A good communicator doesn't always possess the qualities of a great orator. The ability to talk is minimal next to the ability to listen without bias or judgment. Few people know what it takes to get ideas across and actually be heard during the course of conversation. There are skills that are necessary if you hope to become an excellent conversationalist whether at a party or in a business.
To be a good conversationalist, you need three things:
The first of the three is easy to do. Listening becomes harder and very few people have ever cultivated the ability to use their minds on what is being said.
Whether it's the classroom environment or party conversation, there are three reasons why anyone engages in conversation:
It's no surprise that salesmen, business people and negotiators have honed their skills in conducting conversation. Their career depends on the ability to converse, convince and sell. Their techniques are not exclusive to their fields alone, but can be used in everyday life. If you know how to carry on a good conversation, you will have a better job and develop more friendships.
There are some rules that you can follow to develop your conversation skills:
Listening is a skill that can be learned. All that is required is the willingness to pay attention and subdue your natural inclination to interrupt. Learning the right techniques can make you the life of the party and someone who others will be eager to talk to. Lasting friendships often developed through good listening skills.
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Comments (3)
Didn't know that there was going to be a test, did ya?
--Yes, listening is very important! I certainly agree.
Sometimes, Waiting and giving them time to complete their thoughts, hopefully
not rambling on too much and focusing on their words, ideas, and intent of the thoughts of the conversation. Can at times make you forget your valid point or maybe even a helpful suggestion.
But to address the artical I would say it's very valid advise. - thanks for that.
What is annoying for me is forgetting what I wanted to say after listening to someone yap for too long. Any advice? or should I just continue listening...
Also, the first one I've read that uses correct spelling, grammar and pronounciation throughout ;)
Kudos.