Ten Signs He Really Loves You

Ten Signs He Really Loves You

Do you want to know whether he really loves you? There are so many telltale signs that will indicate your boyfriend really cares about you, but here are the top ten sure signs to check whether your relationship will stand the test of time.

1. He Looks Into Your Eyes When You Talk

This sign is all about the body language. If he looks into your eyes when you talk, you know he is paying full attention to you. Obviously, this is not always practical for every conversation, especially if you are driving somewhere. However, whenever you really want to have a heart to heart discussion, he gives you his full attention, by turning his body towards you, and watching the expression on your face. This is a sign he wants to know what you are really thinking.

2. He Wants To Know About You

If your boyfriend asks about your past, your dreams, your desires (not just sexual), your wants, your needs, how you feel inspired, what you love, or anything about you that relates to your thoughts intimately as an individual, you can be very sure that he wants what is best for you. This is a very good indication he loves you.

3. He Gives You Cuddles and Caresses

While touch is more important to some people than others, casual touches that are not necessarily sexual in nature are definitely signs he is letting you know that he loves you. If he wants to hold your hand when you walk anywhere together, you can be sure he is saying with his body language that he wants to be with you.

4. He Can Comfort You When You Have a Bad Day

This is one of the most important indicators of a relationship that will stand the test of time. If you feel you can automatically turn to him when 'times are tuff', and he is able to give you comfort and help you to feel better, not worse, you have a guy who really loves you. If he gets uncomfortable when you are upset, or doesn't know what will comfort you, he is not really putting you first in the relationship. If he at least tries to comfort you, there is hope for the future.

5. He Gives You the Best Presents

Presents do not have to be expensive to be heartfelt. A present can be as simple as an email, a homemade card, or a wildflower picked from the roadside. The essence of this sign is that whenever he does give you a present, whether it is for a special event such as a birthday, or if it is just an off the cuff small gift, it is a gift that means something to you personally. He shows he cares about you by the depth of thought that goes into what you will like and he delights in giving you gifts that you just love.

6. He Makes You Feel Special

Giving you compliments about how beautiful you look is one way he will make you to feel special. It may just be that simple phone call, an email, or even a formal love letter. Whatever he does, he wants to give you pleasure and to build you up as a person. He wants to make you feel like you are the most wonderful woman in the world.

7. He Wants You to Meet His Friends and Wants to Meet Yours

Meeting friends is about wanting to be a part of each other's lives. If he wants to meet your friends, and spends time getting to know the people who are important in your life, he really does love you. If he enjoys being with your friends, and makes you feel comfortable and a part of the group when you are with his friends, you can be sure he wants to be in your life for a long time.

8. He Makes You Laugh and Enjoy Life

You actually look forward to spending time with him, because you know you will have fun. Being able to laugh together and have fun is part of every good relationship. If he cannot share the joy of life with you easily, he won't be able to cope with the hard times that will inevitably come your way too. Even in the difficult times, he somehow can make you smile, through your tears. This is because he loves you and wants you to be happy. He gets a joy from seeing the excitement and pleasure in your expression, so he works to make you laugh.

9. He Loves Spending Time with You

He treats you as his best friend. He can be quite happy spending time with just the two of you, and doesn't have to have a million other people around all the time. He makes excuses to see you, and just thoroughly enjoys being around you. He tells you his own thoughts, dreams, and is able to share ideas with you comfortably. He also turns to you when he is sad, or needs comfort too.

10. He Says He Loves You

Okay, it can be very easy to say those three words "I love you", but if he says it when you are not expecting it, or if he says it first, he wants to tell you that he really cares about you. If he only says I love you when he wants to be physically intimate with you, or if you always say it first, and he only says it in reply, because that is what you expect, he may not really care deeply. He may not even need to say the words, because he knows you know how he feels about you, but just has to say it anyway.

If you see evidence of these ten signs in your relationship, and you know the signs are done without purpose or gain, your relationship is built on the foundation of true love. You can be sure of your relationship when he truly wants to please you, and honestly shows that he enjoys being with you in many ways.

Comments (19)

whitelily1
Ooh I wish i still can feel those signs i miss ..smitten

The one who use to show his attention and affection is gone
He is an angel angel
Brianebartlett
I can do most of those things with a girl, and I agree with those reasons...only problem is...no girl to do those things to.

