4 Signs You're Getting Played Online

4 Signs Youre Getting Played Online

Meeting someone online isn't uncommon these days, but neither is the large number of people getting played online. Playing with people's hearts is a game to some people online, so it's important to keep your eyes open for warning signs. Here are 4 signs that you're getting played online.

1. He sweet-talks constantly

You might be being played if the man you're talking to has nothing but sweet things to say all the time. It's nice to be sweet-talked and romanced, but that can't be your entire communication with him. If you're looking for a real relationship, it can't all be fantasy. It's important to have real conversations. If he tells you that he loves you early on and that you're the one for him, but he doesn't really know you, you're probably being played.

2. He talks, but doesn't act

People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does.

3. He disappears a lot

If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk.

4. He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person

Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen.

It's great to meet people online, but you also have to be careful about not getting played. It's hard to really tell if someone is being honest or not, but if you feel uncomfortable that something isn't right, trust yourself, it probably isn't.

Comments (18)

PRINCE2CHARMING
i am a busy man seeking a good woman,, but it means that no woman wants a true loving here,, i am a busy man but still has time eve in and outside my working hours... but i have not any good woman yet,,, how do i get others to know that i am real and i need a real woman too????cheers cheers
june_maklong7500
Best advice and all of that fact are true.
Experience will lead you to the right track..
Men who behave as these... Shame on them don't they?

devil very mad devil
Most people online are come just to have fun.. There is nothing wrong in it until their fun lead others to pain.. There is no meaning of complaining.. If you can't prove anything criminal offense or illegal against someone whether it's been done online or even in real world; you can't punish him or get any compensation..
So better just watch your back rather than complaining.. thumbs up
YourMaster2018
How about if she won't talk on the phone
Wants you to send money before you meet her
Expects you to give out personal financial information (accounts number passwords and such) on the second email
Has photos that are flawless and always tells you how handsome you are when you know your kind if a goober.
Boy ... how true ... i might be up in years but my mind is good ... i get stuck with this a lot of times... women are so good at it .. when they don't get the upper hand on you ..they scream out blue murder .. some just like to dangle you on a string ... i get tired of money hits ... i know a lot of guys are scammers and fakes .. but there are lots of women in that boat too.. just be aware ... i can read most now .. and just move on .... good this is out there to remind others ...wave
slimshadyUS
1. He uses a stolen photo
2. He refuses to Skype
3. He stupidly flirts a lot
4. His eye color is BLACK (lol)
kyz249
sigh
giannisgenetos
kalisas imera se olus typing coffee
whitelily1
Yes, been there, and those shity are a real man!
Must be they've been mentaly and emotionaly abuse by bad experience of scams.
The worst is they wount show up when the times come to meet face to face, the best sissy coward !
And perhaps they are so ugly like a troll!
So,what is the difference with a scammers digging wallets
and him scamming emotion and mentality ?
Rainbowgreen
Been there many times.
Even without these signs.
People do a big talk and then when the moment comes to show interest or keep promises or when they understand you know they are lying or when you question their weird behaviour, they start to back off. Awful.
I have also noticed lot of men have very high standards for the woman they seek. Basically she should just shut up and take all the lies and drama they are saying or doing, without questioning or complaining.
My advice to those men is to buy a doll, it is going to be there no stop, they can even forget about it, neglect it, and it will always agree with them!
it means they are offline , when the online button is pink they are online.
GeoffT
I don't understand the part of a person's profile "online".
If it says "online in 3 days" does it mean they won't reply for 3 days because they are away from home/sick or some other reason? When I send an email to someone "online in 3 days" I can't be sure if they simply don't want to reply or that they CAN'T reply for 3 days. Confusing!
GeoffT
HappySaturn2015
It's a great article. To what happened to me on line, these four rules were true !

The guy who I kept communication was very convincing, loving, etc. Our conversations were at Skype. He told me was a widower, had a 15 year-old kid, and wanted to remarry. He even said wanted to come to meet me and we would start preparing our wedding. At the end, in less than a month, asked me for US $1000, which I couldn't afford. Don't share your personal information, please think with your head, not with your heart.

Girls, you are valuable people. Follow these simple but valuable recommendations, and you'll be safe.
Giuseppe39
LOL!roll.sounds like most of the women I talk to.tongue.banana:
Xian000
exactlythumbs up thumbs up thumbs up
DISCOVERY1
Its both men, and woman. And woman are better at it.
ag121
Now,i knowyay yay
amhurst
well,#1 and #2... are already going on, so far,but ,#3 and #4 ,do not relate ,to what... seems to be happening,here...hummmm...
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