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RE: Five Reasons You Can't Get (or Keep) a Good Guy

Only one simple reason.
YOU ARE A WOMAN!

RE: Relationship Dating: Building Successful Relationships

I have been in many that failed for many reasons.
One of the biggest factors is people change as they age.
Security, forget that.
Stability, forget that.
"While approximately 35-50% of first marriages still end in divorce, second marriages face a higher likelihood of dissolution, ranging from 60-70+%."
Good luck.
"In fact, the U.S. crude divorce rate is 2.5 , while the worldwide average crude divorce rate is just 1.8.Aug 8, 2023"
"In the U.S., while the divorce rate hovers around 40 or 50 percent, the divorce rate for arranged marriages is 4 percent. In India, where some estimate that 90 percent of marriages are arranged, the divorce rate is only 1 percent."

Arranged marriages are best.

RE: Scam Baiting.

Anyyone else actively reporting scammers?
I have that in the forum section. Maybe start crossposting?

RE: Coping With Loneliness

You must have been reading someone else because I never described a "perfect woman".
No one is "perfect".
Honestly how close a match do you consider perfection?
A lot of men advise renting boats, homes, cars and women. They state you pay a hooker to leave.
Needs vs wants.
Have you taken a good look at your fellow women here? They are marketed sex products from names to fake pictures.
Then you have the aging out women trying to compete with them and getting angry when men don't notice them.
Now why are you still here in the meat (MEET) market if all you ever get are angry men?
Or maybe you simply make the men angry?
I put out tests. maybe puzzles, to uncover the INTERESTING women.

RE: Coping With Loneliness

"In short, If women are so bad why are they so heavily hunted by Men?"
You can't ( legally ) kill them and you can't have Heterosexual sex without them."

Sounds like a misogyny.

"What bothers me is the declining birth rates and aging demographics of the first world, colonizer, nations."
Don't worry, the invention of AI will make you feel right at home. The prediction is that AI will rule the world in the near future. Now that's the perfect woman you described.

RE: 12 Sure Ways to Turn a Woman Off

"carlamee•Aug 6•Atlanta, Georgia USA
Unable to use proper grammar and spelling.
Let her know how prejudice you are.
Unable to communicate.
Narcissistic.

Those are very large assumptions regarding the quality and quantity and AGE of education.
The smell one is funny because of the whole Pheromone attraction thing.
It isn't like every woman and man have not watched sweaty people shake their booties.
Everyone is prejudice against something so a pass on that.
Everyone is Narcisistic in some sense.

Basically there is no way to make absolutely everyone happy and people either like you or they don't
Eight billion of us, just move on. Go to India, Africa, China, so on. Until someone finally "gets" you.
We want our cake and we want it here and now and we don't really want to work for it because we all think as first worlds we are entitled to all the crap.

Before enjoying Rick and Morty maybe Elliot of Mr. Robot fame could give us all a nice kick in the butt.

"Elliot : Oh, I don't know. Is it that we collectively thought Steve Jobs was a great man, even when we knew he made billions off the backs of children? Or maybe it's that it feels like all our heroes are counterfeit? The world itself's just one big hoax. Spamming each other with our running commentary of bullshit, masquerading as insight, our social media faking as intimacy. Or is it that we voted for this? Not with our rigged elections, but with our things, our property, our money. I'm not saying anything new. We all know why we do this, not because Hunger Games books makes us happy, but because we wanna be sedated. Because it's painful not to pretend, because we're cowards. f*ck society."

The wisdom of Rick and Morty. I thought I would stick to a thematic overly intelligent adult cartoon.

“Listen, Morty, I hate to break it to you, but what people call love is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, Morty, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science.” — Rick

"When two people create a life together, they set aside their previous lives as individuals." "Gimme a break! We're not heroes for having unprotected sex on prom night."

"Your love’s value is defined by scarcity. You are highly trained to seek it, and you have no idea how to maintain it. If you have bothered to master love, you would have known it is as abundant as water. You know what isn’t? Water, that s*** runs out.”

