The traditional male/female rules were made up in the what? 1800's and early 1900's?
Nowadays, I find it completely different. I agree with Drags, if there is only one income earner, then the other one should do the majority of house work, however I still think the income earner should do some things. I expect they wouldn't just come home sit down and expect a silver platter served up to them.
If they both work, then they both need to share the load.
Any male that expects the female to do everything when they both work full time is beyond me and if I was with a man like that, well, I wouldn't be anyway.
Harry, I do it all myself too and have done for many years and when someone offers to do something for me, I won't let them lol... Put Urs to good use while she is there