What I don't get about the 'big bang' is, what do theorists think existed 'before' the 'big bang?' And, are there alternate universes outside 'the big bang' universes?
Woh!! How's that for a title! Probably should don a bullet-proof vest, or two!
Before anyone jumps to conclusions, I suggest you first read a decent way into this post, to know what it's on about.
I was brief with the title, so people knew what it was about. The longer version of the blog title should probably read: "Are we single for a reason?"
Again, before anyone jumps to conclusions about what that question may imply, I suggest you read further into this post.
Some people may say: "He/she's single for a reason," to imply that that person has something wrong with them that prevents them from having a partner, or having a partner for any decent length of time.
Whilst that may be true, there are other aspects to this topic. I wanted to mention these other aspects coz I think they're worth mentioning, especially so, on a dating site.
I have my ID on this site. I'm single, and I'm open to having a future partner. However, there's something different about my approach to this circumstance that I didn't previously have.
The difference now is, I'm also happy to be single for the rest of my days! No I'm not 87! I'm 57. I'm quite eligible to spend many years still, with another person.
To summarise a huge topic, I'll try to be as brief as possible...
I'm sure most single adults can feel the need to be with another, to feel 'whole.' Whilst it's lovely to have that kind of situation, many are not, and it may have little to do with anything being wrong with us.
It's just our life circumstance! Simple as that! Hang on, you say, good people find other good people and everything is clearly in order! Are you (me) saying that other good people may not find who they're 'meant' for? My answer: Yes, that's exactly what I'm saying, AND, no-one is necessarily 'meant' to be someone else's partner. But, they 'may' be.
If we find ourselves single, then yes, it feels kinda 'UNwhole.' There is definitely a difference between being partnered and single. No question.
However being single is better than being with the wrong person. And being single should not be seen as unwhole, even though it may 'feel' unwhole.
I believe the better psychological approach a single person can take on this topic, is as follows:
1. Be active about experiencing everything life has to offer. By that I mean, don't think you cannot go to things because you're single. Go on trips, social outings, activities, whatever. And not just a few. Go out as much as is right for you. Some are social butterflies, some are quiet loners, some are somewhere in-between.
2. At different times in life, we are given a boost, strength, Grace, anointing, psychological development, new insights, whatever, that are helps. Some say these are helps from a higher power. I will leave it to the reader to decide.
3. Life is not fair! Ohhhh, how dare I! Yes, I dare! Hahaha!
Ok. Maybe the truth is best dealt with by knowing what it is!
Some say that everything becomes fair in the next life! That whatever we persevered with in this life, we will receive a reward for that perseverance in the next life. I'm not talking about a psychologically destructive perseverance, like an abusive relationship. I'm talking about things such as being single when we don't wanna be, dealing with unruly children or associates, carrying a seriously debilitating illness for many years, etc.
The end! Hahaha!
The author of this post has 20 years experience in weekly Christian men's personal growth groups; a BA (Psychology); an Advanced Diploma in Counseling; was married for 8 years and had 3 children, before becoming separated and divorced.
Occasionally I get a message from a scammer. Of course, they don't have 'Scammer123' as their title, but I know they're a scammer right off the bat.
They'll be telltale signs that I won't describe, coz that's what they want. And they've even pretended sometimes to be genuinely unknowing and want to know how I can perceptively know they're a scammer, so easily.
So how do I respond? Well I certainly don't tell them how I know they're a scammer. And don't tell them, people! What I do is send them a message before a short pause, then hit the block button.
What message do I send? It probably varies, but it'll be something like this: "Scammers don't know how obvious they are! Hahaha! I'm not calling you a scammer, I'm just making a statement! Hahaha!"
The reason I make a statement and not an accusation, is to prevent them from going to CS admin, and try and report me. Like them trying to turn the tables on me.
But I do make it quite obvious that I am calling them out as a scammer. Sometimes I may even mention what I think of scammers, which isn't pretty. But on the same token, I make sure I mention that I'm not calling them a scammer, but the message will otherwise seem to suggest that in fact I do think they're a scammer!
Ok. A universal problem and think I may have a universal easy answer: don't eat, drink!
Ah, don't be daft. We need to eat, right?... Not so fast. We probably need to eat very little. As long as we're getting sufficient nutrients via food AND drink, we may not need much by the way of food, at all!
So how do I do it? Well, the answer is simple. To stay slim, I fill my hunger with fluids in the first instance. So any hunger pangs...fill it with fluids... until, you can't stand it anymore!!! Then, have something small to eat. Then, fill the rest up with fluids again! In my case, coffee with honey and milk. And, more coffee with honey and milk. And, you guessed it! I almost live off coffee with honey and milk.
It'll keep ya slim alright. Just make sure the food is minimal, and the fluids are maximal. Enjoy.
Any questions? Fire away!
The use of sanctions are a form of penalty nations use on rogue behaviour by offending nations.
Okay, so how effective are they? I wouldn't know, but they surely would have some effect.
Here's an idea for the current situation in Ukraine: use the time length of sanctions. Here's what I mean....
For every month that Russia remains in Ukraine, the result will mean 1 or 2 years of severe sanctions.
Russia has just passed the 1 month time frame for being in Ukraine. Therefore, they suffer 1 or 2 years of severe sanctions, if they pull out now.
If they remain in Ukraine for 2 months, it's 2 or 4 years of severe sanctions after they pull out. This continuing response forms the end result of punishment on Russia.
It's Russia's choice what they want to live with going forward.
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