“Have fun with empowerment. It seems to make everyone that gets it really happy.” — Rick

“Don’t deify the people who leave you.” — Beth

“Yeah, sure, I mean, if you spend all day shuffling words around, you can make anything sound bad, Morty.” — Rick

I realize now I’m attracted to you for the same reason I can’t be with you; you can’t change. And I have no problem with that, but it clearly means I have a problem with myself.” — Unity

RE: Coping With Loneliness

carlamee

"In short, If women are so bad why are they so heavily hunted by Men?"
You can't ( legally ) kill them and you can't have Heterosexual sex without them.

Are most men here angry?
Most US women are.
A Nazi survivor described camp guards as some were good, some were bad, and some were just doing their jobs.
What bothers me is the declining birth rates and aging demographics of the first world, colonizer, nations.
If you can examine that cartoon from 1925 in my profile.
Someone saw the future.

RE: Coping With Loneliness

@DLMac

Here are my take on your agreement. You wrote:

"Abelard and Heloise nearly a thousand years ago.
“One of the worlds greatest love stories, but read what she says about women who marry for money.
A lot of US women want a man to save them from debt.
Men just want sex.”

There are percentages of Men & women that are in this category. I think they have an agreement as what they expect from each other.

“I guess my point is both men and women are wrong and right about certain things.”

People have different experiences within the dating process. There are deceitfulness, entrapment, abandonment, disloyalty, etc. etc.
That is why so many Men are angry on CS. Most don’t take responsibility for their own actions.

“To contrast Heloise advice below there is this
"No girl will choose six packs over six cars so stop going to the gym and go to work – Robert mugabe"

I don’t think that applies to all women. I don’t like to take the opinions of others (brain wash). I decipher things for myself.



In short, If women are so bad why are they so heavily hunted by Men?

A man's perspective.
A woman's perspective.

RE: Coping With Loneliness

Do the math. Everyone spends x amount of time awake. During that x amount of time you have y interactions with various people.
The majority of a day is always spent alone. Sleep takes half your life.
Look around what do you see?
A whole lot of emptiness with a few particles interacting.
There are 8 BILLION people in the world.
Want to stop being alone back pack to India.
Want to stop being lonely speak to everyone. Just how many people are mere background scenery to everyone.
Want to know about where you live talk to the mail and delivery people.
Talk to the store clerk, Talk to the old people ona park bench,
The reality is we will always be alone. We are trapped in our individual minds.
I think most people confuse loneliness with other emotions and do not self integrate enough to define what exactly they need.
Needs versus wants.
Basic needs are air, water, food, shelter and sleep.
Beyond that everything else is wants.
You feel lonely go to a different church every day they have an activity. Go to various meetings like AA.
Volunteer.
Or just plain learn to live with your needs not your wants.

RE: Why You Should Date Older Guys

carlamee

Abelard and Heloise nearly a thousand years ago.
One of the worlds greatest love stories, but read what she says about women who marry for money.
A lot of US women want a man to save them from debt.
Men just want sex.
If you have the time Google up anything regarding dating and REDDIT.
Most of those men have hit every dating service and struck out.
Yes there is FIRST WORLD MALE SYNDROME seeking subservient women or sex toys or to breed to carry on the line.
Then again ever read about all the women who have their men knock them up then disappear. Pretty crappy for Filipinas as there is no divorce.
After I left here the first time because it was so depressing I started researching on line dating and foreign marriages.
Just shocking.
I guess my point is both men and women are wrong and right about certain things.
To contrast Heloise advice below there is this
"No girl will choose six packs over six cars so stop going to the gym and go to work – Robert mugabe"


For it is not by being richer or more powerful that a man becomes better; one is a matter of fortune, the other of virtue. Nor should she deem herself other than venal who weds a rich man rather than a poor, and desires more things in her husband than himself. Assuredly, whomsoever this concupiscence leads into marriage deserves payment rather than affection; for it is evident that she goes after his wealth and not the man, and is willing to prostitute herself, if she can, to a richer. As the argument advanced (in Aeschines) by the wise Aspasia to Xenophon and his wife plainly convinces us. When the wise woman aforesaid had propounded this argument for their reconciliation, she concluded as follows: "For when you have understood this, that there is not a better man nor a happier woman on the face of the earth; then you will ever and above all things seek that which you think the best; you to be a husband of so excellent a wife, and she to be married to so excellent a husband." A blessed sentiment, assuredly, and more than philosophic, expressing wisdom itself rather than philosophy. A holy error and a blessed fallacy among the married, that a perfect love should preserve their bond of matrimony unbroken, not so much by the continence of their bodies as by the purity of their hearts. But what error shows to the rest of women the truth has made manifest to me. Since what they thought of their husbands, that I, that the entire world not so much believed as knew of you. So that the more genuine my love was for you, the further it was removed from error.

