what ever happened to normal?

So many people seem to be going out of there way to stand out and be different, what ever happened to just being whatever comes naturally? If you try to impress somebody with abnormal things you wouldnt normally do it kinda fools them into thinking you are a certain way about things onlyforthem to find out later you are obviously notafter they may have spent time in a relationship, makes no sense to me. I know youve probably heared all that before but does anybody notic that even whn they are aware of it they do it anyway, it seems to be instilled in us for years we were raised on the belief that its ok to fool people and make believe to get what we want even though if you think about it its not even really what you want.