How to Spot a Lie

How to Spot a Lie

There is an endless stream of urban myths on the Internet concerning the behavior of dishonest people. Some say that if a person looks up and to the left, he or she is remembering a true fact, and conversely, if they look up and to the right, they are making up a lie. Others say a subject who refuses to look you in the eye must be lying to you, and still others insist that constant fidgeting is a clear sign of deception. The truth is, while there are a few guidelines which may suggest the possibility of deceptive behavior, everyone is different; behavior should be analyzed in a number of controlled scenarios before you start drawing conclusions about a person's truthfulness.

If you only follow the above guidelines, you will soon find yourself accusing everyone you meet of being habitual liars, which will lead to a lonely, distrustful life. Experts in deception analysis and human body language all tend to agree that a baseline of truthfulness must first be established for each person before you can determine whether they are telling the truth. A baseline analysis for one person may reveal that he or she rarely makes eye contact when speaking truthfully, while another's could reveal the opposite. Some people naturally shy away from eye contact, especially in certain cultures. Others prefer to maintain eye contact with everyone at all times.

By paying careful attention to your subject's eyes, face, arms, hands, legs, feet, etc., in a controlled scenario where you know for a fact they are telling the truth, you can establish, and then begin to look for deviations from, that baseline. However, it is important to realize that one slight deviation here or there does not prove anything conclusive about the speaker's truthfulness. Experts in this field look for clusters of behaviors that deviate from the baseline. If the person with whom you are talking rarely makes eye contact, and then suddenly looks directly at you while making a claim or answering a question, he or she may simply be looking at you because they suddenly feel that they're being interrogated and want their truthful statements to be believed. However, if they suddenly make eye contact, cross their arms, and lean away from you, this would constitute a cluster of body language that deviates from the baseline. Whatever the subject is saying at this point would be viewed as highly suspicious.

Psychiatrists, interrogators, linguists, and many other experts in human psychology have painstakingly devoted more than five decades doing in-depth, carefully organized research into the science of deception and the many nuances associated with detection. It is important to remember this fact the next time you feel that someone may be lying to you. There are no shortcuts to lie detection, and failure to realize this may result in falsely accusing an innocent person of lying.

Comments (2)

AnneFleur
If the story is to good to be true, and you can not find anything about them on social media, if they are doing very difficult when you ask them to have a live video chat session they always have something about sorry my network was not working or I had to go to hospital and couldn't call etc etc.
rizlared
Interesting views, but not really applicable when using the internet, so how to tell when someone is lying in a faceless environment?
ali110: "Fragrance"(meet us in the forums)

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