islandqueen: I will certainly not! That is the answer that most would give. However, life is not all black and white; there are some gray areas. For example cheating occurs in various forms i.e on line, texting, or physically meeting to fully engage in pleasure ( of any kind). Then there is the question of the position that one is in. Are children involve? Do you depend on this person financially? There are sooo many reasons why people accept cheaters back into thier life. I just hope i NEVER find myself in this position.On the other hand, you just can't judge those accept the cheaters back.
I've heard this said before and it got me thinking, esp. if children are involved, long term marriage, etc., but you know something? I came to the conclusion that if one cheats, that person has broken the promise of fidelity. Therefore, I cannot trust that person anymore, ergo, I will not stay with him. It may hurt like hell, but I would dump him in a heartbeat. I know myself well enough to know that I couldn't forgive or forget.
If there is no promise of fidelity involved, then I suppose one cannot complain or be surprised if it happens. So then if I was serious about someone, I'd ask them how they felt about exclusivity and then see what they say.