Is it time to end your relationship?
It's nearly impossible to gauge ahead of time with any accuracy whether or not a relationship will work out. Everything seems great at first, but then something happens to change that. So how do you know if you are in a bad relationship? There are a few telltale signs that will assist you in deciding whether to persist in trying to work things out or simply call a spade a spade and get out.
Are you arguing all the time? Arguing is expected in any relationship, so we should first consider the topic of the arguments. Is one person angry with the other for a specific reason? It may be that the relationship can be saved through counseling or honest conversations that resolve the issue. Is arguing part of your daily lives for no apparent reason? If you simply disagree about every detail of life, it might be time to think about ending the relationship. If that's all you seem to do with your partner, ending a bad relationship may very well bring back an important part of life; peace of mind.
Are you always in fear of angering your partner? If you can't live a normal life without fear of recourse by your partner, you may be entering into dangerously possessive relationship territory. Ending a bad relationship may seem frightening if you are intimidated by your partner. However, it is your personal happiness at stake and the break up feelings will pass with time. It might be best to seriously consider the future benefits of ending a bad relationship.
Does your partner dictate your every move? A person's desire to control you is always born of their desire to control themselves. The problem here is that most people can't see that for what it is and simply put the blame on others. If your partner is telling you what to do and exerts control over the details of life, consider ending the relationship. Ending a bad relationship is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself.
Are you made to feel inferior by your partner? Anyone who belittles you is exerting control and manipulating your emotions. Ending a bad relationship for this reason is one thing you can do to not only regain self-respect, but command the respect of that person. In this instance, ending a bad relationship can be empowering and provide a completely different emotion; superiority that can only come form making a personal decision to have a better life.
There are many indicators that a relationship has come to its fate. Ending a bad relationship, especially, is difficult if you are an object of possession. Making the decision to end a relationship should be based on your personal happiness and desire to be with your partner. If you are being controlled, manipulated, or otherwise mistreated, you are in a bad relationship and you have a choice. Ending a bad relationship is not an easy task, however the benefits of doing so may far outweigh discomfort you live with everyday in the relationship.
Comments (5)
As soon as I put that ring on her finger, she seemed to get worse, she was bipolar too, which made things worse...I didn`t know it until too late!!!
We were married for 6 years, 6 years of hell, most of the time, we have talked since from time to time, but that seems to be it, she reminded me not long ago that this year would've been our 10th wedding anniversary, too bad, had she been less possessive it could've been, had I not been so much in love with her while we were dating, I could`ve easily dumped her when I had hints of her true self. Maybe she just wanted to make sure she had me `locked up before she started her possessive self.
Great article, I appreciated reading it, too bad it came after the damage was done, maybe I should have seen the indications coming while we were still dating.
My advice: Make sure youre really in love with each other, resolve any differences peacefully, watch for the warning signs before you tie the knot. Some knots are very hard to get untied.
Thanks again.
Thanks again excellent article.