There are many signs of troubled relationships, but it seems harder to recognize them when you're in them yourself. You become more accustomed to the behaviours and they start to seem normal. The following are 4 signs that you're in a troubled relationship.
When you say "no" to something, it's important that you know you don't owe anyone a reason. Your answer is not up for negotiation. If you say "no" and your boyfriend tries to get you to change your mind or ignores you completely, this is a sign of trouble. If he cannot take "no" for an answer this is not only a complete lack of respect, it also has the potential to become dangerous.
This is a common way that people attempt to get their way. They manipulate you by using your feelings for them. If your boyfriend uses this phrase with you, he is only trying to get his own way. He's not really questioning your love for him, but that's exactly how you will feel. He might look sad and act sad, but it's all a ploy to get you to be his puppet. If you've fallen for this tactic once, he's going to continue trying it again. Remain strong and remind him that if he loved you, he wouldn't be trying to manipulate you.
This is a huge red flag in any kind of relationship. You don't need anyone's permission to go anywhere or see anyone. Some people believe when you're in a relationship you need to account for your whereabouts all the time and make sure your partner is okay with what you're doing. This can set an unhealthy precedent. If your boyfriend expects you to consult with him before you make plans, your relationship is already in trouble. If he gets upset or even violent when you don't check with him before going out or meeting a friend, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship.
When your boyfriend tries to limit how much you see your family and friends, he's really trying to isolate you. This is a form of control. He wants to be the only person in your life. By taking away your family and friends, he is taking away your support system. Not only should a good boyfriend encourage you to spend time with family and friends, but he should be willing to get to know them as well.
Troubled relationships are difficult, but not impossible, to fix. The main thing is that you find your strength again and stop allowing someone else to control you. If someone doesn't accept you as you are, there's someone out there who will.
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