I'm Fine! ( Archived) (48)

Jun 27, 2015 2:08 PM CSTI'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England, UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts

I'm Fine!(Vote Below)

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Always
23
36%
Never
1
2%
Sometimes
14
22%
People don't see me the way I see myself.
18
28%
If I say I'm fine then that makes it so.
8
12%
Total Votes
64
How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.

We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.

We may say it because we're proud.

Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:11 PM CST I'm Fine!
cgedvr1
cgedvr1cgedvr1Socal., California USA10 Threads 551 Posts
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.

We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.

We may say it because we're proud.

Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.


yeah ya are...fine that is

if your feeling down...the best i can do is a virtual hughug
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Jun 27, 2015 2:16 PM CST I'm Fine!
twazzle70
twazzle70twazzle70THE GORGOYNES......, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK1 Threads 689 Posts
I say "im fine" even if the sky is falling in and im in the worst shape ever....Force of habit i suppose,,,besides,how many people in reality are truly concerned if you say you arent "fine".... The majority of the human race are too wrapped up in theyre own lives and issues to be worried about other peoples..I.M.O....But regardless of this "im fine" laugh I think..banana conversing
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Jun 27, 2015 2:18 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
twazzle70: I say "im fine" even if the sky is falling in and im in the worst shape ever....Force of habit i suppose,,,besides,how many people in reality are truly concerned if you say you arent "fine".... The majority of the human race are too wrapped up in theyre own lives and issues to be worried about other peoples..I.M.O....But regardless of this "im fine" I think..
I'm sure most of us do that. Oh and plenty would care actually.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:19 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
cgedvr1: yeah ya are...fine that is

if your feeling down...the best I can do is a virtual hug


No, I'm not fine. If that gets me a hug then that's fine.

Now I'm fine!

hug
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Jun 27, 2015 2:22 PM CST I'm Fine!
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.

We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.

We may say it because we're proud.

Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.


A "Hi, how are you?" from a passerby or acquaintance will always get a "I'm fine thanks, how are you?" from me even if I'm in turmoil. I suspect most folks who ask may not want to hear about someone's troubles unless they're someone who truly cares about you. Only those who come across as genuinely caring folks will know a little about how I'm doing and even then, I will hold back a lot because I don't want to impose on them.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:23 PM CST I'm Fine!
BerrySmoothie
BerrySmoothieBerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand3 Threads 4,733 Posts
Hi Rain wave

When a woman says "I'm fine", particularly to a man in response to something he has said, you do have to question it sometimes, I think....laugh

Having said that, I say "I'm fine"....quite a lot....because I don't want to be a sad sack or bleat on about my woes. Generally people accept that...laugh

...and sometimes, I am....yanno....just fine...laugh
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Jun 27, 2015 2:24 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
I suppose I got in the habit of always saying that I'm Fine even though I'm really not.

I told someone once that I wasn't fine and they jumped all over me.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:26 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
BerrySmoothie: Hi Rain

When a woman says "I'm fine", particularly to a man in response to something he has said, you do have to question it sometimes, I think....

Having said that, I say "I'm fine"....quite a lot....because I don't want to be a sad sack or bleat on about my woes. Generally people accept that...

...and sometimes, I am....yanno....just fine...
Nice comment berry. It makes perfect sense! teddybear
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Jun 27, 2015 2:26 PM CST I'm Fine!
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Jun 27, 2015 2:27 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
2intrigued: A "Hi, how are you?" from a passerby or acquaintance will always get a "I'm fine thanks, how are you?" from me even if I'm in turmoil. I suspect most folks who ask may not want to hear about someone's troubles unless they're someone who truly cares about you. Only those who come across as genuinely caring folks will know a little about how I'm doing and even then, I will hold back a lot because I don't want to impose on them.
I have a problem with honesty but I will say I'm fine and smile and jump up and down if I'm asked by someone who is clearly suffering.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:29 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
I'll be careful what I say in future.

rolling on the floor laughing
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Jun 27, 2015 2:30 PM CST I'm Fine!
BerrySmoothie
BerrySmoothieBerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand3 Threads 4,733 Posts
@ Conrad....laugh
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Jun 27, 2015 2:39 PM CST I'm Fine!
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.

We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.

We may say it because we're proud.

Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.
I had to think about this for a micro-second---hmmm....(I couldn't vote because the choice wasn't there..) I would say I am fine more often than not, probably about 70 to 80 per cent of the time.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:46 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.

We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.

We may say it because we're proud.

Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.

Aaah, it's all about feeling rules.

We have to be sad at funerals, happy at parties and fine when we're asked.

