4 Adjustments That Will Help You Get Married in the Next Year
Although many daters want to date in order to get married, many do not know how to place themselves in a position to get married to a good match. There are some daters who end up marrying someone just to get married, and that's rarely a good thing. It is possible to meet someone who is perfect for you. Although you may have a purpose in mind as you date, you may not be living in a such a way that you can achieve your purpose. If that is the case, your purpose is mostly wishful thinking. You could get lucky and find someone who's just right for you, but usually you need to harmonize your experience with someone you would be happy to marry. The four adjustments that follow will help increase the odds that you will get married in the next year.
1. Take Some Time Off
Life gets so busy sometimes that it's easy to forget what your goals are. It can be easy to forget what you actually want for yourself when it comes to the people you date. You can get so caught up in just finding people to date that it's not clear exactly what you are searching for. It's okay to take a month off from dating to reconnect with yourself. Take some time to self-reflect and meditate on what's important to you. It's hard to find what you are looking for in another person when you get disconnected from yourself. Take time to visit family and close friends, because they are the people who usually help you see who you are and what's important. Once you are again clear on what you want in yourself, you will know what you want in a partner. You can then avoid dates with people who are obviously not fitting the mold.
2. Become What You Want in Another
As you develop a clearer picture of what you want from yourself and a partner, start doing things to become the person you want to be. If you want to live a healthy lifestyle and want a partner who does the same, make any adjustments in your own diet and activities that would prohibit that. If you want to attract a really fit partner but aren't fit yourself, join a gym and get into shape. Developing the characteristics in yourself that you want in another will help you attract that in another person. It will also help you understand a person better with the characteristics that attract you if you have them incorporated into your own life. This common ground will make it much easier to socialize with the people you want to attract. This adjustment is all about understanding the laws of attraction—like attracts like.
3. Be Proactive in Positive Development
Sometimes finding the perfect person to date isn't about going out and looking specifically to date. Once you have a clear picture of what you want and start working towards developing positive traits, you can be aggressive in your personal development. If there are activities that you think would help you become the person you want to be, those activities will usually include people with similar interests. If you want to learn how to be a better cook, you can take a cooking class. Although you shouldn't necessarily be looking to meet someone to date in the class, you will be among others who are active in developing new skills and have similar interests. As you add many development activities to your life, you will add many social contacts that may lead directly or indirectly to meeting quality people. Sometimes the best way to find what you're looking for is to be engaged in good things and not try to force the issue.
4. Learn Patience and Consistency
Instead of forcing love, you can allow it to come into your life. As you implement the previous three adjustments, it's important to be patient and consistent in those adjustments. It can be tempting to get back into your old routine of going to bars, parties, and blind dating to find what you're seeking; however, living in an upward way of improvement and active involvement in good things will bring dating opportunities into your life. Quality dates may take more time to come, but they will come if you are patient. When you meet people you'd like to date, allow for friendship to develop before diving heavily into romantic activities. Lasting relationships always have the solid foundation of friendship. Jumping right into the physical elements of relationships before the spiritual, emotional, and intellectual elements can blossom will make it difficult to have a relationship built on a lasting footing.
Life isn't about rushing from one event to another, and that's particularly true with love. Just because some of your friends have gotten married, doesn't mean you have to be married right away. As you improve your life and allow quality people to come into your life, have fun and enjoy the experience. There are no guarantees that these adjustments will get you married within a year, but it is likely you will have many opportunities to meet the kind of man or woman you will really enjoy spending time with. Even if you do just bring in new and wonderful friends, the adjustments will be worth the effort and sacrifice.