Men have been told to do that since....well since awhile ago.
You can't do that to me.
You can't say that to me.
Honey, don't let him/her do that to me/you.
Be a man.
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with protecting yourself.
There is nothing wrong with defending yourself. However, I think there is a certain extent.
For example, this past weekend. I was having a great time out at the local bar's Halloween party. There was a Korean lady there that seemed to be rather interested in me. We had flirted with each other the whole night. Things were going rather well.
I was sitting at a table away from the bar with a great friend of mine. We were sitting there pretty much the whole evening, near the pool table, talking, and playing pool. The Korean beauty was also playing pool with us as well.
It was getting late, alcohol has certainly taken its effect. I put my quarters in the table, the balls were released. Immediately, the Korean lady ran over, to steal my game. I knew what she was up to...just her way of flirting. I am like, okay...I will just grab some more quarters from the bar, and I will get the next game.
Fine and dandy...but my friend I was with, was not okay with this. I didn't know what he said to her. But, she was gone shortly after their talk. Should I have stepped in....I wonder....but, realistically...given the complete circumstances of the situation, I knew I really didn't have any right to.
The way I looked at it....it was only fifty cents and a couple of minutes before the next game would start. I am a very patient man....so overall...it really was not a big deal.
I was not angry or upset with my friend as I explained to him my philosophy in life when it comes to situations like these...non-threatening...in particular. I told him, I believe in free-will. You hope for people to do the right things, but you cannot be in control of their free will. Especially, with this Korean lady...we had that sort of playful vibe going on all night.
His stance was, you cannot let people take advantage of you like that.
Well....
He does have a point. I am a man. A man is suppose to be in control of the situation. A man should not let anyone disrespect him. True....as it has been taught to us men.
But....before going down this whole principled path...the macro of the whole situation was not even worth taking a "manly" stance. It was in the whole scope of life...nothing.
With that said....after hearing about some guy dying in line getting a chicken sandwich....I wonder if he wouldn't be still alive today if he didn't do the whole macro prospective with the situation he was in. I heard he was with a woman....perhaps he was just being a man.
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