4 Signs You're Getting Played Online
Meeting someone online isn't uncommon these days, but neither is the large number of people getting played online. Playing with people's hearts is a game to some people online, so it's important to keep your eyes open for warning signs. Here are 4 signs that you're getting played online.
1. He sweet-talks constantly
You might be being played if the man you're talking to has nothing but sweet things to say all the time. It's nice to be sweet-talked and romanced, but that can't be your entire communication with him. If you're looking for a real relationship, it can't all be fantasy. It's important to have real conversations. If he tells you that he loves you early on and that you're the one for him, but he doesn't really know you, you're probably being played.
2. He talks, but doesn't act
People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does.
3. He disappears a lot
If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk.
4. He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person
Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen.
It's great to meet people online, but you also have to be careful about not getting played. It's hard to really tell if someone is being honest or not, but if you feel uncomfortable that something isn't right, trust yourself, it probably isn't.
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She says never married, but tells you she was widowed.
She can't recall the dog prop in her picture.
She is ONLINE 24/7, who works the third shift?
She calls you dear.
She wants to chat somewhere else.
She makes way to much money and is way too hot to be on line dating.
Finally, she writes to you.
“t is not by being richer or more powerful that a man becomes better; one is a matter of fortune, the other of virtue. Nor should she deem herself other than venal who weds a rich man rather than a poor, and desires more things in her husband than himself. Assuredly, whomsoever this concupiscence leads into marriage deserves payment rather than affection.”
? Héloïse, The Letters of Abélard and Héloïse
(The Letters of Abelard and Heloise are a series of passionate and intellectual correspondences written in Latin during the 12th century. The authors, Peter Abelard, a prominent theologian, and his pupil, Heloise, a gifted young woman later renowned as an abbess, exchanged these letters following their ill-fated love affair and subsequent monastic lives.
The letters reveal the personal and intellectual relationship between Abelard and Heloise, and provide an intimate glimpse into the societal context of 12th-century Europe. They've played a significant role in the development of Western Epistolary literature, attracting attention from historians, literary scholars, and general readers alike. The Letters of Abelard and Heloise also serve as primary source documents on questions of medieval gender roles, love, and monastic life."
!, Everyone lies all the time. We present ourselves not who we are inside but who we want to be. We see not real people but what we choose to see.
That is why the infatuation with pictures always baffles me.
2. Everyone has a secret.
3. If you poke it long enough it breaks. Keep asking questions and reread everything written to you. It is very hard to stay in character for long periods of time.
Yes certain groups of Sociopaths and Psychopaths can, but even then they will manage to screw up thinking they are smarter than everyone else.
They say live and learn. We can also learn from other people's mistakes.
Thanks for sharing.
At my age I would like to believe that Im not gullible. Maybe I am.
I had been talking with a guy, he was a simple man, TICK. He lived the lifestyle that is my ultimate dream lifestyle, TICK. He wanted a lifelong relationship, he had been single for almost 30 years raising his kids, TICK.
Skip ahead, we made plans for me to move over, with a return ticket, then get married 4 months after I got there. We would apply for a spousal visa/green card. I sold a lot of my stuff. All my sled dog gear. Put down some of my team, re homed others. When and said my goodbyes to my 95 year old Mom, 2 of my kids, and my grandkids.
Got on a plane on the 30th July. I was back home on the 11th Aug. Owing my Mom $6k for another ticket home, because my return ticket couldnt be changed or refunded.
I am BRUTALLY HONEST, I am loyal once Ive bonded with someone. I tell everyone that comes into my life, that if they lie to me its over. The truth is like a slap, it stings, then its over. Id bet my left kidney that none of you can remember being hurt by the truth. A lie! It sticks like S*#t to a blanket. It festers, eats away at you, mentally, and emotionally.
Look how friggin hard can it be?
Honesty.
Loyalty.
Communication.
Open.
I do not want to change anybody, I wont be changed by anybody.
What I do want is someone/my person, that we can start this last chapter of life together. To explore each other, in every aspect life has. To create our little piece of paradise. A simple life, hunting, foraging, growing, as much of what we need to servive. To spend time together, sharing the workload. To laugh with, to cry with, to argue with over non personal issues, like which bands better etc.
For us to be equally happy doing things on our own.
Sure LOVE is great, but personally being Completely IN LOVE, when they are the other half of your heart beat, where they are your BEST friend, when you look in each others eyes. When every touch makes you smile and your heart feels warm and full. When everyday, you fall more In Love. When just the thought of loosing them breaks you. When youre together the rest of the world just fades away.
I am still open to finding my person. Dont know for how long though.
Look for inconsistencies in what he/she says about themselves.
Keep in mind that not all those "women" are even women. Some of them are MEN and they dont give a gosh darn in heck whether you get hurt or not. OR they might actually enjoy it. Further, sometimes those "women" or even "single men" you are talking to are MORE THAN ONE MAN. You might even be communicating with a group of men.
Most people know how to snatch a pic from online and post it as their own. So much for that.
Marriage..
Just dont do it. Marriage is an invitation to control you, in ways you cannot even imagine. Marriage puts your money AND LIFE in danger. Just because you're not being told about it for various reasons does not mean it's not happening all around you.
If marriage "keeps your spouse from just walking out on you if they feel like it" then imagine what it's going to be like to live with somebody who WANTS to walk out on you. Or what if they leave you cryin and bleedin in the corner while they go out to a bar and ohhhh you never expected this! Well NOW you got to get a divorce! If you CAN.
I CAN EASILY DO A FEW MORE PAGES, but i'll leave it at that.
Oh-well i cant let this one go though. One more.
If he/she is BLAMING YOU for stuff you know is not your fault, for ANY reason like, they "had a bad day" or it's "PMS" you had better run WHILE YOU STILL CAN!
Ok with great reluctance, im going to end it here.
Good Luck!
And if you get married, you're gonna need it!
***Most important if they readily don't want to converse on the site after three messages but want you to give up your phone number before they do, shut it down. They up to nothing good.***
Experience will lead you to the right track..
Men who behave as these... Shame on them don't they?
So better just watch your back rather than complaining..
Wants you to send money before you meet her
Expects you to give out personal financial information (accounts number passwords and such) on the second email
Has photos that are flawless and always tells you how handsome you are when you know your kind if a goober.
2. He refuses to Skype
3. He stupidly flirts a lot
4. His eye color is BLACK (lol)
Must be they've been mentaly and emotionaly abuse by bad experience of scams.
The worst is they wount show up when the times come to meet face to face, the best sissy coward !
And perhaps they are so ugly like a troll!
So,what is the difference with a scammers digging wallets
and him scamming emotion and mentality ?
Even without these signs.
People do a big talk and then when the moment comes to show interest or keep promises or when they understand you know they are lying or when you question their weird behaviour, they start to back off. Awful.
I have also noticed lot of men have very high standards for the woman they seek. Basically she should just shut up and take all the lies and drama they are saying or doing, without questioning or complaining.
My advice to those men is to buy a doll, it is going to be there no stop, they can even forget about it, neglect it, and it will always agree with them!
If it says "online in 3 days" does it mean they won't reply for 3 days because they are away from home/sick or some other reason? When I send an email to someone "online in 3 days" I can't be sure if they simply don't want to reply or that they CAN'T reply for 3 days. Confusing!
GeoffT
The guy who I kept communication was very convincing, loving, etc. Our conversations were at Skype. He told me was a widower, had a 15 year-old kid, and wanted to remarry. He even said wanted to come to meet me and we would start preparing our wedding. At the end, in less than a month, asked me for US $1000, which I couldn't afford. Don't share your personal information, please think with your head, not with your heart.
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