When we are young and our whole life is ahead of us, we have dreams and ambitions that drive us towards achieving our goals.
For some, having a family, a good job, a comfortable lifestyle, a partner and friends is the pinnacle of happiness.
For others, as the years go by life falls into a routine of lethargy and they find themselves trapped in a situation they cant or dont want to get out of.
Then there are those that survived the fallout of a world that crumbled around them or simply fulfilled their dreams and moved on to make a new life of singledom.
So, here we are, the majority of us now in our 50's and above, we know we want something, but, we cant quite put our finger on exactly what that "something" is.
We sure as hell know what it is we dont want. Many have the attitude of "I'd rather be single than settle for second best" as for the rest, what is killing your chances of ever finding someone to share your life with is that you're comfortable with what you've got, you dont want to change (although you try to convince yourselves otherwise).
If you have managed to read this far through this long blog the bottom line is...... As much as you may be happy to meet and date on occasion you really arent adaptable enough to get involved in a serious relationship. We all want others to adapt to us.
If you dont agree with the above............ Bite me!
It is a Spanish tradition that as the clock strikes midnight on New years eve a grape must be eaten with every strike ... for luck, then a New Years wish is made.
Did you make a wish and have you made you’re New years resolutions?
Geeeeezzzzzzzzzz... (a lot of snoring at the end of Geeez).. Why? Because all of you bloggers haven't posted a decent blog in ages.
If you cant think of anything interesting to post then.... DONT post. All this crap like "Yesterday I was thinking", or "This happened to me today", is boring the socks off me.
Of course, now its even worse, I have to put up with every man and his dog posting about what they are doing for Christmas.....
Give me a break!
Come on you guys, this is a dating site, hasnt anybody got any juicy scandalous stories to tell or at the very least some hot gossip?
Come on... tell uncle Solamente about how some guy has treated you badly (for the girls), or how some girl has stamped on your heart (for the guys).
I realize there is no point in asking for any blogs about sex as none of are going to be getting any this Christmas!
Not all relationships end badly, in some cases following a relationship a deep friendship ensues that in many ways can be more worthwhile than the relationship ever was.
Have you ever had a relationship that bombed, yet afterwards, found you could confide in your “ex”, ask for help and advice, tell all your worries too whilst knowing you are not going to be criticized or made to feel vulnerable?
When a guy has a buddy, they go see each other at each others’ place, go down the pub together, shoot the breeze, have a meal together, watch the box together and generally enjoy being in each others’ company.
Nobody bats an eyelid, raises an eyebrow, asks any questions, offers any advice or makes any innuendos.
SO
Why is it never the same situation when a guy has a friend who is a woman?
Some of you may remember how horrified I was the last time I went to the barbers and came away scalped (scapled even!
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Well this time it was a deliberate request following the copious numbers of women telling me that I was gorgeous eye candy with short hair.
Have to say its not my preferred choice, but then looking on the bright side, I'm saving myself shed loads of money not having to buy shampoo!
Every day thousands of people watch soap operas on television, they are fascinated by the volatile ins and outs of the relationships and daily lives of the programs characters.
I dont own a TV but thats not to say I am missing out, the latest episode on CS is playing out in real life and has everyone enthralled in the plot. As usual, the main character flits in and out of the scenes wanting to retire to a peaceful life but cant resist coming back to add comments.
Not only can I view the interactive posts on this channel but I also get the chance to see the "behind the scenes" action on the forum channel.
Of course this is not the only soap we have had on CS, apart from the bickering soaps that pervade our computer screens on a regular basis there have been other series' whereby the character once at deaths door is now a picture of health even posting pics of facials (still looks a bit pasty though
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Dont you just love soaps?.......... I do!
Dont waste your time and money on gifts, chocolates or flowers. The modern woman has no need of these frivolities.
Womens expectations these days go far beyond the considerations of yesteryear. What was once considered a romantic gesture is now expected as the "norm".
But do not despair, under that crusty shell of feminism there lies dormant a softer side that is yearning for recognition.
A birthday card is always obligatory yet what is more important than anything are the compliments of reassurance.
For example...
If a woman dresses nicely.. tell her so
If a woman looks ravishing.. tell her so
If a woman smells nice.. tell her so
If a woman does something for you... say thank you
A woman knows that you love her, but tell her so.... regularly
Words cost nothing but the rewards can be great.
I wasnt going to join the thong of blogs re the Paris episode, however, after reading what everyone has posted I feel it is important to point out a few things...
Firstly... The major world players (America, Russia etc) provide the necessary weapons and explosives that these people use.
Secondly... Countries like Saudi Arabia provide the finance to purchase these weapons and construct the infrastructure.
Thirdly...
Many of these attacks are sanctioned by the likes of the CIA etc to secure there budgets and give reason for there existence.
Fourthly...
In the main, police and security agencies know who these people are and yet politicians continue to turn a blind eye to warnings given.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself "What are these people fighting for?" Unlike previous wars its not about suppression of freedom or persecution, nor is it about territory.
Bottom line is.... Its all about people in power wanting to stay in power and they will use any means to do so. These people have no regard for human life... to them we are simply cannon fodder!
Just an observation and not that it matters at all to me, however, from posts made over the past month or so it is evident that a shed load of members on CS live in fantasy land.
I am not pointing fingers at anyone in particular so dont get on your high horse thinking I am talking about specific people... I'm not, I am just generalizing.
Ok... So here we go.....
1)The tales of woe..
Oh dear, oh dear, I gave him my heart... and he's married... Geeez!
2)Eternal love..
It's true, it's true, she told me she loved me and that our 30 year age gap was just a number... Hellooooo!
3)It's not just sex..
He told me, he did, we have a meaningful relationship... get a grip!
4)Plan B
I booked it, yay! Flying to another country to go see her/him, we've never talked or seen each other and its only been a week but I know in my heart, she/he's the one... Yeah right!
5)I'm in love
I love you, I love you too, Oh! he/she soooooo funny, makes me laugh, we talk for hours and hours, its so romantic..... Wakie, wakie!
6)The saint
He/she understands, she/he really does, although we have never met and he/she knows my life is a mess but our love is strong enough to cope, he/she tells me so, he/she is sooooo thoughtful and compassionate..... Errrrm really?
For whatever reason, people seem to get themselves into a situation that has "disaster" written all over it. By the time they realize what they have done, hearts have been broken, faith destroyed and in some cases lives ruined.
For those of you that say "I dont... " or "I wont be..." or "I would never..." I would say, dont be so sure, when someone ticks all the boxes its easy to loose sight of reality regardless of whether you think your feet are firmly grounded.
There are just some days when you cant get it all together so need a little "something" to get you started...
Here is a little something to start your day today.
(Play it at least twice)
From some of the profiles I have read recently, it seems the importance of having ones own pearly whites features high on the list of "requirements" when it comes to a relationship.
Made me think.. Yup! Having ones own teeth is a big benefit, wouldnt find it particularly arousing when preparing for night of sexy fun and frolics before which having to watch a person plonk their dentures into a cleaning solution on the bedside table then turn and give me a gummy smile!...
Do you wear dentures, if so, when having a night of passion.... What do you do with your dentures?
For you youngsters that dont have this problem... how important is a good set of gnashers to you?