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Don’t Be a Booty Call – How to Avoid Being Played

Dont Be a Booty Call How to Avoid Being Played

Is he into you or are you just a booty call? Don't agree to a "friends with benefits" arrangement expecting more in the future. It probably won't happen, and you may very well lose a friend in the process.

Although some hookups evolve into real relationships, they are the exception. Guys who are into booty calls usually just want to have sex without spending much time or money. Inevitably someone hotter will come along, or he may actually fall in love with someone else. When that happens, you are history.

Warning Signs

Determine whether you ever actually go out on dates. Whether he asks and you accept or you ask and he accepts, it's all good. However, if he only texts you late at night and never calls, he's keeping his emotional distance from you. Keep in mind that it's possible to text someone while actually talking to someone else. If he only contacts you to get together on short notice, it's a sign that you have a low priority in his life, and you are probably being played.

Notice what happens after you hook up. If he cuddles you before falling asleep, you're probably fine. Rolling over and falling asleep is not necessarily a deal-breaker. Sex is physically demanding for men; falling asleep afterward is more about exhaustion than how he feels about you. However, if he jumps up immediately after doing the deed to check his email, or seems anxious for you to leave in the morning, that's a bad sign.

You may have more at risk than having your heart broken with casual hooking up. Unprotected sexual contact with someone who has multiple partners is a major factor in the spread of sexually transmitted disease. If you decide to hook up, insist on using contraception, including condoms, to avoid unplanned pregnancy and STDs.

Comments (7)

TallDark69
I respectfully disagree with some of this outdated article.
Before any man take a ride on my booty, they better bring authentic medical records.

If they do, it could be a sign that they will be ready to be in a committed relationship.
Amicablesmiles
It's always best to get to know someone before opening your legs.
NOSTRUS
Sadly it's fact of life today You won't be able to tell in advance whether you know them a day a week a month or a year . They are commitment phobic sad creatures who just like the thrill of the chase . They end up alone and forever looking and thinking it's bad luck they're still single never married no kids .if he's a bachelor and over 45 yrs he's going to stay that way . If he's 50 plus and a bachelor and you're looking for long-term run run run .Lots of them online on dating sites with sob stories of why they never married or had kids . It's cos they're too selfish or screwed up no matter what kind of spin they put on it . If he's very good looking has money run even faster in fact don't even bother looking he's a player .
heavenfangels34
i agree . this happened to me just recent . i was freinds with a guy for little over three yrs .and we talked about everything . the problem with it is i felt like a dumping ground. he had more than one female freind he was hanging out with . and i did not care until i started really like it and we went to far one night and he did not care the next day
buckeye1332
If time and time again you are attracted to a certain "type" and the results lead you to be played, used as a booty call, or hurt in general, I think it is time to change your tactics and not seek out that type of person. If these things have happened to you, then you should be aware of the signs and be able to see them coming long before you are hurt.

I have been hurt a few times. I've been played and used. I don't really have a particular "type" of woman I seek out, just "particular qualities in a woman I seek. I think I have honed my senses thru my experiences, and I have become pretty good at spotting a bad one at a distance.
FreddyFudpucker
There are times I feel so used. yawn

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