True love is worth it.

Many people say you cant find love on a dating site. I have found you dont find true love by looking for it. It will find you when the time is right. Your best bet is to find a best friend of the opposite sex. Unless you are into that same sex thing. Im not. I have known a true love. It is completely and unequivocally worth it. It takes a lot tho. You have to both be completely honest. You can not make someone special or feel special if they are not the only one. Its impossible. If you are cheating you are cheating yourself. You have use a lot of understanding to. Unconditional understanding. Its takes that because women and men are two very different creachers. We think and speak differently. That is really what cause so much tention. Wemen speak the language of love. They need to know they are loved and appreciated. By both showing them and telling them. Just like she needs air she needs to feel important and loved to be completely happy. Most marriages end with the pursuit of each other ending. That allows things to stagnate. So you never stop pursuit if you want it to last. Its is a lot better if you build you partner up. Not tear them down. Support them and believe in them. Cheer them dont yell. Yelling at someone really is stupid when you think about it. The first thing that happens when you are yelled at is you stop listening. The second is you go on the defensive because you are being attacked.
Men speak the language of respect. They need to feel respected the same way a woman needs love. Its like the air you breath. However uncondition respect is harder to find. Either because there are less respectable men in the world or we are taught respect has to be earned. It is a curse really. A man speaks unlovingly to his women so she speaks disrespectful to him and it can turn into a nasty circle. One feeding off of the other. That is where unconditional understanding has to be used. Lets face it. Its hard to treat some with respect when they are acting disrespectable. It is easier to treat a woman lovingly when they are speaking or treating you unlovingly. Make no mistake about it being a curse. Its a very old one goes all the way back to the garden of eden. Punishment for eatting the forbidden fruit. So you can't get around it. I think it helps to understand it tho.