LDR behaviours

Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

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Dec 28, 2015
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Love my job, which takes me to interesting parts of the world for several months at a time. It ended my marriage but not because either of us cheated, just became strangers.

Now I've had to leave someone who really matters. What are the rules? I'm on company premises. Social is built in and expected, she lives alone and mainly socializes with an ex who became a friend before we met.

I know the ex is still keen and would cut me out if he could. She knows he worries me but her other friends are casual and it would be night out stuff, she could meet someone new. Ask her to stay home when I'm away being sociable with the same group of people, most of them single, every night? No.

Anyone else hammered out a working compromise in the LDR situation?

unlaoised unlaoised

Twilight zone, Wicklow Ireland

Re: LDR behaviours
I think it all comes down to trust.

It's unfair to expect either party not to socialise but if there's love and commitment, it shouldn't be an issue.
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
unlaoised: I think it all comes down to trust.

It's unfair to expect either party not to socialise but if there's love and commitment, it shouldn't be an issue.


I know the fair thing is to expect no promises but right now I'm a bleary-eyed hungover old codger feeling sorry for himself. There is love. There is trust. I just wish he'd fall under a bus. grin
Redex Redex

Northumberland, Northumberland, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Sorry for me ar my age anywaygrin LDR would be pointless.
Now at your agegrin roll eyes I would think all the cafuful tongue you know what I mean would be a sleep
Whatever floats your boat until you finish traveling the world have fun then think after retire do I need companion by my side. JMOlips
unlaoised unlaoised

Twilight zone, Wicklow Ireland

Re: LDR behaviours
Chromedome56: I know the fair thing is to expect no promises but right now I'm a bleary-eyed hungover old codger feeling sorry for himself. There is love. There is trust. I just wish he'd fall under a bus.


laugh You could always give him a gentle nudge the next time you're all out together.
Oh the agony of competition but if there is trust, then trust her judgement. You'll go nuts overthinking this
truheart1941 truheart1941

brentwood, Essex, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Chromedome56: I know the fair thing is to expect no promises but right now I'm a bleary-eyed hungover old codger feeling sorry for himself. There is love. There is trust. I just wish he'd fall under a bus.
well, you love your job....you travel the world. meet people...while she is sitting there...just sitting there....waiting for your return........your choice....her...or your job.....kinda...hello dear/goodbye dear...see you ...when i see you.situation...dunno cheers
tomcatwarne tomcatwarne

Ocean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Chromedome56: Love my job, which takes me to interesting parts of the world for several months at a time. It ended my marriage but not because either of us cheated, just became strangers.

Now I've had to leave someone who really matters. What are the rules? I'm on company premises. Social is built in and expected, she lives alone and mainly socializes with an ex who became a friend before we met.

I know the ex is still keen and would cut me out if he could. She knows he worries me but her other friends are casual and it would be night out stuff, she could meet someone new. Ask her to stay home when I'm away being sociable with the same group of people, most of them single, every night? No.

Anyone else hammered out a working compromise in the LDR situation?


It seems you have chosen your priorities and she is not at the top of the list.

I think you should do some hard thinking and decide want, the writing is on the wall and you will sure as hell lose her altogether if you don't come up with some solutions.

Start thinking of your priorities and go from there.
tomcatwarne tomcatwarne

Ocean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
tomcatwarne: It seems you have chosen your priorities and she is not at the top of the list.

I think you should do some hard thinking and decide what you want, the writing is on the wall and you will sure as hell lose her altogether if you don't come up with some solutions.

Start thinking of your priorities and go from there.
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Redex: Sorry for me ar my age anyway LDR would be pointless.
Now at your age I would think all the cafuful you know what I mean would be a
Whatever floats your boat until you finish traveling the world have fun then think after retire do I need companion by my side. JMO


I retire from international travel in 9 months anyway, then it is HO desk job to retirement. We met a year too soon. Or not.

If it survives this, we survive anything. And we can survive this.

Bloody glad for skype, though. And phones. And emails. And texts. laugh
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
unlaoised: You could always give him a gentle nudge the next time you're all out together.
Oh the agony of competition but if there is trust, then trust her judgement. You'll go nuts overthinking this


She thinks I AM nuts, they were over before we met.

When you're right, you're right. But I don't trust men with hair. very mad
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
truheart1941: well, you love your job....you travel the world. meet people...while she is sitting there...just sitting there....waiting for your return........your choice....her...or your job.....kinda...hello dear/goodbye dear...see you ...when i see you.situation...


Perfect jobs, few and far between. Perfect woman, how many have YOU met?
tomcatwarne tomcatwarne

Ocean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Chromedome56: She thinks I AM nuts, they were over before we met.

When you're right, you're right. But I don't trust men with hair.


LOL well you've had a dream job, start planning now ,if you want your retirement with her put her no. ono from now on.

I t.hink you're in with a chance
tomcatwarne tomcatwarne

Ocean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
tomcatwarne: LOL well you've had a dream job, start planning now ,if you want your retirement with her put her no. ono from now on.

I t.hink you're in with a chance


And get off this dating sitegrin grin
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
tomcatwarne: It seems you have chosen your priorities and she is not at the top of the list.

I think you should do some hard thinking and decide want, the writing is on the wall and you will sure as hell lose her altogether if you don't come up with some solutions.

Start thinking of your priorities and go from there.


I was committed to the project months before we met. And NEXT job is a suitable country where I can take her with me, plus we'll be more established as a couple by then. Problem solved.

February, the company flies me home, or her out to me, for a week. In the meantime, we're practically spending more time together (on skype) and exchanging letters, than we were when living 30 miles apart. You learn a lot about each other when apart. Priorities? Make this work.
Redex Redex

Northumberland, Northumberland, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
tomcatwarne: And get off this dating site


moping he is just filling time ingrin
Hope he makes it though all I can say
GOOD LUCK cheering applause
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
tomcatwarne: And get off this dating site


She likes the blogs and forums.

(wave hello darlin')

And oh yes, off the dating site, the minute she closes her profile, mine will disappear. It's fun socially though. Plus I get to air an issue and debate it devil

Relationship by committee. rolling on the floor laughing
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Redex: he is just filling time in
Hope he makes it though all I can say
GOOD LUCK


Friends I can flirt with, who egg me on. Oh yes. dancing
Redex Redex

Northumberland, Northumberland, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Chromedome56: Friends I can flirt with, who egg me on. Oh yes.


Friend you said friend grin roll eyes some people think a lotrolling on the floor laughing How is the massage going and does your throat feel tight YETrolling on the floor laughing
tomcatwarne tomcatwarne

Ocean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Chromedome56: Friends I can flirt with, who egg me on. Oh yes.


Well having a better feel of the situation now I wish you good luckgrin
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
Redex: Friend you said friend some people think a lot How is the massage going and does your throat feel tight YET


DC is keeping a careful eye on you as she handles my massage rolling on the floor laughing
Chromedome56

London and Edinburgh., Lothian, Scotland UK

Re: LDR behaviours
tomcatwarne: Well having a better feel of the situation now I wish you good luck


Oh aye, pal, you're right, but this is a cunning plan. She'll take one look at the lovely ladies giggling with me and decide that's it, we're both out of here. devil

Cunning plans always go according to plan.
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