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The Overweight Woman is Desirable Too!

The Overweight Woman is Desirable Too

If you consider yourself overweight and you haven't found a permanent relationship, it's time to stop allowing negative thinking about your body to hold you back. Change how you perceive yourself and attract a good man into your life. Try these ideas for moving toward a better self-image.

1. You are an expert on You, and people believe what you tell them about yourself through your words, actions, body language and attitude. If you believe you are desirable, a future mate can believe that too. As you begin to accept the idea that extra pounds do not make you unattractive, you can feel confident and move into new relationships. When you look in the mirror, think about how much you love yourself.

2. When you carry yourself like a woman who is comfortable with your own appearance, you will inspire men with your confidence. Not every man gets hung up on physical appearance. Many men look for someone who they just really enjoy being around.

3. Do you have faith in yourself? You deserve to find a good relationship. Don't settle for a guy who doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Many many overweight women are happily settled in loving relationships. If you don't believe it, look around the next time you are in a shopping mall. You will see heavy women looking happy, active, and loved.

4. You can choose to view being overweight as an advantage. You have a constant physical reminder of the need to care for your health. What if you were skinny and you put a lot of unhealthy foods into your body? Being either skinny or heavy does not exclude you from health problems that adults face as they grow older, including heart disease, diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol. Healthy eating and living over the years can help protect against many health issues.

5. Feeling sorry for yourself will not attract men into your life. You can take positive steps to managing your weight through healthy eating and exercise. Obesity does not control you. If you need more help, join a support group or seek professional help.

As you move gradually toward healthier thinking and living, the past in which you felt unworthy of love will recede into your long-term memory. Find the strength to love yourself and enjoy putting yourself out there to find a man who loves you for who you are and not for what dress size you wear.

Comments (86)

Honi79B
If you are confortable with whom you are is good. I dont find It a big deal because is a situation you can change. If you wanted to lose Weight hit gim two hours work out daily can assure you the difference plus your diet. Congrants i prefer to work out on my body coz small size clothes are cheaper lol. I also want to add that trying to have relationship mostly have nothing to do with Weight unless it is extrem case. Human we have diversity. Personally i am no attracted to Slim men. Should have abit of Weight lol and i believe there are many men attracted to curvy women .......... Well done for encouraging those who might be in this situation or have unfortunately this kind of mental draw back ...........
Marlin2020
i love all women. Your weight has nothing to do with your heart. You are all loved and not desired. To desire is to place someone as an object. A woman is a goddess not an object. So be careful; with the words you choose to describe a woman because there are lunatics out here who read everything you print and embrace it as is. Good luck on your next topic.
Most of the time bigger women are experienced and know how to make their lover feel good sexxually and also make him feel special. They take their time with him and hope he will do the same with her. When you have a couple like that sparks will fly, mountains will move and two people will appreciate each other.heart wings
Pbhendricks4
I like them too please contact me!
traceyhot
Yes they are sexy big beautiful woman make beautiful lovers kiss
69tiara
Hi there greetings from tiara i would love to have a big beautiful girlfriend lips
LaFonda
yes they are.
NohxDell1
I admire what you are saying,I for one like chubby bigger women,,it's kind a sexy being around chubby ladies than those skinny ones,
I do not want to hurt anyone here,,like chubby vs skinny,, my point here,I mean my perspective is bigger ladies seem to have some self respect and seem to appreciate whom so ever accepting them and have confidence,
Sheliamuffins
I'm Shelia Whitefield I'm chubby and been single all my life signed on single connection with the hope finding a mature girlfriend or boyfriend but no replies any ideas on this teddybear
Alfaromeo145
You are spot on. They just don't look sexier but much more woman too...and
brings out the feminine and magnetism of the woman inside more profound.
Much more likeable than the opposite

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Leibherr580
thinking outside the box here. warmth in the winter shade in summercheers keep the beers cool
Superdan19
I think the bigger woman is sexier than a skinny woman as I've always liked the bigger woman
Muli234
Hi there
needyoubyfastway
i am very attracted for bbw and ssbbw ladies !??!
LuckyDuck2018,Xxsmilesxxheart wings
Kenneth2628
I'm mostly interested in dating large beautiful women
LuckyDuck2018
For those people who don't like women who have beards this cause of PCOS symptoms...we can't control it we can try but there not whole lot drugs out there on market that help us. Unless we take Fenugreek seed capsules and Raspberry Tea loose Leaves and it help us handle worst hormone loss of things.

