Dating sites are for honesty and pen pal communications not profiling or spyware or porn etc.I find that many people are searching for their soul mate but they are only half way willing to commit to meeting a man.A good relationship comes from the heart and soul and takes time to establish.If you are not ready for that then why be on the site at all.I find there are many pretty women on the site but as a end result I only need one.so why does it take 1000's of honest communications to find a soulmate? I don't know! I reather have a spot where I could broadcast my whole life to the world than play little games or info tag forever.and why are people so afraid to meet?you all go out into public for shopping,work etc.anyway and don't often get mugged or abused doing that.so stop complaining about the bad times and truely find someone to build some good times with.a simple hello is a start.then after a good conversation weather 1 day or a year meet in a public place with an emergency phone.look at New York.lol afraid to say hi? YA GOT TO BE KIDDING.