I have been told by apparent scammers that I am 'the paragon of beauty', 'most beautiful girl' and 'I am in love with you, I am'. The majority of my flowerbox bouquets have been from apparent 'scammers'.
Why are other men not so willing to express themselves? Hmm.. I'll take honest expression and chivalry anyday! Perhaps there is something for the average man to learn here from these other men.
Oh, sure, they want something from you, but at least those labeled 'scammers' express themselves openly.. ha. What happened to manners, men? Holding doors and taking care of a woman because you WANT to, not because you want something in return?
Consider this: There is nothing wrong with wanting to be taken care of and caring for someone in return. If you do not wish to do this, why are you on a dating site?
Most men, upon hearing that a woman wants security, thinks 'golddigger'. As someone who was raised in an upper-middle-class family, my cousins married a doctor and a lawyer respectively, AFTER the women had built up their own career with good salaries and even bought their own home at age 24-25! Many polls have shown that a wealthy, successful man wants to marry a woman who has her own career and money.
Supporting your wife and 'letting' her stay at home and be a homemaker is done out of genuine love sometimes, you know. They line the streets of the neighborhoods I was raised in.
Just food for thought. Many men who are willing to do this, and wish to be cared for in return, are often happily married right now.
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seems to me your perfect soul mate is a scammer.
You should run with it. Obviously men who are not scammers fail to rise to your expectations. If someone likes blond hair only, why date a red head and force them to dye their hair blond?
Also, do you treat 'scammers' differently or 'other men' who all day long get told to treat females as independent and equal or face the full consequences of the legal system?
You want them to take care of you. Is that until you decide you no longer want them to take care of you?
Consider this, a scammer never says goodbye on the relationship. A scammer never says a harsh word in reply. A scammer always acts as it you are number one, and he is number two.
nenew, sounds to me like your perfect match. You should always run with your strengths. W.
One can lay in PJ and write, then turn off the machine and talk to another the next day.
Wonder if the scammers think people don't notice ' WE DO NOTICE '
One person can have about 40 profiles, you block one then they try to contact you with another profile, the pattern is easy to notice....
But that aside, lets answer your question.
A scammer is someone who says what they think you want to hear to give them what they want.
They are NOT open with their emotions (it is all a lie to get your money/bank account info)
They are NOT honest with you (they simply say what normally gets them your money/bank account info)
They are NOT complimentary in what they say (It is simply what normally gets them your money/bank account info).
Do you see the pattern yet?
And as a man who is health, wealthy (made my own money thank you very much) in good shape, and a lot of fun to be around... and not even 40 yet... I have found expressing my emotions like this does not get me a happy married life but instead emotionally traumatized/stunted proto chicks who want a live in butler/walking atm. (at least in the USA, I will probably go back to Europe to get some real women as non seem to exist state side anymore.)
But that is just my experience.
Way too fast they will ask you what you do for living. Do not answer it. Yet. I say I do what it takes.
Most scammers will try to get you off this site way too fast, offering to exchange emails, phone numbers or Hangout apps or whatever. Do not do it. I always say to them: all communications will be on here only until AFTER I meet you in person. And even then only if I liked you in person than and only than will i provide my number.
Most scammers have real problem with posting additional 5-6 photos of himself. That's because he stole few on the Internet and has nothing left to steal of the same person in the photo because IT IS NOT HIM. Do not ever give your email, number so he can text you his additional photos. IF HE WAS ABLE TO POST HIS PHOTO (OR TWO) ON HER, THERE IS NO REASON ON EARTH WHY HE COULD NOT POST ADDITIONAL PHOTOS OF HIMSELF ON HERE AGAIN.
He wants to get your personal email, phone number to contaminate it with computer viruses Trojans etc. that will steal your passwords to bank accounts etc. and sell it on dark web.
Ladies, for crying out loud, use your heads, don't be a "fruit cake"!
Have standards. It's up to you to have them and stick by them.
Your goal is to make him meet you in person, in public place, as soon as possible. face to face. So you can judge that he is real and then using your intuition you will see what he is all about.
Of course many compliments every day, after 3 days he already loved me.
One day he pretended he got an email from his bank that his account are blocked because he was divorcing.
And he acted like he is in shock, panic and asked me to send him cash "only 2000 Euro".
