How do you do to forget? To not miss anymore?
It's been exactly 8 years already, and I still can't seem to move on. Yeah, I move on, on the outside, new people, new relationships, but still no one that compares to her."I've turned away from you, and now I am Godless".
Shit man, how do you cope? How do you move on? Srsly. How? When?
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You are pretty young and 8 years ago has been the age when everything in love is dramatic and forever...
Just a thought...
But I'm more than sure she's still the ideal she's always been to me. I am really sure.
I do understand you perfectly...
10K km is a serious "moving" but obviously just "away" and not "on"...
You see the situation from your own perspective, but you probably avoid thinking what it looked like from her side of the fence... She moved on, I suppose she didn't try to contact you either...
She was ideal for you but were you ideal for her?!
No one is better than our ideal...
Not knowing what happened I can only presume...
Whatever made you run so far away is holding the key to your unwillingness to move on...
Just be happy for her, wherever she is, whatever she does...and allow yourself some happiness too...
I am not saying it's easy but it is very much possible...
If she wanted you back she would have found a way to do it...never underestimate a woman who loves...
pKrema: When did I compare anyone to anything? I'm not quite understanding?
To make it simple, maybe I didn't state myself properly: I never said anyone is better or worse than my ideal. I guess different people have different views on romance and stuff.
What happened is that I wasn't ready for something serious, I wasn't. And I had some other unresolved issues which led me to end the relationship, mostly for the best of her. That doesn't mean I'm not allowed to miss her, does it?
I am happy for her, I never said I wasn't. I was just trying to get an idea (or anyone's personal experience) on how to move on; that's all.
I never implied she wanted me back either. And I never understimated aynone either, neither a woman or a man. I don't think love is related in any way to our gender.
But not being able or not willing to move on is a result of everything I mentioned already...
Are you sure you are honest with yourself?!
I am not attacking you but trying to understand you better...
I know the feeling...and I am preaching to you knowing very well how hard is all this to achieve...
It is possible to be honest with yourself, I am sure you've had these moments of complete, awakening sobriety...
But the best is yet to come and even if this statement brings little to no excitement at this moment it will come sooner or later, when you open the doors to welcome it...
Tell her that she was on your mind and you wanted to know if she was happy.
Plain and simple. You may be surprised in several ways.
The only way for you is to go and find out.
If not, you will always be wondering.
We all have what ifs....i think the idea of her is more tempting than the having of her.
Move on....find some hobbies...interests...build up your own life and love yourself....then see ifyou think about her as much as you do now
If you still do..then go after her.... but u better be sure you want it all the second time around...and not two weeks in get cold feet again.
Not sure what to suggest, maybe a little vacation somewhere away from the same surroundings, probably make up a list of reasons why things didn't work out and have a look at it whenever you start missing her.
I feel for ya man, when you really like someone, its hard to let go.
Well what name would you chose if you have a chance ? Lol
The only way a person can have closure and go to the next step in their life, is have the courage to talk to the person, even after that person has moved on to another relationship.
Having that courage to talk to the person, is the hardest thing in this life, but the most rewarding......She may be experiencing the same pain, because she too didn't have closure, even if she is in another relationship.
Pray about this, and allow God to give you the courage and resilience to have healing in your life and guide you to the next step. With God all things are possible, if you believe.