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RE: Emotional Abuse in Relationships

This is an excellent top-level view of abuse in a relationship.

There are many, many challenges with the abusers.

> They believe they are right. They have a weak ego so have to believe they are right all the time. If 'caught' being wrong, they must have someone/something to blame as any failure cannot be their fault.

> They abuse in small ways... "you could have done better" ... nothing is ever right. The root of this behavior is their need for control. Regardless of what you do, they will offer an opinion about it... which you'll learn to expect... and through this manipulation they get you to look to them for approval.

> There is much more to this.

From my experience, abusive people learned their behavior from being treated much the same way. They likely consider themselves to be strict disciplinarians ... and once you learn what they want/need from you, they'll tell you they will be less harsh about it... but they don't reason well and have no patience for questions about what they want... so it becomes a trap... one I believe is rarely resolved.

You can try to cope with the problem... try to negotiate peace... and perhaps will succeed for a time.

It isn't easy. Thanks for the article.

RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????

Its reassuring to know that basic manners and politeness are still being practised. If more people did these simple gestures, the happier n more harmonious we would all be.

RE: Emotional Abuse in Relationships

This is very impotant for woman to read it

I woman finished abused from her partner on skype webcome he was taken photo snap and after blackmail her when they breakup.

She thought he loved her were for 6 months together.

Thanks for sharing this.

I do not like the idea that when couple meet has to stay in a hotel not invited in the home for holiday can happen many things

not how they wrote the profile but when you are with them not being thesame person.

RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????

That's really a good story , Thank you for sharing

RE: Do I Need a Webcam?

YES IF YOU WANT SOMETHING SERIOUS WITH ME ;YES YOU NEED IT BECAUSE I WILL SE AT THE RIGHT PERSON IS BEHIND:

RE: How to Find Your Perfect Man

Good advice..thanks

RE: The Ten Worst Presidents

outside of america a lot of people think bush is a war criminal and a complete dimwit. he is definitely the worst.

RE: Are Affairs more acceptable for men than women?

NO.Thats a break up reason,and that is for sure......

RE: Can Women Be Funny?

yes .there will always come a day where we have to give up the Hermit life.

RE: The Ten Worst Presidents

jimmy carter was THE worst president by far we have had.i remember 18% interest rates,un-employment,gas prices,oh wait! this sounds a lot like obama now.he just took over as the worst yet.

RE: Get More Views to Your Profile

I am most grateful to this important site and all who made it possible this way to bring love ones together all kudos to u.keep up the good work more grease to your elbow , every good deed has it reward your effort will not go in vain. but i feel i am a victim with my trustworthiness, seriousness,honesty in search your ladies do not reply me i am here for real not for joke, what will i doplease help me.

RE: Is Chocolate an Aphrodisiac?

I agree 100%. I love chocolate, all kinds.

RE: Is Chocolate an Aphrodisiac?

...and add a bit of wine...red

RE: Is it time to end your relationship?

thank you for this article. i really agree to everything mentioned. but it takes a lot of effort and bravery for one to end a bad relationship. i just wish that whoever are in such state will have the strength to make that one big step forward...

RE: Emotional Abuse in Relationships

Thank you so much for posting this article. I think all women should read this, as well as men.

RE: Is Chocolate an Aphrodisiac?

one thing i can say is after reading that,i need to go down to the supermarket and indulge in some choco,youve made me damn well hungry lol

RE: nature between men and women

m back to this world

RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????

Very good article and so true people have become so busy with their lives they have forgotten what is trulyu important respect and love for each other without this we are nothing so good one putti
ng this up something for us all to learn from.

RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????

I go about things like the older gentleman. My parents taught me to respect others and treat them how I would like to be treated. Holding doors is just second nature, I don't even think about it I just do it. If I am out shopping and even if my cart isn't loaded and I see someone with a couple items I always ask if they would like to go ahead of me.

