If you consider yourself overweight and you haven't found a permanent relationship, it's time to stop allowing negative thinking about your body to hold you back. Change how you perceive yourself and attract a good man into your life. Try these ideas for moving toward a better self-image.
1. You are an expert on You, and people believe what you tell them about yourself through your words, actions, body language and attitude. If you believe you are desirable, a future mate can believe that too. As you begin to accept the idea that extra pounds do not make you unattractive, you can feel confident and move into new relationships. When you look in the mirror, think about how much you love yourself.
2. When you carry yourself like a woman who is comfortable with your own appearance, you will inspire men with your confidence. Not every man gets hung up on physical appearance. Many men look for someone who they just really enjoy being around.
3. Do you have faith in yourself? You deserve to find a good relationship. Don't settle for a guy who doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Many many overweight women are happily settled in loving relationships. If you don't believe it, look around the next time you are in a shopping mall. You will see heavy women looking happy, active, and loved.
4. You can choose to view being overweight as an advantage. You have a constant physical reminder of the need to care for your health. What if you were skinny and you put a lot of unhealthy foods into your body? Being either skinny or heavy does not exclude you from health problems that adults face as they grow older, including heart disease, diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol. Healthy eating and living over the years can help protect against many health issues.
5. Feeling sorry for yourself will not attract men into your life. You can take positive steps to managing your weight through healthy eating and exercise. Obesity does not control you. If you need more help, join a support group or seek professional help.
As you move gradually toward healthier thinking and living, the past in which you felt unworthy of love will recede into your long-term memory. Find the strength to love yourself and enjoy putting yourself out there to find a man who loves you for who you are and not for what dress size you wear.
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Comments (75)
LuckyDuck2018,Xxsmilesxx
i dont like women who resemble dudes.Jessica Simpson is hot.She is quite petite but has nice curves.
this isn't news. I am not attracted to any specific weight. oh no, it is not your heart that matters, just. I want to know up and till April how you have been spending your time on you tube, and it better be educational or you're in the doghouse buddy.
Second: On dating sites 90% of over weight women LIE.....How do they lie....1: Head shots or just eyes and hair or lips...or photos of you a mile away....Or in their description....No photo but says....Curvy, Average, Rubenesque, a few pounds over. Obease
Last, being over weight is not healthy....Being overweight causes diabetics, heart disease, arthritis, spine and lumbar problems.. Over weight Parents bread over weight children.
You can glamorize being Overweight all you want...But big is not beautiful Big is a choice....Big is killing off people at an alarming rate.....No one was born to be Fat......
When you are ashamed to put the true you on a dating site then you are fooling yourself and trying to fool everyone else...It doesn't work
Be truthful to yourself and everyone else....There is someone for everyone on these sites...Hiding who you really are is not alluring or mysterious...Its just plain LYING.
OH yes you who will look me up , you will find me as Husky...I am not fat or skinny I have a waist up shot...No Big belly, no 3 chins. At 6' 1" and 230 I am husky...At 231 I will be fat...LOLOL
so i think whether you fat or not as long as you give it a run,that just fine....
Love yourself at any size
Confidence in knowing who you are and respecting yourself will attract the same
Never settle for less, if someone is with you only when your thin its not going to last anyway
Love yourself first
The general laws of attraction seem to state otherwise in relation to weight and desirability. Off course there are exceptions but the general consensus is that the more attractive and fit looking your are corresponds with desire. I mean this in the physiological arousal of human beings to each other.The psychological research seems to be evidence that we are attracted to the fit, lean and good looking mating partners because they will provide offspring good healthy off spring. This stuff is coded into our DNA so this politically correct bullshit is wrong. Again, I am saying this as someone who was badly over weight albeit i have lost a significant amount of weight. My confidence has gone up, my self esteem and I feel healthier. To be propagating this kind of bullshit is wrong. Even as an over weight man, I always always found fit beautiful women far far more attractive than an over weight woman. All my life I have experienced it amongst my friends and any man I knew that we found fit normal weight women far more attractive than an over weight woman. So please stop with the problem. You are not doing someone who is over weight any favours by speaking this bull shit crap. You are trying to normalise something that is unhealthy and damaging to someone by trying to normalise it.
to me the woman should have wide hips,curves ,long hair ,and killer smile,
or she is just a man