RE: Why You Should Date Older Guys

@DLMac

Thanks for the statistics. I listen to talk shows on the radio and I noticed that the younger women that call in report being cheated on by their husband/boyfriend. There are some Youtube channels where other women are exposing cheating Men. I've heard that wealthy Men exploits women, but a High percentage of these younger men are not wealthy. Is it the "old boys club" as usual?

American Men that seek foreign women say that those women knows their place in the home. They treat Men as KINGS and no opposition in the home. These Men don't want an equal, they want subservient women. I read your post and I think if these women are hunted by American Men, provided their wifely duties, then they are entitle to the benefits if the husband should die.

My experiences here on CS are that the Men are ANGRY. They blame the women for their fail relationships. They want to drag all that baggage with them, but becomes angrier when the women reject them. No women will tolerate such behavior, especially when they have nothing to do with their baggages. They are incapable of communicating.
These men should take the time to heal and not trying to find a date on a website.

So the world keeps on turning and eventually we die.

RE: Why You Should Date Older Guys

carlamee

Those guys have no money and no hope.
From the comments section

"Here is what's fueling movements like Passport Bros:

Research into dating apps have shown that women online only swipe on Chad's. These are you ultra good looking guys which are 8 and 9's. These women are ignorant that Chad is dating 3 to 5 women at once and could care less because he looks like a model. Then these same women end up with a high body count and do nothing but scream all over the internet that men keep cheating on them. They will never admit they only go out with Chad's. Please go watch any of the 100's and 100's of videos on sites like Youtube or Rumble which cover this topic and whats happened.

On dating app's they find that 70% or more of all swipes, likes and dates go to the absolute best looking guys which are your top 5% and 10%. Then 80% of all swipes go to the Top 20% of men. If you're not an 8 or 9 then you'll find the dating apps very disappointing and difficult to use. They say if you're a 5 or below in looks as a male you will get ZERO likes other than from an occasional bot. Even if you are an attractive guy in the 6 - 7 range you will struggle massively and doesn't matter if you have a college degree, make good money and overall a good person. The women on these dating apps don't care!! Either you look like Chad or you don't is what their research has found.

This has fueled the rise of going overseas and Passport Bros.

Here's a good introductory video that shows what's happened:

RE: Why You Should Date Older Guys

I received a message from a man's point of view.

He wrote that I should not seek older men as they are not well, ailing sick due to old age.
I never thought of that.
If that is so, It narrows my chances of finding a good man (that has all his marbles) in this late stage in the game.

RE: 4 Signs You're Getting Played Online

She gets angry or avoids answering when asked what her degree is in.
She says never married, but tells you she was widowed.
She can't recall the dog prop in her picture.
She is ONLINE 24/7, who works the third shift?
She calls you dear.
She wants to chat somewhere else.
She makes way to much money and is way too hot to be on line dating.
Finally, she writes to you.

“t is not by being richer or more powerful that a man becomes better; one is a matter of fortune, the other of virtue. Nor should she deem herself other than venal who weds a rich man rather than a poor, and desires more things in her husband than himself. Assuredly, whomsoever this concupiscence leads into marriage deserves payment rather than affection.”
? Héloïse, The Letters of Abélard and Héloïse

(The Letters of Abelard and Heloise are a series of passionate and intellectual correspondences written in Latin during the 12th century. The authors, Peter Abelard, a prominent theologian, and his pupil, Heloise, a gifted young woman later renowned as an abbess, exchanged these letters following their ill-fated love affair and subsequent monastic lives.
The letters reveal the personal and intellectual relationship between Abelard and Heloise, and provide an intimate glimpse into the societal context of 12th-century Europe. They've played a significant role in the development of Western Epistolary literature, attracting attention from historians, literary scholars, and general readers alike. The Letters of Abelard and Heloise also serve as primary source documents on questions of medieval gender roles, love, and monastic life."

