You've changed
Every serious relationship you were ever in, changed you. Men change for women and yes, women really do change for men.Did you keep the changes or shed them with relief when the relationship ended?
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Did you keep the changes or shed them with relief when the relationship ended?
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See? I can do them!
I learned to be more patient in the last one, and I do try no keep that up (even if it kills me)
And I try not to think too much into the future as well. A difficult thing for a planner
Or the outsider says it to them - you've changed so much since you got involved with That Woman (or of course That Man)
but I always change. and learn. everyday.
Biff
Because you might be wiping out your chances with some of the lady bloggers if you aren't ever so careful
There would need to be careful negotiation before either returned, and I won't be calling on the ex pm May to fight my side
Yes, it's one of the good things. Aside from that I'm the same person...or maybe a little crazier but I like it, makes me feel in control.
I know of a guy who used to boast he never watched TV at all and he's now watching soaps and not even in his own language. Picture the look of dumb suffering in his eyes but - ahhh, love changes you all.
By the way if there are any male TV programs that act as catnip, please (anyone) let me know, I will seriously consider investing in a TV and will list the programs on my profile
Would you ever quieten down for the otherwise-perfect guy, or would you make him be crazy too? (change, change, all about change)
And yes we all change even on our own, sometimes the changes that come with living alone make it even harder to think of ever being with someone else - all that FUSS.
But the right person wouldn't feel like a fuss, I guess.
You sort of have to get over it before trying with someone else and mucking them about - JMO
But me, if having to watch F1 was the price, I'll be single a while yet
I tried hard to be extra nice but the craziness is always there...that seems to be the attraction
Day by day step by step we change with new learning but get rid of what harms us, like someone scatching his ash and bits ha ha in front of me.
I don't feel I change, more so situational compromise.
Twelve years ago I dated a very wealthy lady that wanted to change my "ME" to say the least, in many ways I felt like a price tag or a commodity to be brokered.
One has to keep in mind the mindset of the wealthy, the talk that happens around the kitchen table, from infant to infinitive ..............
Change can be a wonderful adaptation to ones life, as long as it can benefit in all aspects regardless of simple minded mockery.
Crazy extra nice AND crazy is perhaps the winning formula?
Red I would say I got braver and have carried on getting braver. So that was fairly fundamental.
Scratching his ash??????
Bentlee, know of two men who took up with much richer women and couldn't handle being treated like possessions. Do you think it is because women are clumsy at it? Or men simply don't like being kept? Many many rich men don't seem to have that much problem persuading women to become their bought-and-sold playthings
I know some people love it, but it wouldn't sit well with me
Would you have to ask them for money when you want to get your hair cut and stuff?
Eeek
But I do miss not having to worry about all the expenses myself. Perfect world whoever has the money, the other partner has enough money of their own to buy what they want, including luxuries, without an inquisition because it is their own money.
I can´t say that I ever had to change with any of my relationships but, becoming and being the person I really am!
I also go along with what that Crazy lady said...
If there was an inquisition, I would lose my temper anyway
I remember my friend's husband encouraged her to give up her (part-time) job when their child was young. She did. I was with her one day when he was rude to her when she asked him for money to get her hair cut (just a basic trim, nothing fancy). She was very embarrassed.
I swear, he was lucky I held my tongue, and that was only because of loyalty to her
My worst experiment was with someone who made me eventually beady-eyed and suspicious, as it turned out for good reason, but that demon once out the box is hard to dismiss forever and entirely. The demon still pops up to sniff at the atmosphere occasionally, very unsettling - and worse, when I am being normally curious and am accused of jealousy, it sends me into a loop. Am I?
Tchah.
Back in the old old days it was understood the wife had an allowance and made do on that. Much better.
Ifwhen I get super-rich I will adopt that system for my companion(s), I think.I had to walk away
A look would not have conveyed how I felt
A lump hammer across the noggin might have