Choosing The Singles Curse...Or Not

If you were in a long-term relationship and now you are single, you may be terrified, horrified or feel that you have been slapped with a curse. It can be quite a change to go from being part of a pair to feeling as though you are just floating from day to day with no attachment. The shock of breaking up can produce these effects for new singles, but in reality life alone is what you make it.

Singles are not individuals who are sentenced to lonely lives... unless they want to be. Surely, if you think back long enough and hard enough you will remember at least one moment when you looked at someone who was single and wished that it could be you. Try to remember what made being single seem attractive at that moment. Then realize that this is your opportunity.

You were in a relationship and maybe you gave it your all. Now that you are single it is unfair to live in dread of the circumstances. To do so is no different than being in a relationship while secretly despising your partner.

You owe it to yourself to live it up, explore the benefits, and avoid jumping to conclusions about how terrible single life is going to be. An ideal way to do this and to ward off loneliness is to attend singles events. Depending on where you live, you can find a wide range of these activities, from after-work socials to weekend bus trips.

Before you object on the grounds that you are not ready to start another relationship, realize that you don't have to be. Singles events are not forced match-making parties. What they are are occasions that allow you to associate with other single people including those that you would never dream of dating. Still, those individuals may be entertaining, have great ideas, and may be wonderful contacts for whatever reason. Furthermore, this type of exposure can be a very good way to learn how to live a lifestyle that seems foreign and distasteful at the moment.

The curse for new singles only exists when they force themselves to live like they have been forced out of the kingdom and into some type of nether world. Sulking and forced isolation are not automatic dues that come with being an ex. If you allow yourself the opportunity to enjoy your new status, you may be surprised how much joy comes your way and how quickly the past becomes the distant past.