonlineHarryonlineLondon, Greater London, England UK4 Threads 639 Posts
There is no point in giving out email address'. Just use the PM feature on here.

I have given out my email only after being asked after some PMing

Those who give or want email address' right away, is a bit weird.

I always give my work email to the person, so they know I am real. Then afterwards I give them my personal email.

I dont like to get paranoid or for them too, so I do this.

I find its better to PM here, there are more emotions you can use. Although, I try do try to limit it.

I've been asked to phone, which I do if I get the time. Call costs are nothing for me (they are free on the phone service I have).

Skype...I've been known to do that too.

Basically, I do love to chat.
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Oct 21, 2014 11:38 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
crayons
crayonscrayonsSt. Jo, Texas USA65 Threads 1,951 Posts
was here several years ago

and they used to ask me for my email

and phone... I would just play them and

never give EM Squat... came back here

a month ago still the same but

Am comfortable cause people are more polite here.

told this stuff to my "investigator friend

Back Then" and he gave me the "skinny"

NEVER GIVE OUT YOUR PHONE NUMBER OR EMAIL/

till you get to know who you are dealing with.

That's why I love the forums... you can tell

after a short time who you are dealing with...

if you give them your info...

you will be getting all kinds of scam mail and calls

nuff said.. thanks and have a good day
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Oct 21, 2014 11:43 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
crayons
crayonscrayonsSt. Jo, Texas USA65 Threads 1,951 Posts
sunnydaygal: I say no to ANYONE (including scammers) who wants my email address right away. if someone really wants to know you, let them take the time to exchange a few messages with you and allow both of you to get to know a little about each other. you can always decide if you want to talk off the site later. scammers want you off the site so there is not a paper trail and it is step one to try to isolate you and gain your trust.
but this was a GREAT question....thanks


Sunny!!!gingerbread good to see ya
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Oct 22, 2014 12:03 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
crayons
crayonscrayonsSt. Jo, Texas USA65 Threads 1,951 Posts
StandardsFirst: Why do some want personal emails so fast ya know it? It doesn't make sense to give out when usually I get the most IMPORTANT COUPLE of questions out of the way to see if make BARE BASICS. BUT..if I HAD given out personal emails when I can write on HERE what is THAT for? Brother!


you forgot one scenario... the one I use

never tell em any thing

I just play along till they go away from

my mail!!!yay yay
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Oct 22, 2014 1:30 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
serene56
serene56serene56Myplace, New South Wales Australia542 Threads 10 Polls 27,946 Posts
rizlared: Gosh what a lot of fuss over nothing, the simplest answer is create a throwaway email account, once you have established the person is genuine, then you can start to give more details, but under no circumstances give out your full name and/or address to someone you have not even seen or met.

Its all very well saying do security checks, but these are not always reliable, plus I would need to have met or at the very least seen via webcam the person in question, before thinking about giving my family name.

Throwaway email addresses are easy to create and you do not have to give personal details to have one, once it starts to get multi spam messages, discard it and get another one.



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Oct 22, 2014 2:47 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Good advice!

As for security checks, I have never done one, and never ever shall.
My gut feeling is much better, and much cheaper, than any commercial security check on earth.
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Oct 22, 2014 2:49 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Above was re. Rizlsared's advice!!
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Oct 22, 2014 2:58 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Scottishlass88
Scottishlass88Scottishlass88Marsaskala, Majjistral Malta1 Threads 8 Posts
I use a second e mail address for this site and don't give it out until I feel safe. I check the time differences to see if they are genuine but trust my gut instinct for fake I'd' s and scammers.
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Oct 22, 2014 6:53 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Alexandro10
Alexandro10Alexandro10monceaux, Hauts-de-France France36 Threads 17 Polls 1,180 Posts
My email is NOT for relationship. So who ever asks it, she not wright in her head. I usually after knowing somebody better, I'll go on fb and that's because there is an instant messaging over there .

Bottom line no I never give my email out

NB: I already get spams in my email from all around the world, don't want add CS too.

thumbs up

head banger
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Oct 22, 2014 9:06 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
1April
1April1AprilPlymouth Meeting, Pennsylvania USA471 Posts
Hi StandardsFirst,

Please read the scam warning from cs site.

It clearly states that they are scammers trying trying to build email addresses.

I have now put it on my profile stating that I will not respond to any emails with personal email addresses.

Every email message from here always includes their private email address and cell/phone numbers.

I don't understand why they still continue to do this when I clearly state I am unwilling and against giving out personal info.

I chalk it up that people don't want to be bothered to read profiles, so I can't be bothered to answer them if they wish to correspond through their own email address. Be aware they use the line they are hardly ever on CS site, but they are cause they can only send emails to CS users from this site.
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Oct 22, 2014 9:14 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
If I get an email and see their email, delete and block...If they asked for my email, delete and block...a lengthy email, delete and block... 99% of those are scammers.
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Oct 22, 2014 9:18 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
equiya
equiyaequiyaunknown, Ontario Canada2 Threads 4,055 Posts
1April: Hi StandardsFirst,

Please read the scam warning from cs site.

It clearly states that they are scammers trying trying to build email addresses.

I have now put it on my profile stating that I will not respond to any emails with personal email addresses.

Every email message from here always includes their private email address and cell/phone numbers.

