Innocentia00122 Forum Posts (723)

RE: Why do we ask questions, when already knowing the answers...?

Some people do that because they need desperately attention and the alleged moment of showing off. Others do that because the manipulation of others belongs to their life so that their reality stays safe, and also they feel satisfaction while observing others who involve themselves in discussing the "question."

RE: Classical Music - Relax & Enjoy !

Thank you, Karl
I just listened to a few Stabat mater, but didn´t recognize anything, but I will continue listening.

RE: Classical Music - Relax & Enjoy !

Makes me feel always a kind of megalomaniacal

RE: Honesty on the Profiles.....

I´m honest. It´s all me. And John Cleese

RE: How can we recognize a Narcissist?

LucyMaud, you see this so correctly that I hope and wish that you didn´t experience something like that.
I grew up with a mother with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder like in a picture book and chose later a partner who was like her twin. He is the father of my child. I left him with my child almost 12 years ago.
I had a great, intelligent and loving dad though, and this, I know, is what saves us until the end of our lives, and when my child will have children mabye, them, too.
My sister and me cared for that the consequences of that disorder will not affect our children and that it will not be carried into another generation. But that was a long, hard and sad work.

Our mother (who could not be a mother) died last year. I had already distanced myself from her a few months before she died. My sister and me feel every day how our lives change. Sometimes we are very sad because like narcissists do we were held away from each other through lies (you know, the triangulation). But we also have the feeling that we want to really live now. It is hard to describe.

When I read here the copied and pasted articles I think, ah, it is good that people are able to put it in words, but these words can not describe how you feel as a child when a parent does the opposite of what it actually does normally and with all his or her heart.
I don´t want to imagine how children feel who have nobody (like we had our dad for a while) who make them feel that they are worthy to be loved.

RE: Say Anything

I wish someone certain would do that instead of logging in

RE: Say Anything

RE: Say Anything

I know which

RE: How can we recognize a Narcissist?

RE: How can we recognize a Narcissist?

The two narcissists I knew/know in person both were/are people with a heavy NPD. They did not or do not even know of narcissism. They talked in a devaluating way about others regarding visual things or laughed at and about people who are not so well educated.
In my eyes I would almost say that real narcissists are too blind and too little interested in others to see a personality disorder or a narcissistic trait in others. I hope that makes sense

RE: How can we recognize a Narcissist?

Yes, they mirror for all one´s worth. It is because you shall feel as comfortable as possible with them. You think in the beginning "Oh my, I found my soulmate!" or "Oh, I never felt so good with someone before" or "It is as if we had known each other our whole life" You feel only like this because they mirror you. They tell you maybe 1% that is true about their lives, the rest they fake around it, so that it is exactly mirroring you. And because there is the 1% true part, you do not even think about questioning anything.

If you are aware of the mirroring you can easily influence what they answer or behave in a conversation. It is good to acknowledge that, but it is at the same time a bad feeling because what do such conversations say? Nothing. They have no worth.

In the mirroring you can also see that they are empty and need all input from the outside. If you could do therapy with someone with an NPD you would "treat away" the whole person, because the NPD is the personality of that person.

RE: How can we recognize a Narcissist?

Yes, when you are together with someone with an NPD it is so hard to go because the structure gives you security (because it feels familar), as bad as the structure is. And you are someone who feels guilty anway all the time.

It is great that you helped your friend and help the other one. The best thing in that situation is someone who not says things like "I would have been gone years ago" or in an angry way "Why let you do this to you?"

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 99

RE: Anyone here who has or knows someone with Aspserger's Syndrome?

Tenang is right with his indignance and his explanations. I´m fed up. too.


Molly ... the tractors

RE: Microsofts "love letter" Did anyone else receive this, if not paying, am cut off...............

Hello, britishcolumbian
please read here:

Bearwoman is right. It is a phishing scam. I always google the text that I receive to see if it is a scam.

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 99

MetaMaus I listened to I`m your man today, too :-)

Normally I do not know much about Justin Timberlake, but this, I just read, is a one video take and one sound take recording, and also it is the first take. This is so impressive.

RE: NEWS : Physicist Sir Stephen Hawking has Died

Requiescat in pace, dear Sir Hawking. Te adoravi aspectaboque semper astra.

RE: Jury Service...

No, I would not send him or her to prison then. I had to be 100% sure. There are so many humans involved in presenting and discussing such a crime in the court. I had to be totally sure that I am right with my judgement.

RE: Share What You Are Listening To -- Part 99

RE: Which is your favourite letter of the alphabet?

I am torn between o and u.

RE: Snow

Oh, how sweet! I can imagine.
Stella comes when she sees me taking the towel, but she also says with her eyes "fair enough, but hurry" and she moves her little body quickly like a snake under the towel :-)

RE: Snow

When we come home with Stella after a walk in the rain or the snow and we dry her with a towel , she can´t wait that we are ready. We open then all doors here inside, and she starts running around like crazy :-)

RE: Snow

Ooooh, that does sound uncomfortable It is the first time that Stella likes to go back when I turn around to go home on our walks. Normally I do not make her wear anything, but now she wears a little pullover when we go out.

RE: Snow

Here it is since two days very cold with a cold wind, and in between it is snowing. Our horse and her buddies stand together in an open stable where they can go outside whenever they want, and they wear this night each two horse rugs, although they have so much fur that they look like teddybears. This night here will be 12 degrees minus.

RE: Covert Narcissism —

Maybe I will threaten tomorrow my neighbour with it when he does not stop throwing cigarettes on our little terrace. Then I will have peace.

RE: Covert Narcissism —

I think that was Medusa who could make people turn into stone, but it could also be any other person from the Greek mythology

RE: Covert Narcissism —

truheart,
sometimes it is good that things have a name. For me it was good to be told what it is long ago because it is ill what these kind of people do with others. You are a dear, good person. You are something good for others. Someone with such a disorder lives from the feelings that they create in you through, as you say correctly, manipulating. The bad thing is that the whole life with them is manipulated and created. And you are humiliated in a very subtle way. If you try to break out of that there is revenge, fury, destruction of your life.
I do not say that with self-compassion or so, but you have to be smart and have a big backbone and learn and change yourself to not be available emotionally for such people any more.

RE: What don't you want in a relationship? What are the needs in a relationship to make it work?

Hello GregKeegan ,

it throws me in a kind of confusion when someone is not direct. I do not know what is behind his forehead or in his heart when he doesn´t say it with words.

When I would see that someone would like to change or adjust things in me then I would not want to get to know that man better. It is not that I do not want to be corrected or so. I have so many flaws. It would be simply so nice if someone would not feel them as disturbing.

A man who wants to talk all day would be difficult for me

RE: What ya got on the go.....SAY ANYTHING

Why do people ask where you live when they only have to look at your profile?

RE: What´s happened to Lookin?

I hope that, too.