tenant or home-owner? does it make a difference?
Some people rent all their lives, and some buy as soon as they can scrape up a depositSome tenants would like to buy but only if they found the perfect place.
Some buyers regret buying and sell even at a loss to get out of a bad property.
Some tenants are careful, paint and decorate and keep their place immaculate, with constant small improvements - if there is a garden, it is kept in perfect order. They'd be devastated if they were given notice to leave.
Some tenants don't do a thing to the place, not theirs so why bother? When it gets too much of a mess they can move on at any time
Some tenants are actively destructive - they should care, the most they lose is the deposit, right? They flit and disappear having near destroyed the place
Some owners, true, true, are also pretty lazy and neglect the property
If this was on a single's profile, I'd find it interesting to see how a careful responsible tenant, versus the owner of a ramshackle ruin, works out romantically - whether a tenant by choice, or an owner by preference, is more stable in a relationship
I have no idea how that works out, by the way. The countries I have lived in, most people are home-owners, and I know in other countries most people have to be tenants, so my research is very restricted! A guy living in a cardboard box under a bridge is likely not a great prospect on so many levels anyway
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Yup, those living at home will certainly be faithful partners, they don't like change. I think they'd expect a fair bit of looking after but at the same time, if they are staying with now-elderly parents, they'd be caring, seems to me.
As for your last bf, you can fill in a vital bit of data here! Did he maintain the relationship better than he maintained his fixer-upper?
If they are in a relationship they're the type who run back to their mummy when things don't work out.
In other words...they want a mother substitute.!!!
He doesn’t come from a rich family and owning properties was like a measurement of his success.
MiMi knows he’s obsessed about collecting houses under his belt therefore when we divorced, I gave my 50% share of the house I’m staying in right now, to him.
Even our divorce lawyer couldn’t believe it and asked me numerous times if I’d like to change my mind.
I know by owning the house 100%, he’d be very happy. As for MiMi, she’s already very happy she has got her Arty
Here, home ownership is the preferred choice. Plus tenants' rights are pretty abysmal.
Whereas in countries like The Netherlands, most people rent all their lives, but have security of tenure.
As for its value either way on a dating site, I for one couldn't care less if someone owns, rents or even lives with their mother.
They may live with their mother because the mother doesn't like living alone, and they are a good caring person. I would never see that as a negative.
Plus, often when marriages break up, at least one of the people cannot afford to buy a new property again, at least in the short term, so renting is the only option.
Some even have to continue sharing the same house as their ex for a while. I know a few people who had to do that. It is far from ideal, but sometimes it is the only option short-term. it's better than being homeless.
As I say, it is all down to circumstances.
I'm not sure whether a mommy's boy is better or worse than a man who hated his mother.
Please give the benefit of your experience on the fixer-upper-who-didn't
Having said that one of my best friends owns a house in semi-permanent chaos always needing patching and maintenance and my own house seems comparatively serene when I get back from a visit and yet she's absolutely brilliant at long-term happy relationships and I am not. So my own argument just shot itself in the foot
If they are a hoarder or it is ultra-spotless at all times, then that person probably has OCD or some other mental issue (illness is too strong a word).
I love houses that are always visitor-ready, but not showhouse sterile. That shows an organised person with no issues
I am a bit on the untidy side myself but hope to be one of those homeowners when I grow up
There's usually a slightly panicky 'just a minute just a minute' shout to the door while I kick things out of sight ...
Last job was in Scotland but when retired sold up and moved back here. Give my lads a lumper and then had holidays i could never have afforded with thew rest. China, Croatia, Austria, Malta all just wonderful, and tooing and frowing back to Scoland.
This little nest egg (now finished) has kept me moving to where and when i want, I cannot imagine living in same place for years that is not in my blood.
My sons who live one in Scotland one down South reckon my ashes will go in the sea at John-a-groats and some in Landsend ha ha They could meet in the middle of a big plastic bag ha ha
How do you know my spotless home isn't inviting?
You always presume and speak for others..Speak for your bloody self!~
I prefer owning, not debt
When people give their opinion on here, it is understood that it is their opinion, and that other people have different opinions and viewpoints. That is the whole nature of opinions and comments.
We could write JMO with every statement we make, but as it is already understood that it is our opinion, there is no point.
Merc, know you're talking to Molly but there's spotless and spotless, you don't come across as the type who jumps forward to plump up my cushion the minute I stand up, whisks away my glass to wash up when it's empty - I feel guiltily that I'm making the place untidy just by being there.
Bogart I would have guessed wrong with you, then, I would have put you down as one who likes being unfettered
Molly, know you're responding to Merc, just sticking in my opinion (because I can
And now I am off to write Christmas cards although I think I have left it too late to post to UK anyway. Tchah.
But always bought only what I could afford- free always.
hum, why write. ??... texting is as good as a card...
Financially, I would suggest being a home owner is preferable, in general, property increases in value thus providing a return on the monthly amount paid to a mortgage, whereas, renting offers no return to the monthly payments made.