!!!! You're angry at the scum sucking low-life ex who just dumped you! You thought it would last a lifetime! You believed in the bond the two of you had forged! You waited.. you nurtured.. you saw your partner through hellish days and rejoiced in the successes.. but now you find yourself on the outside and the glass is too foggy to even see in and you're miffed as heck! With emotions about to erupt into a volcano of nasty thoughts and deeds it's time to draw a deep breath and let it out slowly. Moving in the direction of dirty deeds done in discontent will hurt you more in the end. Just don't do it!
Even though your former SO (significant other) may have horns sprouting from the head with a tail slithering behind; bad mouthing the demon to anyone who will listen is not cool. Keep your lethal opinions regarding an ex for the ears of close friends only.
"Why don't you love me? Why won't you just give me a chance? Please...please..." Calling your former live-in every hour on the hour pleading, begging, and whining only makes you look desperate and like something of a lunatic. Stop that hand from reaching for the phone, don't punch in those numbers. Back away from the communication device. This includes emails or sending off heart wrenching love letters and notes via snail mail. OH... and if you get the idea that instead of calling the ex you'll call the new love interest, forget it.
In the same vein as the endless caller is the drunk dialer. You know the scenario...you've been out for the evening with friends drinking Margaritas and taking shots of Tequila. You go home happily toasted and then you turn into a driveling drunk. You begin calling every person on your direct dialing list until you hit the mark... the ex. You cry if you're sad or rage if you're mad. Friends don't let friends dial drunk.
As angry as you may be thou shalt not slash tires, key cars, or damage the property of the lost love. Any of these get-even methods may land you in serious trouble that involves lawyers, a judge, and vast amounts of ready cash. Just play it smart and keep your hands off the property of the one you detest.
Three really mean, nasty tricks to play on an ex involves more serious issues and they're just not worth the effort. Refrain from the urge to stalk to your former lover. Stalking is illegal, darn scary, and if you do, please seek the help of a professional immediately. Getting the attention of your ex by threatening suicide only reveals how fragile you've become. It may gain you a brief sympathetic respite, but it just won't work in the long run. The third trick is directed toward the ladies. Do not form a plan in your mind to fake a pregnancy to win him back. He'll figure it out after nine months and you will have wasted your time.
You pass a florist one day and decide that the dog that left you deserves a reminder of how much you loathe the thought of your former life. Without further adieu you waltz into the shop and have a box of dead flowers sent off. While this may be a rather humorous way to show your anger, it's going to cost you money so why bother? Finally, don't buy a pet snake, pit bull, spider, or some other poor animal to get back at the dumper. For heaven's sake...think of the animal! Show some pity for the animals of the world and just let it go.
Rise above the milieu of an unjust world that batters you some days with the end of a long relationship. If you feel the anger rising from the gut like the heat from a hot, paved sidewalk in July.. call a friend. Vent to trusted friends and family. Rage to a therapist. Write an angry letter and then tear it to shreds. Abuse a pillow: punch it, scream in it, throw it, or slam it. Eat ice cream, chocolate, or whatever your favorite comfort food is. Go for a walk, a run, go bowling, go fishing, skating, skiing, snowboarding, climbing, parachuting...you get the idea. Just go do something physical. Clean the house, clean the garage, take a bath. Just don't do it, don't buy into self-destructive behaviors that end up costing more than it's worth in money and your reputation.
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Comments (12)
IF YOU WERE DUMPED ITS BECAUSE YOU WERE FERAL
You will always get hurt if you do. My opinion only.
Thank you for this lovely article. God bless you.