Internet dating is here to stay, but so are the people taking advantage of it. There are plenty of charming people out there looking to swindle online daters, or worse. You need to know how to spot danger before it causes you harm.
The most common target of scammers involves your wallet. Under no circumstances should you send money to anyone you meet on a dating website. There are hundreds of reasons and sob stories a scammer may have to need money from you, but in most cases they'll try to get you to make a wire transfer, due to how difficult it is to reverse the transaction.
Your financial information should stay private. Don't send it out to people who you haven't met in person. There are some very charming people out there who might get your trust fairly quickly, so keep your guard up. Generally your financial information should never even come up as a topic when talking to a potential date. Whenever the discussion goes to your money, leave the conversation.
Sending out your full name, email, and home address might seem harmless, but you never know who's actually chatting with you online. It is best to err on the side of caution and keep a certain level of anonymity while you're looking for a date. Use the private mailbox on your dating website to keep your identity secret until you decide that you're ready to reveal it to your potential partner.
You should also be wary of accessing dating websites on shared or public computers such as libraries or internet cafes. Many browsers actually save your password information if that's the default setting. If you must share your computer, make sure that you clear any and all passwords saved on the browser.
Online dating should be a fun experience, but there are people who can and will ruin the experience for you if you let them. There are a few things to watch out for when you're roaming the Internet looking for a date.
If they:
This is by no means a comprehensive list of things that should raise red flags. Exercise caution and common sense when interacting with people online. Immediately block people who raise these red flags and report them to the dating site where you found them.
Online dating doesn't stay online forever. After all, you joined the dating site to meet someone and when you do, eventually you're going to want to take things to the next level and meet them in person. And that's a good thing.. but reaching that point is no reason to throw caution to the wind. There are a number of things to keep in mind when transitioning to a real-life relationship.
When you meet with someone in person, you're exposing yourself to potential physical harm. Make sure that anyone you meet with is someone you have gotten to know. Don't be rushed. Spend time using site features to ask questions and talking back and forth. Use search engines to find out more information about them or look at information made available by government services and offices.
Public places are safe and full of witnesses. Feel free to leave if you don't feel safe. Don't be in a hurry to go to their house or to bring them to yours, no matter how comfortable you are with them.
As an additional security measure, you should make sure that someone knows where you are at all times. If the worst should happen, at least your friends and family will know your last location. Should you decide to move the date somewhere else, tell someone. Keep people updated.
Getting intoxicated will severely impair your decision making abilities, which can lead to you bringing them home or going to a private place with someone who may amount to be a complete stranger you've only read about.
Wherever you do decide to meet up, it should be a place that you are familiar with. Make sure that you can commute or drive to and from the area, just in case things turn sour.
While you should err on the side of caution, you should also keep an open mind. The vast majority of people are not out to get you. If you really aren't comfortable with Internet dating due to the unique dangers presented by anonymity, consider putting your online relationships on hold until you have a better grasp of it. Use other site features to meet new people and have fun making not-for-date friends while you get acquainted with meeting people in a safe way. You don't need to date online until you're ready, and even then, only if you want to.
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