Well, this is my third blog and I hope I don´t offend anybody, as I am writing rather selfish. It´s monday morning, day one after a broken relationship (if it was at all) and reading blogs of other CS members doesn´t help. sorry, don´t want to offend, just think there are light years between your ideas and my concerns. The FAQ did not help, so I decided to write by myself. Well, I am okay, it´s humour not sarcasm.
Things worked out very well between me and my new online acquaittance. We wrote letters, had chat and finally met, to spend our holidays together. Everything was fine and in my case it was just a matter of time untill we would discuss more seriously about taking the next step to create a long-distance relationship. Therefor I invited her to my home and she was happy, even showed me booking confirmation only a few days later. Her life took some radical changes, as she was always career orientated, and therefor took the opportunity to accept a job she was offered. This is what I would like to call the intervention of a third party into our relation. Since that time her concern was only about that job. Before she told me it´s for 6 months - I supported her. Later she told me it will last for minimum 3 years. Asking her - where is my place in your life now? Not getting an answer. - Been asked: we could postpone holidays if you don´t feel comfortable. I replied: well, I invited you. It depends on you. Take invitation if you feel comfortable. She promised to take invitation. Two days before scheduled flight she informed - job issues. Needs to leave for some reasons. Her feeling sorry, feeling sad. Same with me. I did not reply message. Waiting 3 days. Felt better. Asking if she was successful. Discussing all personal issues with her. Finally made my decission: to stop this unhealthy relation.
I read article on CS how to end relationship. So I took the advice given there, thanked her for the good times we spend and wished her good luck for professional and personal life- putting this together in an email.
And she replied, unable to formulate any clear idea. Not thankful, only accussing me, blaming me for everything, stating her superiority. I am thankful to have loyal friends. So it doesn´t bother me any longer.
For you, my readers. Take this one advice: if a person (male or female) thinks success in job makes her/him a better person, then it´s time to part ways, before you sell the last part of your dignity to this business shark.
I guess nobody expected to read further blogs from that Kraut. But, hey we have super-heat and almost 40 degrees, So it´s okay if i try to cool my mind with some old rope for my readers. Needed to plunder my memory for some CS stories. Will write one, and then see if it´s worth trying to write more for you.
If CS was an professional agency, we would expect more than just random friends from the internet. But otherwise we also could come here with low expectations and then benefit from this site. With this knowledge I started here in october 2010. It took me 4 weeks untill I got recognized as serious match from a young lady. Her profile showed her somewhere on a large square with a dark coat and dark boots. The rest of her information was rather unprecise, as it seemed she exploited an old friend to open profile for her on this site. This friend was Italian, the profile made her Polish, but actually she was Ukrainian. But this was not the only curiosity about her and her profile. Originally her profile was opened for a man, but she tried to change her gender. This worked, but several features didn´t work as in other woman´s profiles. It´s really funny if you hear all this, getting response to your initial letter. Having some experience with scammers from the past, I really enjoyed to exchange letters with her. So after 4 weeks we agreed to meet on messanger and I was really surprised that I really talked to a woman. Well, we didn´t talk for a long time, as she didn´t feel safe about her English. Seeing all the guys rushing behind her while camera was on, I expected some of them may type messages for her all the time. So we concentrated to write IM, as she was really busy and didn´t miss any day to write with me there. Even christmas passed without drama in her family, so I decided to take her serious and give us a chance. So for New Year I promised to come to visit her in April, as we could then celebrate Easter holidays in her country. Valentine´s Day required some greater action than just having second video chat ever, so I concluded a girl who is looking for a life-time partner would be happy to get her ring of engagement for that date. I was right and holidays with her, meeting with her family was really a great pleasure for all of us.
I learned, that you can trust a person, if you take your time to understand all the curiositys behind that person. Sometimes we are too fast to draw wrong conclusions and when somebody is not so self-conscious, it´s rather difficult for such a person to make some friends here.
As it´s my first blog, I´d like to write a few words for the other bloggers, to explain why I am posting here.
First thing is, I guess I have some ideas to entertain, and second is, there are many blogs that are around anything - but not about concrete CS topics.
I could write now, what i want to tell happened to a friend who told me...but I should be honest, as all clever guys will soon find out I am lying and would not give a dime to any of my words in future. You see - I am new, so i have to tell the truth. Being more experienced, I also could lie.
I visited a music festival some time ago and a young woman was dancing next to me. I waited for the right moment and asked for her name. So we tried to have a conversation, it was a bit difficult in the beginning as we didn´t find a common language. She told me she´s from Mexico and learns German for 3 months here. Her english was far worse than mine and managing all the problems I finally - giving questions and answers for 10 minutes - asked for her mobile number, as band soon would stop to play and we would part ways. That´s were she started to pretend, as she told me she hasn´t her mobile with her and doesn´t know the number, so somehow I took a pen and gave her mine. She took paper and soon after he promised me to send me SMS, I realized she had mobile in her bag, seeing it when she opened it for a moment to bring my number to a save place. She even discussed with her friends about me, i could see from their looks and her distinguished ignorance towards me while leaving. Never heard anything of her!
So I conclude she either just played with me to entertain herself and her friends - a couple in the late 40s or anything made her change her mind about me. Some may consider me as scary talking to a woman of 1m70 "down" from 1m88, but having a nice chat beside an entertainment we both enjoyed. It seemed to leave no "imprint" in her mind.
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