Question for plus-sized females.

I have a question for all plus-sized women. As a man who honestly prefers bbws over petite women, I do notice that when a profile says "plus-sized", the photos sometimes appear older from years ago or cropped from the neck down. Why do I see this so often with plus-sized women ?

I do understand that many men are looking for barbie dolls, I get that. However for us men who are looking for a relationship with a plus-sided lady, could I ask some of you to post recent photos / not be afraid to show your body ? ( I say that with respect, as a man who simply wants to see a photo of a possible love interest. )

Let me know your thoughts and how you feel about this, comment or message me.

Take care,

- William
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Yes, did you call? grin

Well, I can only speak for myself...

As a plus-size, I am not confident enough to show the lower part of my body especially my huge mid-section and my short and stubby legs. I have thunder thighs and unsightly cankles blues help

That left me with only my face to show to potential suitors and I resorted to photoshop.

I added on ‘eyebrows’. I made my eyes bigger and brighter. Slimmer nose and face. Photoshopped away all the blemishes and scars.

It seemed to work coz I did reel Arthur in and when he met me in the airport for the first time....he nearly died! giggle
Hello, William....
One good thing in life is...people will accept us for who we are, despite our imperfections.

When you said, older from years ago, or cropped from neck down, ...simple English but quite puzzled me..they really showed their plus sized figure...meaning they are confident of themselves...no insecurities..that's a good sign...cheering handshake
when someone has to take a picture of themselves it is very hard to fit in more than their face. unless one has been blessed with very long arms, or willing to take bathroom selfie pics.
so you're interested in the body more so the face/the person....
Can't say I'm surprised.

You asked for thoughts concerning you comment, well here's mine.
this place is a dating site and not a cattle market, we're not cows that should parade our whole selves about we the hope to catch the eye of A friggin man.
According to the fashion industry, I'm plus-sized.
If you’re plus-sized, MiMi’s a hippo then! rolling on the floor laughing

Jac applause
I think your request is valid however I also believe it should be a private request from a potential gal you are interested in.

Good luck honey.
...for you, Boston.

And MiMi.
MiMi will appreciate it also.
grin

cowboy
You a practical man BostonBlack. A plus sized woman will keep you warm in winter and provide shade in summer. wink
And shield against strong winds too, Miguel wink grin
Mick applause

‘Big Girls’ grin
I reckoned you'd like that one, MiMi.

'...not a dayumed thang!' mumbling

cowboy
I knew of a man who had told me that he preferred plus sized women over petite women cause the petite women were always so cranky.
Also that the petite women were always dieting which also made them cranky.
Disclaimer: My above comment was not targeting them thin women. It was just an observation made by Art. He didn’t say ‘all’ thin women, just the ones that he had gone out with. Maybe he was just unlucky or who knows, they were the lucky ones to have gotten away!! grin peace
Well you're not petite Bear yet you're one on the crankiest here ...
so there goes that theory right out the window talk to hand
Oh noooooooo!!!!!!! jaw drop

I’ve just checked your profile, IW.,,,, you’re......



Slim


And


Slender


help help help


No...no, this one is better....

bowing bowing bowing
For the sake of the rest of us please leave it to the imagination
I just love all size women dancing

I love nice women. dancing

I even love women that are meaner than the devil. dancing

I also love cupcakes.

Hi Mimi. wave
My shape/size isn't important Mimi hug

But this chap of yours, why couldn't he just say he likes/loves you just the way you are.... why the need to
step on other women to make you feel better, well that to me is not a nice guy snooty
Tickets here. Get your tickets to the upcoming CS women's mud slinging wrestling match.
Bring your own mud splash protector. laugh
JN don't forget to duck.laugh
Wow...this blog should be deleted. sad flower
CHS wave

I think the OP was just stating his preference in women but I guess MiMi has turned his blog into something else and it’s all my fault. I have a tendency to do that to most of the blogs here....blues
Mud slinging...?

Nah, we plus-sized hippos prefer to wallow in it.

Unless Mimi wants to wrestle in it with me, in which case, game on. shimmy grin
Jim wave

Yup, he said the same to me too, about not bringing the past....especially his...into our relationship.

MiMi has got this jealous streak that just won’t go away....sigh
No bathing suit. wow CS does not approve such blatant nudity. scold laugh
M - and you think you will be LESS jealous discussing his past loves ? laugh
This is one circumstance where ignorance IS bliss. laugh
Mimi u r such a sweetheart....and it’s not all your fault, I guess human beings r just cranky if we don’t get our Cheerios. laugh or whatever it may b! :) ....cheers hug wave
Hey Mimi, no harms done, all's good here hug

I just wish you'd stop poking fun at yourself and appreciate your own self worth comfort

You're a special Lady we all know it, and at this stage you should know it as well wink

teddybear
BBM I had no problem with what and how you posted it. I've witnessed while out in public where some men would make sneers at plus sized women.
Naww, what a nice man.
I think this is a sincere blog, I like the message.

I'm petite, guys I've dated recently goes to the gym everyday and have nice body, it does encourage me to stay fit and healthy too. Have nothing against a plus-sized people, I respect everyone big and small but being fit and healthy makes me happier and less cranky.

good luck to you, BBM!thumbs up
Crazy, it wasn’t the blog itself, it was the ruffled feelings and upset that came from not understanding his (the OPs) intent.

I agree, all sizes are great, for one size does not fit all. ....as far as health, part of the problem is the food industry, they should put a brake on all the unhealthy fattening food dominating grocery shelves and concentrate on healthy choices.

But no, greed prevails.sad flower
Boston, I've just read your blog and it is a respectful one wine

I would think the main reason they don't have full body shots is they don't want to open themselves up to ridicule from others.

If they describe themselves as large or curvy, then take it that they are, and contact them. You can exchange pics privately when both of you feel comfortable doing that.

Believe me, no woman will say they are large if they are not. They are more likely to downsize themselves, not upsize.
Much respect, however I don't agree with blaming the food industry. We eat what we like, nobody needs to put it on a tv commercial or on a grocery store shelf to force us into buying it. We are accountable for our own choices, we can point a finger at nobody else.

As far as plus-sized ladies posting photos, there really is an unspoken fact that some do not post photos because "some men won't like them". That is factual, to be honest. The point of my original post was to remind the ladies that the men "who won't like them" are the men which they do not need in their lives to begin with.

Much love.
Agree to disagree on food industry, B. Ever see a documentary on how our food is made?

Yes, it is our choice to eat carrots instead of pop tarts, no question.

It’s the ever constant temptation which is hard for many to resist....that is why schools are concerned over cafeteria menus.

Hope u find miss right.

cheers
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