We habitually try to suppress our feelings and as a result often become unable to recognise them any more.
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Jun 27, 2015 2:50 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
rohaan: I had to think about this for a micro-second---hmmm....(I couldn't vote because the choice wasn't there..) I would say I am fine more often than not, probably about 70 to 80 per cent of the time.


Me too rohann. I'm not sure what that should have been listed under but it doesn't indicate whether or not you were truly fine.

rolling on the floor laughing
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Jun 27, 2015 2:51 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
jac_the_gripper: Aaah, it's all about feeling rules.

We have to be sad at funerals, happy at parties and fine when we're asked.

We habitually try to suppress our feelings and as a result often become unable to recognise them any more.


Jac would you say there was a difference in men and women when it comes to saying we're fine when we aren't?
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Jun 27, 2015 3:07 PM CST I'm Fine!
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Jun 27, 2015 3:08 PM CST I'm Fine!
rohaan
rohaanrohaanCoos Bay, Oregon USA229 Threads 10,460 Posts
RainComeShine: Me too rohann. I'm not sure what that should have been listed under but it doesn't indicate whether or not you were truly fine.
Oh you! Now we have to parse levels of fine...OKAYYYYYYYYY


1. 10 percent of the time I am not at all fine. (Rough)
2. 10 percent of the time I am simply not fine. (Course)
3. 20 percent of the time I am veneer grain grade. (Fine)
4. 60 percent of the time I am final polish grade. (Super-fine)

teddybear
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Jun 27, 2015 3:08 PM CST I'm Fine!
seems CS or my Computer just Burped!laugh
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Jun 27, 2015 3:10 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine: Jac would you say there was a difference in men and women when it comes to saying we're fine when we aren't?

There's bound to be.

It's socially unacceptable for women to express anger, except through crying. The more oppressed women are in their particular society, the more this prevails.

It's more socially acceptable for men to express hurt through anger because 'boys don't cry'. Hence the angry return mails when we say, "Thanks, but no thanks."

There's bound to be emotional work to conform to gender role expectations with the feeling rule which leads us to say, "I'm fine", but perhaps men and women are suppressing different emotions according to those expectations.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave. When first we practise to deceive!" Canto
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Jun 27, 2015 3:11 PM CST I'm Fine!
cgedvr1
cgedvr1cgedvr1Socal., California USA10 Threads 551 Posts
my daughter will talk to me as of late, just about not really being happy with where she is at the ripe age of 30...

my comments are...talk to me in another 28 years

i won't be here...

you could be living in Somalia...

then if i offer to take her out to dinner life is not so bad...
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Jun 27, 2015 3:16 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
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Jun 27, 2015 3:19 PM CST I'm Fine!
...........@C/C.....ok.....you look awfal.....grin laugh laugh
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Jun 27, 2015 3:29 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
truheart1941: ...........@C/C.....ok.....you look awfal.....





Oh hush you old fart.You wouldn't know a good looking woman if she climbed on you.laugh
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Jun 27, 2015 3:34 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy: Oh hush you old fart.You wouldn't know a good looking woman if she climbed on you.
naaaaa. you right.....all i,ve seen so far is horse meat.....(not shaved) either.grin laugh
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Jun 27, 2015 3:36 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
truheart1941: naaaaa. you right.....all i,ve seen so far is horse meat.....(not shaved) either.




tru I hope you never change and sincerely mean that too.You are such a card.laugh hug
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Jun 27, 2015 3:39 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy: tru I hope you never change and sincerely mean that too.You are such a card.
Arrrrr.thanks C/C...i love you really......pete.xxxxxxx.
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Jun 27, 2015 3:41 PM CST I'm Fine!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
truheart1941: Arrrrr.thanks C/C...i love you really......pete.xxxxxxx.




I know you like me. I don't usually pick on people I don't really like.
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Jun 27, 2015 3:48 PM CST I'm Fine!
Lolette
LoletteLoletteLe Mans, Pays de la Loire France15 Threads 1,691 Posts
RainComeShine: How often do we say that we're fine when clearly we are not? We may say it because we know that others are far worse off than ourselves or because we don't like confrontation.

We may say it in order to convince ourselves that we're fine.

We may say it because we're proud.

Sometimes perhaps we should just say. Actually I'm not fine.



You can say you're fine to people whom you judged could do nothing to sort you out,, but to real friends who knows you well, you can be true and honest, it could be a temporary relief.
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Jun 27, 2015 5:15 PM CST I'm Fine!
RainComeShine
RainComeShineRainComeShineDevon, England UK22 Threads 22 Polls 425 Posts
Everyone has problems of one sort or another and it's not always that easy to let a good friend know if you're down in the dumps.
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