While most Americans do not wait until their wedding night to consummate their relationship, there is value in the notion of waiting. In American culture, the idea of waiting to engage in sexual intercourse seems old-fashioned and outdated; however, modern women should know that there is a benefit to making a man earn his prize. While many people may argue that a woman's virtue is not a prize to be won, it does not lessen the fact that men are natural hunters. Take away the hunt, and the man's role in the relationship will immediately change into something either unidentifiable or unlikely to appeal to the majority of women who enjoy being courted and treasured.
When a man courts a woman, he puts his best foot forward in pursuit of winning her over. If a woman abstains from engaging in sexual relations during this period, the man will continue to court her. Many men would still court a woman even if she slept with him early on in the relationship. However, the majority of men are more likely to pursue a woman and take her out on dates before they achieve the homerun in the bedroom. If a woman is smart, she will extend the waiting period for as long as she desires to be courted.
Many men just try to get lucky. They do not want to put in the effort to nurture a budding relationship. If a woman sleeps with this kind of man too early, she runs the risk of being used. When a woman wants to be in a committed relationship, it is important to weed out the men who are not ready for serious romantic involvement. By keeping her legs closed, a woman can see the quality of the man who is pursuing her. If he is only after the chase, he will eventually give up and pursue an easier target.
When sex is involved from the beginning of a courtship, both men and women can get lost in passion and miss signs of incompatibility in their partner. It is necessary to know who someone is outside of the bedroom before engaging in mind-blowing activity. Being abstinent is similar to having a sober mind. After spending a reasonable amount of quality time with a woman, a man should be able to form an opinion on her qualities without relying on sexual performance and preference.
For women who are relationship-oriented, the only way to get a man to really invest in a forming a serious bond is to capture his mind and heart. If abstinence proves difficult, women should remember that waiting for intimacy will only make the consummation of the relationship sweeter for both parties.
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