Inspiration for Taking charge of my life and age gracefully was given to me by a female blogger. She wrote :
“Instead of trying to find ways to cope with feeling old and alone, you have to figure out how to be happy where you are with what you have and create something new in your life - Whatever Your Circumstances. That is something everyone can do. It doesn’t take money, a life partner, or even health. If you’re unhappy with your life, try little steps to make it better. Life is hard for everyone, but we can’t allow ourselves to focus on the bad. You have to turn your thoughts to something positive. And there is always something positive. Start a ritual with a cup of coffee or tea or juice,” she says. “Clean yourself up, put on some music or your favorite morning show, pour your coffee, sit down and write down five good things about your life. Remember to include: clean water on demand, a roof over your head, living in a free country, and no wars or bombs outside your window. ”She thinks the best thing for folks who feel old and alone is to choose to focus on the good things in their life for five minutes. “Try it every morning for a week,” she says.
All above brought me to the point where I've decided to do something "nice" everyday, something small. I will also take note of 3 different things everyday that I can be grateful for in my life.
Never judge a book by its cover. t's a way of saying don't judge others…before you learn who they are on the inside. It’s a great saying but the reality is that human beings judge books by their covers. All the time. Sure, you’re great once you get to sit down and chat but the world is judgmental.
There are different ways people judge you:
1. By your wardrobe
2. By your Time Management (punctuality)
3. By Your Preparation
4. Manners and etiquette
5. By your Language
6. LASTLY BUT MOST IMPORTANT – APPEARANCES
It is the last one that’s my subject of discussion.
Appearances can be deceptive
No One is Perfect
No one is equal
If you are thin, will a stranger assume you are mean, vain, and controlling? And if you are overweight, are you observed as sloppy, slow, and lazy? A poll was conducted by Rebecca Puhl, PhD, at Yale’s Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity, asking women “to envision a female stranger who was either ‘overweight’ or ‘thin,’ then choose one pair of words to describe her.”
Per the results of this poll, overweight women were described as “slow,” “undisciplined,” “sloppy,” and “lazy.”
The article also stated that, “a study of out of the University of Manchester found that obese women had more trouble getting a job … gaining any weight at all or having a baby face (chubbier cheeks, less pronounced cheekbones) could lead to lower wages and reduced career opportunity.”
On the flip side, the poll also concluded that thin women were described as “bitchy,” “mean,” “controlling,” “conceited,” “vain,” “self-centered,” and “superficial.”
All women – thin and fat – are judged by their size.
If these conclusions are based off of what history has depicted and what our minds preconceive, how do we change things for the future? Can’t an overweight woman be a go-getter with game-changing ideas? Because a woman is thin, is she automatically controlling; or, could she perhaps have fantastic genetics and is actually a very understanding, compromising female? And, when you see a woman on the street, at the grocery store, or at the park, are you subconsciously or consciously judging her worth based on the size of her body?
I think we women are all guilty of this. So, how can we change it?
If you are overweight and struggling to find a job, does this information push you to lose some weight? Or, if you are thin and always misjudged to be a snob, would you gain some weight to push those notions away?
Why do we care what others think of us?
What do you think?
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