"About Relationships II"
The paradox continues because there is not better opportunity that this intimate relationship potentially destructive to meet with ourselves and to destroy our habitual masks. This way, many times, we finish solving this paradox avoiding the suffering, impeding us the love and depriving us of the intimate encounter. In our intent of say no to the pain say not to the love. And what is worse, we say no to ourselves.The problem is presented when we identify ourselves with our armor and we feel sure there. We protect ourselves of our feelings learning how to not feeling, to we disconnect of our necessities, and the defenses are converting in a wall that separates us of what we feel and it impedes us the love.
I don't believe that it is necessary to masquerade of strong so that the other love me. If I make it, I will never know if he will be able to love me how I am: vulnerable, weak, as any human
Is true, that it is not easy show us with our fears or our vulnerability, for example. But if I am vulnerable (and of course that all we are) I need to accept my vulnerability to be present and to continue ahead. In that moment we can observe the true fight that it is raised in our interior among the part that wants to expand, to go toward out, to be shown, and the part that wants to hide because is afraid of being disqualified, unloved, abandoned and rejected.
And in this road we constantly get rich, because we come closer more and more to ourselves that it is the only way to feel good, feel love, peace and happiness; the things that we are looking for. Because we all look for to feel good, the problem is that sometimes we take inadequate ways.