Solving Any Relationship Problem

Relationships are made more exciting by the disagreements and complications that arise. Being agreeable 100% of the time makes the partnership boring and predictable. Relationship issues, however, should never escalate to such a level that they become a major problem. It is essential to know how to work around your personal differences. It is important to know how to properly communicate and come to an amicable solution.

Here are some tips and suggestions on how to maintain a healthy relationship:

Tip Number One: Never Yell

Yelling at each other does not resolve anything. It actually aggravates the situation and makes the issue more difficult to resolve. Shouting and screaming at each other shows mutual disrespect. Things are better resolved with a calm, reasonable tone. It is a good relationship rule to agree never to scream or yell at each other no matter how heated an argument gets.

Tip Number Two: Be Specific

In any argument, you must learn how to focus on the issue and avoid irrelevant subjects. Identify the main issue and let your partner know how you feel. Being specific about your complaint or grievance will allow your partner the opportunity to provide specific rebuttals. It will prevent you from veering away from the issue at hand. It is also easier to resolve problems if they are addressed one issue at a time.

Always agree to focus on one issue or problem at a time. It will be very challenging, but it will result in more resolved issues. If your partner starts to introduce a new issue or problem in the course of the discussion, politely remind him or her that you need to focus on a specific topic.

Tip Number Three: Watch Your Language

In any argument, there are words that you should avoid using. The words "always" and "never" tend to generalize things and give an air of exaggeration. These words can also make your partner defensive and can lead to retaliation. Talking in absolutes will make you lose track of the issue at hand, and will make you argue about bigger things that are not easily resolved.

Insults and profanities will also aggravate any argument. Calling your partner "stupid" will only enrage her and will make communication more difficult. Name-calling is also a disrespectful act and will destroy your relationship in the long run. When your partner starts hurling profanities at you, it would be better to stop her at her tracks and discuss the problem at a later time.