The gossip will be there: "Why do you want to date a guy that old?" This might be followed with something like: "You don't want to come off as a gold-digger!" But those women who know the advantages of dating an older man will defend their decision heartily. That decision can be described in one word: stability.
Need some convincing to date an older fellow? Consider the following reasons:
It doesn't sound like there would be a difference here, but the difference in ambition levels between a younger man and an older man can be incredible. Older guys have had the time to experiment with different career paths and different lifestyles and have learned what they want. They can think long-term and can prioritize better. This translates into a happier man, and therefore, a better partner.
As with our previous point, knowing what you want to do with your life means a lot. Older men have had time to map out their careers and have learned to master their expenses. This says everything about their ability to set and keep priorities in their lives--which, of course, will include you.
It may not always be true, but generally speaking, an older man will know what he wants in his mate. For that reason, when he considers you as a potential option, he knows what he wants. Any sane woman will recognize that this as a huge plus.
Every past relationship has at least some baggage. The question is, how much is there? Older guys tend to have less hurtful baggage, like mad women trying desperately to get even. And don't downplay how happy you will feel when you realize how you aren't having to sit there and pretend to be supportive as you hear him and the ex hash who gets to keep what!
Older guys can have the best of all worlds because they might still have the benefits of being in good shape, plus the age and wisdom to know how to live a productive and purpose-driven life. As always, there are exceptions to the rules, but if you've hit a wall in your experiences with dating younger men, why not give an older guy a try?
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