Does Real Love exist??????
by alexguitarCentennial, Colorado, USA Aug 2009 16,234 Views 37 Comments
Many of you would say, yes indeed, I'd say no. It's easy to believe love exists because of movies like Twilight or The Notebook. They are just movies. I don't wanna sound negative but nowadays love is understood from a different point of view. When I fall in love deeply, I give 100%, If I gonna do something, I do it right. That might be the problem, giving the best of you, giving everything is a lethal weapon; I really believe no woman is in the same page I am. What's wrong being romantic? What's wrong calling your girlfriend when you feel bad or depressed because you had a terrible day at work and need some support? What's wrong thinking of driving at 7am on a weekday to her place and handing her her favorite cup of coffee from Starbucks as a surprise ??Having a relationship when everything is romance it might sounds awsome but real love is shown when the couple is going trhu problems and the key is to work them out together. Many times I think love is not for me due the fact women are not in the same page I am, among some other million of reasons. Im not perfect and nobody is, you must remember when you are in a relationship there's must be balance all the time. For ex: if you are on top of details, if you call her when she's sick, if you are there for here when she might feel down for anything, you'd expect kind of the same thing from her to you. Im not trying to say we must give thinking we must always receive. It's about common sense and justice. When you give 100% of your heart to someone, your girlfriend must do the same on her way of course otherwise, there's not a balance and the relationship will fall apart sooner or later. Life is so unffair but I guess there's nothing you can do. I've been criticised so much for being a romantic man and for giving all my best and sweet feelings when I fall in love. Guess what???? I don't give a s... what other people think, Im a honest man, romantic and the woman who wants to be with me must like it and live with it the same way I'd accept her character, but please stop playing with our feelings and dreams. i thought my hapiness arrived to my life but I was wrong, everything was a dream I woke up, I am alone again. I don't pretend to be dramatic and if I am, I don't give a d.... Im pretty sure million of men are wondering the same: Why a devoted man like me got this ending???? I was always loyal to her, never lied, I was a gentelman, I'll never understand it, if someone has the answer please let me know , I have so much love to give and no woman gets it, no woman appreciate it ! Thanks for reading!
Alexguitar
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OP, you are committing the fallacy of equivocation, or else you are not making sense.
You open by saying that real love does not exist, (as a concept, as a feeling, as a something) and then later you say that real love is shown when... and you state a number of conditions.
This is something you must be aware of when you write: the logical constructs must fit. You can't say that something does not exist, and then continue with the understanding that it exists.
If this situation arises, you must state how a number of occurrances of the same term in your text are different in meaning. You shouldn't let the reader figure out for himself that you are okay. You must give that impression ab ovo if you want to be read by serious readers.
Also; showing up at 7am with my favorite coffee on a regular basis would feel more like mistrust than love.
All this drama ( and they say it's women
Giving a woman diamonds and calling yourself generous is not true if she wanted a burritto. mistrust is not love it is insecutity.
Men and women should get together to lift each other and their spiritsup; not to dump all their crap on each other. Everybody has bad things happen to them. It is not what happens to you but how you handle it.
Whatever you believe – you are exactly right!
Yes, I do believe that real love exist because real love exist in my heart. As Jadire quoted “Love is patient, love is kind, does not envy, does not boast. It is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self seeking, not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres, love endures and Love never fails. I have experienced true love twice and I know how beautiful it is to love and to be loved. God took the first one after three years and the second got involved with another woman while on his overseas business post. For peace in my heart and to be fair on him – we agreed to end the marriage. I believe grudges and anger are poison to my body and I don’t want any of it, so I have to let go with all my heart. We are human to make mistakes so I have forgiven him and given him my blessings to be happy.
The experienced of being cheated was painful but it will not stop me from loving if I fall in love again. I believe that true love exists and that what is for me and who is for me will never pass me by. The right person will come. I will never know from where but will come on the right time.
All I can say is that it is hard to find true love when you are in a rush. Be patient. Take time to get to know someone either from CS or from somewhere. Know if you have the same values. Know if things that are important to you are also important to him/her. There are things in our life we can let go but there are also values that we hold on dearly with no compromise. Good communication is very important. Treat everyone with care and respect. Yes, there will be someone out there that will take advantage of your kindness – evaluate the relationship from acquaintance if it’s worth taking to friendship level. From here you will know if it is worth pursuing to the next level not just from your point of view and what you feel but from the other persons feelings as well. Relationships can happen sometimes in an instant with the right person but mostly it does happen when you are not looking for it. Enjoy life and enjoy the experience. All the best to you all..
true ", or that the destination you can think of ourselves in the place and time
precise in which we encounter with this "half " to make us
happily ever after, like a movie, because in reality anyone can create in the time you choose and can have as many as you want.
"Yes there is the love of your life, but you decide who and what you get when there is a commitment by both parts if you want and value yourself and the other is perceived"
One common mistake is to become a chameleon for fear of not being accepted, "begin to act and show someone you're not. "
Those who are "waiting "for the love of his life analyzing what has been wrong and change it before blaming the destination.