I don't understand why they still continue to do this when I clearly state I am unwilling and against giving out personal info.

I chalk it up that people don't want to be bothered to read profiles, so I can't be bothered to answer them if they wish to correspond through their own email address. Be aware they use the line they are hardly ever on CS site, but they are cause they can only send emails to CS users from this site.


plain and simple - scammers and fakes don't read profiles. they fire off chain letters to a load of women
they can't and don't write to me. I have filters on and that block them. all they can do now is to view me
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Oct 22, 2014 9:25 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
reb56
reb56reb56carthage, Missouri USA55 Polls 8,629 Posts
equiya: plain and simple - scammers and fakes don't read profiles. they fire off chain letters to a load of women
they can't and don't write to me. I have filters on and that block them. all they can do now is to view me
howdy,need my new e mail address?hows it goin.
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Oct 22, 2014 9:32 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
AfterTheFlood
AfterTheFloodAfterTheFloodHigh River Alberta, Alberta Canada2 Posts
Ken_19: Scammers harvest emails addresses. Big bucks business. They then sell it to spammers. Meanwhile they also try to collect credit info, name, age, address, phone number, maybe credit card numbers, etc. They will get credit in your name if they can while at the same time telling you hardship stories accompanied by 'our distance doesn't matter, I luv you, but please send 500 to me via Western Union' etc. Whatever info they get of potential value they will sell that also.
Giving them a phone number is equally silly in my opinion. #1, again they will sell it as a valid phone number, and also use a reverse directory and sites like scopio or knowx to collect more info, then again either impersonate you to 3rd parties and or sell the info.

My advice? If you haven't met them and verified the name they gave you matches their drivers license (and of course you will also do a criminal history and credit check on them later on Knowx (and they on you too if they have half a brain), then provide no info to a CS suitor.

The LDR exception is when you have encountered them enough, found other sites and established a relationship in multiple arenas. Maybe do a little 3rd party checking, learn where they work and live, confirm they aren't married (or wanted by the law), etc. Then when you know they really are a doctor at such and such hospital in Nairobi and have called them at work and confirmed they are there, then sure, go ahead and give them your email address, but not until you know lots ab


man!! your sure PARANOID!!!,, remeber SOME are legit feel them out them and feel comfortable.
doh doh doh
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Oct 22, 2014 11:36 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
I WOULD KNOW A SCAMMER SO I DONT NEED TO BE AFRAID....MY PERSONAL INFO ARE GOING TO BE NILL......
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Oct 22, 2014 12:33 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Ramsess
RamsessRamsessBeckley, West Virginia USA3 Posts
Singlelisious: If I get an email and see their email, delete and block...If they asked for my email, delete and block...a lengthy email, delete and block... 99% of those are scammers.
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Oct 22, 2014 2:59 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Katiko
KatikoKatikofreiburg, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany19 Threads 5 Polls 196 Posts
I say, sth like:
"Hey, thanks. Maybe I'll use it one day."
Some people continued to write at CS, others stopped.
One of the initial scammers selection.

I use the email provided only when I think it would make sense.
Did wrote back from personal mail at some point.
No scammers so far :)
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Oct 23, 2014 5:12 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
Alexandro10
Alexandro10Alexandro10monceaux, Hauts-de-France France36 Threads 17 Polls 1,180 Posts
Example:

I just send a flower to this girl in my area ( Picardie-France ): she wrote back I am exited to know you . I would like to write to you via email ecc..ecc. I hope I can get your email.

Now you tell me , common sence .

Is she a scammer or not ?

LOLthumbs up
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Oct 25, 2014 6:32 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
cjlm1217
cjlm1217cjlm1217Baltimore, Maryland USA2 Posts
StandardsFirst: Why do some want personal emails so fast ya know it? It doesn't make sense to give out when usually I get the most IMPORTANT COUPLE of questions out of the way to see if make BARE BASICS. BUT..if I HAD given out personal emails when I can write on HERE what is THAT for? Brother!


I'm with all you lovely people. I've already been asked twice for my personal contact information and have only been on here a week. Both times I have said no. I don't trust the saying "I'm hardly on CS". Well, if you are on your email, then you can get on CS and email me. I was thinking about getting a throw-away email address, but haven't yet cause I'm still testing the waters. The last guy told me that I'm making it too hard for him..Well, that's just tough.
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Oct 29, 2014 8:28 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
jimpace
jimpacejimpacefort myers, Florida USA2 Posts
StandardsFirst: Why do some want personal emails so fast ya know it? It doesn't make sense to give out when usually I get the most IMPORTANT COUPLE of questions out of the way to see if make BARE BASICS. BUT..if I HAD given out personal emails when I can write on HERE what is THAT for? Brother!
ok & give it
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Oct 29, 2014 8:30 PM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
jimpace
jimpacejimpacefort myers, Florida USA2 Posts
StandardsFirst: Uhh..screwed up in main question and said personal emails..meant personal email addresses specifically. I don't like giving those addresses out just like that.
y not
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Oct 30, 2014 2:05 AM CST If someone wants to exchange personal emails when already have one on date site..
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
rider4u: Congratulations Jono...I can attest to this lady being a died in the wool bonfide Canadian sweetheart...nice to see you


wave hiya rider

thank you
it's nice to e-see you in the forums again
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