Which Do You Think is More Important: Unconditional Love or Love with Conditions ( Archived) (20)

If there are conditions beyond the basic principles of common sense and morality, you can't call it love.

These are simply preferences. As an adult, a good few people simply know what works for them and they look for someone they have things in common with.

Love is a big word and it takes time to develop. I do think it is good to protect my heart and take time to get to know someone. But when I love someone, it's simply there.

It is not unconditional though. Love simply can go away if someone doesn't respect or treat me the way I respect and treat him. I don't have any intention of being a doormat (nor would I ever treat someone that way).

Or a dog.

For all the junk talkers. Here is some information you might have missed while judging me (unfairly and taking stuff out of context)

What is Unconditional Love?

There is a difference between a mother’s unconditional love and a partner’s unconditional love. Your mom loves you no matter what you do – even if you cheat on your taxes, cheat on your spouse, or cheat in Scrabble. Your partner, on the other hand, loves you with a different type of “unconditional love.”

Your partner’s love may be based on how you treat him. If you’re faithful, communicative, supportive, and loving, then you’ll love him unconditionally. Those are signs of unconditional love that communicate respect and love in its deepest, most honorable form. What is unconditional love? An action, not just a feeling.

Loving someone unconditionally means not trying to change who they are. That is the simplest, purest definition of unconditional love in romantic relationships. I think it’s a better definition than “loving someone no matter what”, which is more of a maternal definition of unconditional love.

Also:

What is unconditional love?

Unconditional love in a relationship begins with oneself. To set the foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship, you must first have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-confidence. This doesn’t mean you never have emotional difficulties or don’t need support and extra attention at times.

But you do need to feel generally good about yourself, to like yourself, and to recognize the positive qualities you bring to a relationship. It also means you can stand on your own two feet as an individual without requiring a romantic partner to define you or complete you. You can be together with someone and still remain fully yourself — as a person you like and respect.

Within the relationship itself, unconditional love is the ability to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual — not as an extension of yourself.

Unconditional love within the context of a good relationship is a dance in which both partners participate. You begin with the essentials of self-love and mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.

But . . . unconditional love within the context of a lasting relationship requires lots of wiggle room. As part of self-love, you know your own personal boundaries and the limits of what you find to be acceptable and healthy behaviors and reactions from your beloved.


There..Next time I suggest you ask questions rather than judge me. Thank you for your time. And to be honest...I'd rather have a dog then have to spend the rest of my life with a woman who is only out to emasculate me. Just saying.

Thank you for the support. I need to learn to develop thick skin and ignore the bad people. I live my life as best I can according to the teachings of Taoism and in some rare cases Christianity. I know there are women out there that fit what I am looking for, it's just taking longer to get past all the nonsense. Once again. Thank you for the kind words.