I don't doubt in myself I doubt in my clothes there not lot in market in USA alone that help overweight women to dress properly. Prints and styles suck...lot. All fitter women have nice style stuff but those who overweight considered less fashionable clothes to have wear...because they considered less flirty... they do not have much sex or s*xual attraction buzz.

How odd I am pretty certain women who overweight in UK or Europe have more flirty s*xual attraction than I get, IN California you get zero if your fat there are no men here who find me attractive they find me less appealing. wow
its about proportion not size.some women are slim and shapely ,some women are large and shapely.
i dont like women who resemble dudes.Jessica Simpson is hot.She is quite petite but has nice curves.
eeejay
I read as far as 1.

this isn't news. I am not attracted to any specific weight. oh no, it is not your heart that matters, just. I want to know up and till April how you have been spending your time on you tube, and it better be educational or you're in the doghouse buddy.
Xxsmilesxx
It's an individual choice, backed up with many other attributes besides size. If your not attracted to bbw that's fine.
sweetladydi
I.am not Ashamed of who i.am ,And I know I need to Lose weight ,But i find it very Hard to do ,.. Before you start Judging me .Here is the Reason why I.am Big,.. 1 My Dad,s side of the family were all big ..2 ,I.am a very Picky Eater and I.am not One of those People who sit down with 4 or 5 Hamburgers and a Big Pizza and a Dozen Doughnuts ,I don;t eat Fast food . and I try not to eat Junk food I admit I do love my Sweet,s and My Soda and I have cut down on it A lot ... I go walking every day when the Weather is nice ,and I.am always doing stuff around my Apt i don;t sit On my Big Fat A$$ stuffing my face ,, and Most of my Weight is Caused By Fluid and I.am On water Pill.s to Reduce the Fluid ....I.am Probably One of The Nicest People you would ever want to meet ,... I.am Not a Fake or pretend to be someone I.am not ,,,, I.am a very honest lady ,,, and I don;t have a mean Bone in my whole body very mad
shorty_1963
Beauty, real beauty, comes from the inside. Some of the most beautiful women I have met are BBW's. I want the beauty that comes from within a woman. I don't care if she's big or little.
sweetladydi
Good Topic :) I.am a Over Weight Lady ,and I Have very Low self Esteem.sigh I find it Hard to Meet anyone Decent Because when they see me they see the Fat I have on My Body sigh They don;t Take the Time to get to know me for the person I.am On The Inside , I find some men Figure if a lady has more Weight then she should Have then she is Easy ,Not True ,Maybe in some Cases there is women out there who are fat and would sleep with any men that pay Attention to them thinking he is going to be sticking around ,Not True all he is looking for is to get his Cheap Thrill then Dump her like a Hot Potato .Or Toss Her a side Like Yesterday,s Trash ,, I.am a Good woman ,, I have a Very Out Going Personality and a Very Good Sense of Humor . and I.am very Down to Earth , I.am always Helping Out my Friends when I can and I would Never Turn anyone away that was Hungry , But I have also Met A lot of Takers ,Using me for my Kind heart Like my late dad always said she Might be a Big Lady But her Heart is Bigger then her whole Body ,, ::heartbeating: My Mother told me one day if a Man can not see you for the Person you are On the Inside and Have to Judge you for what you look like on the outside then he is not worth your time, I went on a Coffee Date 2 years ago with a Man I met Online and when he Dropped me off at my Place he asked me how much I weigh and me being honest told him .. and I never seen or Heard from him Again sigh oh well his loss ,,
First of all, God did not make us over weight..That was a personal choice...{except for glandular} the bible calls it death by spoon......

