4 Signs You Might Be Involved With An Abuser

Abuse happens in many different ways. Some abuse is physical, but there is also emotional and verbal abuse which is just as bad. All kinds of abuse create scars, even if you cannot see them. Here are four signs that you're involved with an abusive man.

1. You walk on eggshells around him

Anyone that you walk on eggshells around has power. Unfortunately people have let them have this power because of the way they act when things don't go their way. If you walk on eggshells around your boyfriend, he has power over you. You have become so worried about what he is going to say or think about things that you run around making sure that things are perfect. This is a form of control.

2. He has touched you in a non-loving way

We all enjoy a loving touch, but even if you're not in the mood for that, you have the right to say so. No one has the right to touch you, period. If the touch comes in a non-loving way, such as a slap, push, pinch or punch, you're boyfriend has a problem. Some men are under the impression that being with you means they have the right to do as they please. Never accept the excuse that you did something to deserve being hit.

3. He calls you names

If your boyfriend calls you names when he is angry or doesn't get his own way, he is being verbally abusive. He has no right to call you ugly names. We all say things out of anger sometimes, but when it becomes a normal thing, you are in a bad situation. The last thing that you want is for that behaviour to become normal in your relationship. It is not normal at all.

4. He tells you how things are going to be

A man doesn't have to hit or call names to be abusive. Abuse can come in the form of control. If your boyfriend likes to tell you what you're going to do, when you're going to do it, and how you're going to do it, without question, that is abuse. No one has the right to tell you how things are going to be done. A couple decides how to do things together. If you live together these are things that should be discussed, not ordered.

Abuse can come in so many forms. Some can be easily seen, while others are much more subtle. If you notice any of the above signs in your relationship, you may be in an abusive relationship.