He promised he will give back as soon as possible as he has to pay salary to his workers.
Of course "he was a businessman having own bussines" and also this account was blocked.
After I said "NO. SORRY" He became very angry, agressive, and started to offend me".
I have never seen him in real (on video etc) only photos ...
Hoping to appeal to you as their compassionate good friend to stump up and send money to a PO Box in Tunisia, Ghana , Ivory Coast etc etc.
Another one is that the would love to visit you. They will claim to have been to your country before , but of course they are strapped for cash.
Another scam is pretending to be in the Military or they are Bank Manager.(why would a bank manager be offering you a job via a date site ?.Go figure it out.
They lying , scamming slugs out to decieve you and con you out of money.So no matter how much they flatter you, write you gushy poems and declare their " fake love" for you. Take it like you would dog sh*t on your shoe.Cause these con artists are lower than a snails A*s..Word of advice. Dont get involved. Preventions better than cure.
One that I received ask me if I studied literature, because I write like a poet or author. That triggered my antenna. She never answered my questions but always asking me. The next thing, she asked for my WhatsApp number. So I ask her if she wanted my account number too? And that was the last I heard of her.
I have found in the past 20yrs it's all the same, they want something. I found the best way is to insists they come and meet you, if they make excuses or say they do not have the money to come, or ask you to send the money for their ticket,m forget them.
yeah ... but in the picture they are blond, gray haired or bald. And the lyrics are mostly copy and paste .... oh yes and they like to travel
But even non-scammers here on CS are not easy.
The first contact goes well ... you exchange "inconsequential".
Then days later, phone numbers for whatsapp or hangout are exchanged. (Suddenly you can see the phone number is from Michigan but he supposedly lives in Plainfield Indiana.) Thank goodness the voice and the videochat is real, you write every day and on the day you even create a video chat and a phone call.??
But from now on, he does not write anymore. Even spontaneous calls or selfies are no longer there. The last thing he wrote was ... I'm fine and i miss you.
He does not answer calls or does not answer messages ...
With the help of a good friend (sheriff ...) we found out with our information and pictures that he has a solid relationship for many years ..... so probably little time but supposedly much to do at work.
That was an American man .... no scammer.
(This kind of playing i think synonymous unserious).
The entire creation is a cheat in disguise and our creator is the best deceiver.
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Better use the tips in my previous comment to guess if your interlocutor is very probably a scammer.
If you want to judge/think he is a scammer because he is very polite and complimentary then it is up to you.
regards,
Other tips to guess scammers in order to report/block them:
They are very lazy in general:
They copy/paste an existing Description somewhere in the WEB (Long in general) so if you google their profile description you ll find very probably that the person is flagged as a scammer or some other indications can help you state that.
If the scammer gives his Skype ID and pretend to be in a country like the US or in europe etc.. you can google a website called "Skype Resolver" who gives you the country of last connexion of the skype id ;)
You can google their Photo using the menu image of
If the decription say the weight is 40 kg (88 pounds) and the picture show the inverse then it's a scam...same for color hair etc..
Above were my advices, and below are the ones from the FBI:
Recognizing an Online Dating Scam Artist
Your online “date” may only be interested in your money if he or she:
Presses you to leave the dating website you met through and to communicate using personal e-mail or instant messaging;
Professes instant feelings of love;
Sends you a photograph of himself or herself that looks like something from a glamour magazine;
Claims to be from the U.S. and is traveling or working overseas;
Makes plans to visit you but is then unable to do so because of a tragic event; or
Asks for money for a variety of reasons (travel, medical emergencies, hotel bills, hospitals bills for child or other relative, visas or other official documents, losses from a financial setback or crime victimization).
Be Safe,
I guess it's what a person individually is willing to accept as a moral compass...if you are looking in the mirror and you do the opposite of what you want...then you get what you open yourself to.
I tend to agree with the commentary... Scammers have a agenda to part you from your money..lets face it...easiest way to do it is through flattery...if it smells like a fish it likely is...use common sense...when it comes to choosing someone...matters of the heart can wait until they prove themselves trustworthy....my humble opinion...for what it's worth...scott
real Men tell you the truth , mean men tell you what u want to hear . you have to be very naiv to think if a guy stars telling u all those sweet words and he never ever met you and spend time with u in person that this guy is worth a dime! Those are the first I block!