People must learn to know each other well, trust themselves, be safe, valued, understand who they are, mature, be loyal and true to themselves, grow, be accepted, wanting to love each other and then another, and commit to live an intense , Passionate and true love
If you pursue it,.it will elude you,.
If you forget about it,.
It will come and rest gently on your shoulder,.
Yes, Real Love exists...when you give it. Not to say, ok, give/receive. No. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." It is enduring. "Love covers all sin".
In my opinion, if we are expecting love, then we will not ever receive real love ----it is a fallacy to expect not to be hurt/betrayed ...even accidently. But we can give real love, can't we? And, to me, thats the only "real love" that exists----that which you yourself give, not what you yourself expect.
Jade
Real Love does exist. But we always find at the end, we met wrong person to shares, so it become a bad experienced for us and came up like your questioned, does real love exist?.
I didn;t yet found this real love, but i always keep my positif thinking, that real love are exist. someday, somehow, no matter how old the world will be, you will get it. If don't atleast enought for us to give out our "real love inside us" to others, that mean REAL LOVE DOES EXIST, from OUR SELF.
Cheers
Dee
Its really not that no woman gets it, its about some people not getting it, and as we can not tell until we really know someone we should not in the first instance give everything to someone we cannot possible know will appreciate it: in time yes, when you know they deserve it.
Weve all made this mistake, myself recently too, and now hes with someone who lies and cheats to him, what he gave out came back to him - and your gentlemanlyness will come back to you with the right person.
Just dont rush in.
Don't ever give up.... true love certainly does exist.. though it may not seem that way now... There are so many women who are looking for someone with your attitude and sincerity... just relax, don't try too hard, as the harder you look, the longer it seems to take. Put yourself out there in the right places, and I'm sure someone special will turn up when you least expect it!!! You certainly deserve it.
Best of luck!
Survival and all that.
What doesn't kill you, only makes you stranger
Centennial, Colorado USA
Please start all over again just like a common man!
and read, WhovianGeneva Geneva, Geneve Switzerland
again.
Simon Dannie
She is probably very very pretty. Pretty girls can rip your heart out.
All the same I hope you two find an avenue back together .. it sounds like you love her .. and she probably loves you, too .. in other words love exists - you are in the throes of it and you are very young, it matures when you get older :)
almost six years later im still single but i have started to feel this feeling of love in just the same way i felt while happily married,for supportive friends and my children,it fills me up and makes me happy,and sooo much more giving to everyone around me.
i believe we can create this feeling inside ourselves,the more we give and take from the type of people who value and want this love and reciprocate the more we can produce.
the main thing to consider is who we put close to us.
pouring your love and good feelings into a vacum is so obviously a mistake.
its a simple thing,and common sense to give your love to those who want and value your gift enough to give you a gift of their own.
I though I picked a great man when I married 27 years ago.
I am now single and pine for that one true love. I have seen it in some couples but not many.
It is said you don't need a man to be happy, but a real love where everyday you wish to make your partner happy and they wish the same for you must be just the best way to travel through life.
I hope one day this will be true for me.
So yes, although we find ourselves on this endless journey of love in search of love and EXceptance...The truth is that love - True love can not be found if we search for it in a forceful way from another.. But by seeking Gods face and letting patience have her perfect work in you- through spirital surgery... God will release the one "HE" has created you to be with and not you...
So let's all get out of Gods way, try to lean on him for love and guidence and not between sweaty sheets that don't belong between your legs in the first place...i love you... do you? do you know who you truly are... and "WHO'S" you are???
Minabee
You create your world with your thoughts and beliefs. You have what you want.....
I believe that real love exists, of course I had some big deceptions, even lately, but it has made me stronger and gave me some experience I would not have without it.
Good luck to all those who believe they have found their 'love'
xx
They still are there for each other and love spending time with each other, but they also have different hobbies and intrests. For example, my dad likes to go on hunting trips (sometimes to Bolivia). My mother never kicks up a fuss because she knows that is one of his passions. Sure she misses him, but she's glad he's having fun. Same is true of dad. Mom likes to get her four sisters together and go somewhere they've never been. Dad knows she's enjoying herself. It's amazing because they have total trust and honesty between each other.
The also have discussions about current events and always talk to each other after 53 years. To me, that's perfect.
Be patient, you will find one.
Good luck
Love is not a one way street but there is always one that gives more than the other.
There has to be some kind of balance to really make a relationship work because it won't be fair then.
That's why communication is so important from the begining and see the expectations from one another, don't dig to deep into your next relationship, be patient, be friends get to know each other more.
See if that is the right person for you as it will be for her.
Not many men believe in love like you do and want to expose themselves as you do.
Good luck!
Anything I could dream of doing would be stomped on in an effort to stop me from fulfilling what I wanted to do. I am intelligent, friendly, and still willing to give love a chance if it comes along again.
I can relate very well to what you are saying.