RE: Why You Should Date Older Guys

I'm sorry I don't know how to edit my post but I wanted this at the end.

"No Girl Will Choose Six Pack Over Six Cars.. So Stop Going to The Gym and go to Work." —Robert Mugabe

RE: Why You Should Date Older Guys

Older men have all the money.
I have read numerous stories about men up to 60 who get sick have a wife taking care of them through the illness then they dump her for someone younger.
It happens a lot with Asian brides.
In the US Social Security can be claimed at a smaller percentage at 62, with full benefits at 67 ( but not if you claim at 62), . Disability at any time and still rolls into full benefits at 67.
Every year gets a Cost Of Living Increase, COLA.
Any bride gets those benefits when the husband dies.
She may not get his property unless in a will or no heirs
That also means the younger the bride the LONGER she collects free money and has a nice safety net.
She can move to a cheaper cost of living state or a cheaper cost of living country and still collect those benefits.
Eighteen no kids works great.
Has children man suddenly has new heirs and if no will the kids and wife own all the property as well as his SS benefits.
All those scammers trying to con men out of money for sex chat or videos, that is simply stupid math.
Return On Investment ROI is better with marriage as an end game.


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RE: 4 Signs You're Getting Played Online

Maybe you should start with, HE or SHE?????

RE: Coping With Loneliness

Everyone will always be alone until technology allows us to enter each others minds. Then we will hate each other for what we discover.

RE: Coping With Loneliness

Two lonely people, one lonely night.
Just be in the right place at the right time and feel the magic happens.

RE: 5 Mistakes Men Make When Trying to Attract Women

Dating is a game of odds. The more you talk to the better your chances.
Plus be realistic regarding your" type".
Look at all the fake marketing here.
There is an actual difference between needs and wants. Usually what you want is not what you need.
I am not certain about EU women.
US women are looking for a man to cover their debts, credit cards, mortgage, car loans, so on.
Filipinas get married and abandoned after having children. No divorce in the Philippines and most can not afford the annulment. No foreign marriage that is why they want you to move there. Plus they care for extended family.
"Foreigners are prohibited from owning land in the Philippines, but can legally own a residence. The Philippine Condominium Act allows foreigners to own condo units, as long as 60% of the building is owned by Filipinos. If you want to buy a house, consider a long-term lease agreement with a Filipino landowner."
Honestly "Third world " working poor women understand family and budgeting.
Define your needs really well.

RE: 5 Mistakes Men Make When Trying to Attract Women

Everybody ages out and becomes unnoticeable.
If she enjoys your company when you are badly dressed and stink of work sweat, she might be ok.
Then again, one can never tell what happens decades down the road.
Just be who you are and be happy with that.

RE: Men: Avoid Rejection With This Proven First Move Technique

"No Girl Will Choose Six Pack Over Six Cars.. So Stop Going to The Gym and go to Work." —Robert Mugabe

RE: 4 Signs You're Getting Played Online

Simple rules for everyone.
!, Everyone lies all the time. We present ourselves not who we are inside but who we want to be. We see not real people but what we choose to see.
That is why the infatuation with pictures always baffles me.
2. Everyone has a secret.
3. If you poke it long enough it breaks. Keep asking questions and reread everything written to you. It is very hard to stay in character for long periods of time.
Yes certain groups of Sociopaths and Psychopaths can, but even then they will manage to screw up thinking they are smarter than everyone else.

RE: How to Dress to Attract a Man: A Guide for Women over 40

Works fine until an eighteen year old in Daisy Dukes walks by.

RE: 4 Signs You're Getting Played Online

@ mushermom, wow that's a hard one. Long distance relationship is hard, but when you gave up your life to move in with another and it doesn't work out then that's a bummer.

They say live and learn. We can also learn from other people's mistakes.

Thanks for sharing.