I don't do any of these things expecting something in return. I do them because I feel it is the right thing and the nice thing to do. I find it rewarding enough to put a smile on someone's face or to see their pleasant suprise by just doing what comes natural to me.

It saddens me to see so many people with this "me, me, all about me attitude" everywhere I go. And it seems everyone is in such a hurry too. I admitt there are times where I have to hurry a bit if something comes up I have to do or somewhere to be, but I don't throw respect and common courtesy out the window when I do have to rush.

RE: Building a relationship with your Pet

I have 3 cats, two males and a female (all are fixed). They are all about 3.5 years old. Each one has their own personality, and they all get along great.

The leader of the group is Romeo, he is a large orange and white cat with mitten paws. I think he is a beautiful cat, and so does everyone who has seen him. He is the first to come up to someone who comes over, and can be quite the show off. He can be very lovable, especially when he knows it's feeding time. At times it seems he never runs out of energy and loves to play and sometimes bully the other 2. he also like to be very nosey, and can open cabinets and drawers, and loves to climb (I have a 4 tier cat tree that stands about 6'2").

The there's Bell, he is a long haired black and grey tiger. He has is also a beautiful cat. Originally his name was Bella, as my (now)ex was convinced he was a female till his boys dropped (I knew he was a boy but there was no changing her mind for awhile, lol). He was very timid and shy for a long time. He rarely would come out when someone came over. In the last year I have been single he has came a long way. He is very vocal, and can be quite needy at times wanting attention. He also is a climber.

Then there's Pretty Girl. She is kind of a black and grey tortise shell with some white on her belly and paws. She was a stray I had been feeding for a few months and really took a liking to her, so I took her and the boys to get fixed about 2.5 years ago. She is the best mannered and laid back cat I have ever had. She is a lover, and craves attention. She's kind of a chub, she loves her hard food over soft food, and will weasel her way into making me give in and give the 3 of them treats.

When I come home from work or somewhere else, they are all there at the door waiting on me almost always. Bell has to be petted or he will keep meowing at me until I do. Pretty Girl will hop on my lap as soon as I sit down and want attention. Romeo is always curious to see if I brought something home, or what it is if I did.

When me and my ex split a year ago, they knew it. Me and my ex lived together the almost 4 years we were together. They never really acted as if they missed her, like they knew how she did me wrong. They knew how hurt I was, and were always right beside me when I was home. They sensed my pain somehow. I could hide my pain from my friends and family, but I coldn't from them.

RE: Hand me downs

I agree, kids are so spoiled today. They have no idea how good they have it. If there is some flashy electronic gadget like an cell phone, gaming console, ect....they have a coniption till they get it.

I grew up poor. Name brand clothing was rare unless it came from a thrift store or garage sale. Other than a birthday or christmas present, name brand shoes did not go on my feet unless I earned the money to buy them. Most of my clothing came from hand-me-downs, thrift stores, garage sales, or a department store like Walmart, K-Mart, ect... I didn't have the materialistic goodies most of the other kids had.

I had what mattered though. I had 2 parents that loved me and did the best they could. I had a roof over my head, food in my belly, and clothes on my back. Looking back I now realize I had far more than the others who had all the fancy stuff. The lessons I learned have allowed me to become a good man. I learned nothing was going to be handed to me, I had to earn it for myself. I learned to appreciate the simple things in life, and the things that mattered most. If I had to go back I wouldn't change a thing, I am happy how I turned out

RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????

A lovely inspiring story.

Very interesting is the point that the gentleman made . . . most mothers do instil basic values and common decency and respect in their young children.
The challenge is that most adults feel they no longer need to apply those values in their lives(Males and females).

PErhaps it is time for us ALL to go back to basics.

RE: What makes a man a Gentleman???????????

Nice story, thank you.

I also think that it is not only up-bring and dignity that make a man feel and act as a gentleman, but also setting is very important. Meaning when a woman acts as a Lady, a man going out with her is bound to act as a Gentleman.

RE: Ukrainian Easter Eggs

It is a Polish tradition,in fact