Good reasons. Keep up the good work.
sariayu
Oh really i agree with this article. I wish i met such this man hehe
twinself
The article is ace. The problem is: Where are these kind of men hiding?dunno
heartonsleeve83
what happens when all of these qualities randomly dissapear in time? (some of which are relatively normal due to time) however in particular last 6 months and several attempts to talk ,communicate etc these feelings of noticing lack of interest,desire,affection and getting shot down each time . Leading to warnings (in form of nice,loving conversation)that ok, hitting the point of considering these times i try to speak, get avoided, im coming to you with flat out warnings that i know in time these things will mess with any persons head as well as in further time cause me to be pushed so far away from you, i myself will start to become cold and lose feelings of "in love" to complete resentment. I even took a different approach with this man than any in the past, he was worth the work, effort,change,sacrifice, and growth on my behalf to be the best woman i could be for him. That growth was very very challenging. While the complete transformation was never once acknowledged to begin with (which hurt) it didnt do me any good other than now feeling like im more lonely than i knew was possible and being on the verge of this precious love and foundation WE built going down the tubes...This is only a blurb of stuff so with not knowing the story, my question originally was this....what happens when all of the above numbered qualities disapear?

*was raised to cherish "real love" and do anything and everything in your power to work until you either get it right or decide to mutually part....for all intensive purposes...real love doesnt part ways.ever.*
mpetera
@ wannabeinlove

* Love yourself just as really as you love another. This is the love you are then able to also share.

* Live in the present. If it's happening, it's real.

* Live without fear. Fear can destroy all things, including yourself, another person, a relationship, a family. Watch for feelings of fear, we all suffer from it, and take steps to replace it with peace, acceptance and love. Meditation can help immensely with this.

* There are many reasons a relationship may change in ways you may prefer did not happen, and which may not involve a lack of integrity on the part of another. In some cases there is nothing we can do about it, so again our love of self, and management of fear, are the best defences against feelings of loss.

I feel your predicament. It is exquisite, almost bitter-sweet; the razor's edge between unspeakable pleasure (though you did a fine job describing your predicament, beautiful to read) and wracking pain. Walk it with grace and enjoy the moments, it is these moments that enrich our lives, we can never "possess" them.
wannabeinlove
Two months ago I met a man who is just amazing, fun-loving and quite the intelligent rascal! He lives an hour away, comes out to see me here, makes sure we have time spent in open spaces as well as in public with plenty of talking time....

I could not ask for more. He loves to dance, makes sure I am comfortable, and he loves to LISTEN. He told me in the beginning, that I listen to him and that I remember everything, that he was shocked and impressed. He related also that listening is the key to understanding and being heard. Wow. A guy like this? Yep.

We have had long dates, once a week, for 8 weeks now. Last week he told me he loved me . . . looking straight into my eyes, addressing me by my first name, too. I , just, went whirly-gig.

I was falling in love with him, but didn't know if or when to say anything, you know? I am 46, been through life's gauntlet, and just gave up. Then along comes Mr. Wonderful, loving, gentle, flirty, intelligent, smiles all the time, never takes his eyes off me, when we walk, he has my hand or a hand around my waist in the most loving manner. No, he's not a weirdo. We skype each night for a couple hours, and keep in contact throughout the day. We are so alike in our thinking, movements, preferences, it shocks the both of us. Unreal. When we walk and I stop to look in a window, he stops to see what interests me each time, and after I keep walking, I notice in the window's reflections that he took an extra note of the shop name and what was in the window. ?????

He is coming in a few hours to pick me up, take me out to breakfast, go to the beach, and take me for dinner-dancing til late. alllll day. Know what he said when we were hanging up on skype?
"Oh... I will sleep 7 hours, get up, walk the dog, shower, pack the car, and come out to see you. I will leave the house by 8.30. Oh, gosh, I want to see you so much. I can't believe today is already here, been a week. Each day goes so slow at work, I can't wait for them to be over so I can see you. "


He makes my tummy all full of butterflies, his too. He wants to know if i am okay after a discussion of any sort, watches my face. Always calmly sits down next to me...listening intently, doing the mental information math. Incredible.

Yes we are in love, I just don't know what I did to deserve this man to seamlessly enter my life, become my best friend, and all the wonderful things he does to me, he gets right back.

I want to show him. He takes me out so late in the night, and then drives back over an hour back home, so I got him a room for tomorrow so he can stay and leave in the morning. I live with parents again for a bit while starting over, and this man does not care!

Is there something I am not seeing here? Hate the old adage, but if it's too good to be true... well, but he's wonderful.

Help?

