Why didn't you say anything to her?" I asked my friend.
"She's just too pretty," he replied with defeat.
It's a recognized phenomenon that most men who consider themselves "average" have a difficult time approaching, much less talking to, women they consider "beautiful." "She's too pretty," "I'm not good enough," "she must be taken," and "a girl like her and a guy like me?" seem to be the usual excuses given for self-defeat when it comes to getting to know women blessed with model-like looks and perfect figures.
The truth is, those women closest in appearance to the media ideal of beauty are just as approachable as their counterparts who maybe considered less attractive by those same standards. Of course, there are unpleasant people of all physical types, but there is no reason for a man to be put off by a woman just because she strikes him as beautiful. Here are some tips for approaching those ladies of exceptionally gifted form:
Staring at a woman's breasts or otherwise leering in a creepy manner are turn-offs for all women. As difficult as it may be, avoid being so overcome by their beauty that you spend a socially unacceptable amount of time staring at their attributes. "Undressing her with your eyes" is one way to ensure you won't be undressing her in the bedroom.
All people appreciate the appropriate amount of eye contact. This is particularly appreciated by women who may encounter a lot of men staring at them in indecent ways. Eye contact shows your openness and tells a woman you are interested in her, not just her looks. But remember, no more than a few seconds of eye contact before glancing away at something neutral for a least a second before engaging again.
A sincere smile always puts people at ease. While an ear-to-ear toothy grin may be a bit much, a warm pleasant smile is the best way to show someone that you are not only an open and friendly person, but also you are glad to see them as well.
Putting on airs and attempting to play "Joe Cool" is probably what she shot down in the last guy who approached her. Honesty is the best policy. Even if you can convince her you're someone you're not, it won't be long before she figures it out and blocks your number from her cell phone.
This does not mean be cocky. Arrogance is not attractive, even in the most firmly-built, chiseled-chinned men. Rather, having confidence means understanding who you are and knowing what your strong points are. No one is perfect. But you have something going for you, no matter who you are. Always remember that and don't let insecurity and self-doubt make you stumble or drop the ball. Remember, you are a unique person and there is no one like you - - like it or lump it.
What have you got to lose? If she shoots you down then she wasn't for you in the first place. Stay calm. Keep your head. If you fumble, make light of it. Don't be afraid to be confidently self-deprecating. Being able to laugh at yourself only increases your appearance of self-confidence and makes you a more likable personality.
Remember, these tips are designed to help open a positive dialogue with an attractive woman -- the rest (asking her out, advancing the bases, etc.) is a completely different study. However, being yourself, being confident, and using the principles of respect and lightheartedness will take you far no matter what stage of the game you are in.
Now, get out there and start a conversation!
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