4 Rules For Online Dating

4 Rules For Online Dating

Online dating is popular, but it can also be hard work. It takes time to weed out the people you don't want to meet or who have ulterior motives. You don't want to waste more time than you have dealing with them. People, especially women, never want to think badly of others, but there are bad people online and many of them go after online daters. Here are 4 rules to help online daters.

1. Never divulge how much you earn

The quickest way to become the victim of an online scam is to be open about how much you earn, how much you have in a bank account, or the things you own. Online scammers are willing to take advantage of it all. Don't be fooled into thinking they only scam people with lots of money. Scammers will take money from anyone who is willing to hand it over, whether it's $50 or $50,000. Never offer to lend or give money to anyone you meet online.

2. Talking on the phone is required

Online dating should only go on so long. At some point you will have to talk on the phone or Skype. If the person you meet makes excuses as to why they can't do either one, you need to move on. If he can't talk on the phone, how will he ever meet you in person? Don't put up with excuses about why he can't call you. Everyone who has access to the internet has access to a telephone and Skype. Anyone who cannot afford to make a phone call shouldn't be online dating because that's a major part of getting to know each other.

3. Don't believe you've met a rising model or businessman

More often than not you're going to have men telling you they are in some awesome job and they're about to hit it big. If you don't want to automatically assume that he's lying, at least do your homework and check that the facts he's told you are completely true. Remember that people will do anything to lie including stealing other people's photos. Luckily you can search images and find out whether the photos you've been sent are of the person you're talking to.

4. Pay attention to his conversation style

If the man you've met online only sends you long emails about himself, take it as a sign this is how he is in real life. You might assume he's just telling you about himself, but if he's not asking anything about you, he's probably not interested. If he's quick to change the topic back to him after talking about you for one whole minute, it's best to assume that the only person he's really interested in is himself. The best kind of person for him would be someone else who only likes talking about him. It's important that someone you don't know asks you questions. Don't attempt to force him into conversation. If he can't manage to converse on his own, it's not worth your time.

Online dating has created many success stories throughout the world. Don't be afraid to give it a try because of the horror stories you may have heard, just make sure you follow your intuition and understand that if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

Comments (9)

ASDFGHJKD
I know some of these rules are necessary.
But don't blame all the men. I have met some women who are only looking for money.
LaFonda
Yes, and you will know the liars, because they have bad memory. laugh
BananaRepublic
SO MUCH BULL-SHIT .***
BananaRepublic
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Nos. 1 & 3 are pretty much a given ... Now for #2 ... I agree, so I can not , for the life of me, understand why some profiles here make a sweeping claim that for them ... all members are scammers/fakes when they offer the possibility of external social media apps that make it possible to text/audio & video call in real time ... Bec., wouldn't it expose better such scammers/fakes when you hear their voice or see them live on video call ... or text back in real time so it wld be more detectable shld said questionable member take too much pause when texting back (ex. running his/her true native lang. thru a translator) ?

Now ... as for #4 ... Such is true .... But may I also add one more insight on "Don't attempt to force him into conversation ...." ... I have had several experiences on this which still perplex me as to the exact cause ... Sent you a Like ... you Like back... Probably just curious to see if they will get a Like back ....sometimes never even bother to write after that ... or... writes back nice and sufficient at the start...then u clearly notice though that the other person has not initiated conversation ever... even though they may write their enthusiasm for getting to know you so you expect some normal banter back & forth ...... Sometimes... you get same brief phrases being dropped to your Inbox, as if you are getting back automated messages even though you know it's another human at the other end ... So yes, aside from "ghosting" shld there have been a change of mind/heart ... it makes also one wonder if some people have lagged behind on their social communication skills thru the yrs ... and you end up pulling the cart on your own ... in order for the wagon of communication to get moving along ... which , of course, merits dropping the yoke and just hail a taxi to take you somewhere else, so to speak ...
KindaLameDude
In regards to # 2. Talking on the phone is required.

Well, I was the (non successful) target of a scam some years ago. The girl - who I had many conversations with on the site - actually called me. We talked on 2 or 3 occasions and it all seemed honest / real - but of course when the conversation turned towards her sick mother needing money, I sensed fish in the smell. I googled her email adress and found there had been a LOT of people falling for the scam - and who had actually SENT money. And - felt like suckers afterwards of course. I'm just writing this to say that IF a person talks to you on the phone - it can STILL be a scam.
Irishrose1949
First of all if you give somebody your email you have allowed them to access a lot of personal info about you. If they are a scammer they can access your financial resources, medical info, where you exactly live or work, and further go into your family info.Think about it for a while, how much info do you want out on the net about you? Also, if you have a cell phone be very careful giving out a cell number is even worse, get yourself a "burn" phone, it is much harder to track personal info and no I am not a scammer. I work for a Federal Law firm and be careful out there.
Jardis1978
I already give up to find someone by using website. I have to take 2 or 3 hours to check some information of the guys. Then I find out it is cheating.
tangeos
Rules designed for ladies dating online. Hm, what about gentlemen?

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