How can I show him how much I love him? Im just.... speechless. He's melted all the ice crystals around my heart...........
manroe23
Thanks for sharing this wine
stareyes
I may meet my BF soon this year end.

even so, i feel my BF like what you describes here. specially no.4
when i had an argument and close to fight to someone here(in my country), and i told my BF by mail that i would come to fight with him(person who make me angry), my BF text me say: can i call you now?. Please i need to talk to you...(this what he said over the text messages)

I said no, no need. I know what i will do...by then, i felt nasty, what kind of women am i?...then i called him, to say sorry. i didn't go to fight...i kept my anger and in fact i felt comfort by hearing his voice over the phone and make me feel: I released all my angry....

Good Article Connecting singles.....

PS: He Do not mind, when i saw him to 5 friend of mine on web cam chat.
I never say love to him...even though he did...i just say i like him. for about 1 month at first of relationship Until i feel i am ready...and i did now.
He gave me his home phone number, his office. and i did too after. He send me his vacation picture with his family, and i did after.

Do you think he really love me?

i am sure by my heart and feelings. I told him i do not want to hope much, he said he will not give me a hope...but reality. will see.

By the way, i met him over the other social site, similar with CS
ginger1959
This has helped me in so many ways.....
And feel better after reading it...

All the best,
Ginger
Gem0671
I know this exists because I've seen it just haven't experienced it. If only I'd read this years ago I may not have wasted so much time on deadbeats. Then highly likely I would have found some way to justify their lack of support/commitment/love. sigh frustrated Was always accepting of those who made me an option while they were my priority. Ah the good ol' days. moping scold Now I'm their priority or I'm not at all. Simple. peace And it works! thumbs up

Good luck to all...grin lips hug
CircularMotion
I was skeptical when perusing this article because I thought 'Hang on a minute, there isn't a hard and fast, universal criteria that measures what love is, for gods sake'; but even so - having read this I will say that personally speaking, I more or less agree with these ten basic tenets.

After reading this it confirmed what I have suspected for a long, long time. I say 'suspected', but what I mean is 'felt'. I have only been able to answer 'yes' to one of these questions regarding my (now ex) boyfriend. After six years its depressing: but the realisation that, had I read this through during the first year of our relationship - I still would have only been able to answer 'yes' to one of the questions - is even more so.

I have been making excuses for his lack of support/committment/sensitivity for years, and it is time to stop.

Point 4, the comfort thing, really made me sad: if things go wrong for me he blames me - and seems to underpley or ignore what I have achieved.

Jesus - what a sad and desperate woman I must have been.

Anyway. Heres to the future! wine
CircularMotion
I was skeptical when perusing this article because I thought 'Hang on a minute, there isn't a hard and fast, universal criteria that measures what love is, for gods sake'; but even so - having read this I will say that personally speaking, I more or less agree with these ten basic tenets.

After reading this it confirmed what I have suspected for a long, long time. I say 'suspected', but what I mean is 'felt'. I have only been able to answer 'yes' to one of these questions regarding my (now ex) boyfriend. After six years its depressing: but the realisation that, had I read this through during the first year of our relationship - I still would have only been able to answer 'yes' to one of the questions.

I have been making excuses for his lack of support/committment/sensitivity for years, and it is time to stop.

Point 4, the comfort thing, really made me sad: if things go wrong for me he blames me - and seems to underpley or ignore what I have achieved.

Jesus - what a sad and desperate woman I must have been.

Anyway. Heres to the future! wine
teree
Thank you Connecting Singles, thanks...teddybear
CjTenorSax
I agree with this. It is a very good post and so true as well. I needed this reminder, thank you.thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up
steph89
i think all 10 are correct but finding that mr right feels so impossible,

question how do u know if he means it or not when he tell u he loves u how do u know its not fake???

the surch is a long road wondering when it ends to all out there good luck and b safe

xxx steph
maysdad
I had all these qualities with my partner...but when her eldest daughter says "its him or me" because shes losing the control she has over her mother guess the outcome... spiteful kids or parents not giving them the values for later life ? doh
fisherqueen
I came across this list and read it.....For many years I thought there could never be a man out there who fit just a small amout of these qualities...and yet because of connecting singles I found my soon to be husband who met all ten qualities and has created a list all his own, keep looking singles your match is out there and you will be able to read this passage and say the same......Thank you Connecting Singles.....
HotrodLarrys
I have found in my 48 yrs, all these things to be very acurate, I have spent much time studing Love and relationships, a 6 month Biblical study of love , Marriage , Divorice, Bound , under bondage, watched a few Tapes on relationships, and I am not perfect about it, tho studying about relationships has taught me so much! wish more people would take the time to do thisuh oh

But many wont have any part of learning , and wonder why things dont work for them, Study Now will help you keep the right one when you finally find them.
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