Second: On dating sites 90% of over weight women LIE.....How do they lie....1: Head shots or just eyes and hair or lips...or photos of you a mile away....Or in their description....No photo but says....Curvy, Average, Rubenesque, a few pounds over. Obease

Last, being over weight is not healthy....Being overweight causes diabetics, heart disease, arthritis, spine and lumbar problems.. Over weight Parents bread over weight children.

You can glamorize being Overweight all you want...But big is not beautiful Big is a choice....Big is killing off people at an alarming rate.....No one was born to be Fat......

When you are ashamed to put the true you on a dating site then you are fooling yourself and trying to fool everyone else...It doesn't work

Be truthful to yourself and everyone else....There is someone for everyone on these sites...Hiding who you really are is not alluring or mysterious...Its just plain LYING.


OH yes you who will look me up , you will find me as Husky...I am not fat or skinny I have a waist up shot...No Big belly, no 3 chins. At 6' 1" and 230 I am husky...At 231 I will be fat...LOLOLyay
Heartbroke72
I've found overweight women to be real, meaning they don't mind being themselves from the start. Bigger women love whole-heartedly, don't go into a relationship with a full figured woman thinking that by encouraging them to lose weight, that you're going to "fix" them. They are beautiful the way God made them.
PaulDavidPowers
I kinda fell apart after my last marriage failed. The results has been 100 lbs overweight that I'm battling to lose! Women say that I am an attractive man. Yeah well why haven't I had a date in six years. Is it because I am retired living on 1/3 what I use to make financially. I have to say that another divorce, losing our house and everything was the straw that broke the camel's back. But I am happy to say that that I believe in God and our Lord Jesus Christ! That in Him resides total Healing and Restoration. Paul
RomanticRetard
Recently met a girl at gym,she is considerably overweight.but the silver lining was seems she did with that just fine.even few slim ladies were at the gym same time but coudn't compete with her.cheering cheering

so i think whether you fat or not as long as you give it a run,that just fine....

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Jada_Bella
Nice Article
Love yourself at any size
Confidence in knowing who you are and respecting yourself will attract the same
Never settle for less, if someone is with you only when your thin its not going to last anyway
Love yourself firsthug
I mean you don't look attraktive. But seems most men like it. dunno
jordanrosemary
The overweight woman is desirable i believe that
overcominglove
If all the women are slim what happens to men who love and admire BBW?
HoldenCaulfied
Firstly, I'm stating this as a guy that's still carrying a few pounds. I'm perhaps 25 lbs heavier than I should be.

The general laws of attraction seem to state otherwise in relation to weight and desirability. Off course there are exceptions but the general consensus is that the more attractive and fit looking your are corresponds with desire. I mean this in the physiological arousal of human beings to each other.The psychological research seems to be evidence that we are attracted to the fit, lean and good looking mating partners because they will provide offspring good healthy off spring. This stuff is coded into our DNA so this politically correct bullshit is wrong. Again, I am saying this as someone who was badly over weight albeit i have lost a significant amount of weight. My confidence has gone up, my self esteem and I feel healthier. To be propagating this kind of bullshit is wrong. Even as an over weight man, I always always found fit beautiful women far far more attractive than an over weight woman. All my life I have experienced it amongst my friends and any man I knew that we found fit normal weight women far more attractive than an over weight woman. So please stop with the problem. You are not doing someone who is over weight any favours by speaking this bull shit crap. You are trying to normalise something that is unhealthy and damaging to someone by trying to normalise it.
scouser73
Everyone is attractive no matter ur shape or size
Endorfinusum
The main reasons that overweight women are attractive to most of the man is tht they propagate the signal implying "I am so powerfull, healthy and nutrition-reserved woman that I can raise up lots of children (i.e. offspring of your genealogy) so that your family name goes on". I am one of them who are attracted to chubby/curvy/overweight women.head banger
JustRidin
I am attracted more to overweight women than average size. I also find overweight women have a better personality than average women.
snugglypoobear
Your weight or size doesn't define who you are ... Only you can do that !! teddybear
Daiana20
I want to be like when I come here ...I want to lose weight ...I m not fat ....I m medium size ...I try gym but I don't have motivation. ...
groose
by the way i like what i see
groose
who cares what you look like
PrincePronth
heart wings
skumarsk
Good article teddybear

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