Turn on's, pet peeves, and what not

Human beings are puzzling creatures. The more I interact with them, be it in matters of business, family, love, etc. . .it's like people make me feel more extra-terrestrial with each experience I have. I don't mind being "weird" or "oddball", however it does start to make one feel alone in the big ol' yoUniverse when you keep running into folks that aren't on the same page, chapter, or even the same genre of book as you.

I really find it exciting when I meet people that aren't satisfied with religion. They have an insatiable hunger that going to temple/church and just reading the sacred texts and praying when they need things, just isn't enough. People that eat, sleep, & breathe the divine and see the Creator in all aspects of life. That's refreshing.

I think it's awesome when I meet people that are strong enough to be 100% themselves. Authenticity is a massive turn-on to me. ---- How can you find the perfect one, when you're pretending to be something you're not ? So that when you do meet that one who knocks your socks off, you've spent so much time and energy into luring them in with this "fake persona", that little by little, time chips away. Til one day they wake up beside you, and are like "Who the f*ck ARE you?" and then they leave, because you sold them a lie.

It's incredible when a man is so into a potential partner, that not only does he protect him/her from others; he protects them from himself. Keeping his own desires at bay, enough to display respectful behavior at all times. Nothing says: "I love you", more than a partner that has self control over their carnal desires. Everyone has a "beast" but that doesn't mean its attractive to be let loose just because you've got him/her alone in a room or in private chat.

Another turn on is people that are open to being friends first, and taking the time to learn about one another while having fun in each other's company; be it sharing silly jokes, or playing game together, or just having a chat when you're free to do so . . . as often as you two feel the need to spend time.

It's also impressive when you meet a person that can relate to you emotionally. Having ones feelings validated, speaks volumes. Showing compassion by being there and holding space for the other person, that allows them to feel safe with you emotionally - letting them know it's okay to be vulnerable around you, that you're trust worthy enough to be the rock they needed in that moment.

Things that suck, is when people are manipulative - when they lie - gaslighting - jumping to conclusions or assuming you know what's going on with the other, before getting all your facts straight << The worst is when a fight is started from that bullshit Aries and Capricorn are good for that crap (now, I'm not saying that every Aries/Capricorn in existence is that way - however, I don't trust either of them until I see a consistent pattern of behavior that proves otherwise)

Other things that turn me off: being disrespected, being treated as if there's something wrong about having or expressing emotions, being referred to by my anatomy, being groped, being referred to as an infant (anyone that calls a person they are sexually attracted to "baby" repulses me - sex and infant/baby don't go together unless the person is a p3dophile). Adults should refer to one another as adults, when things are going down a romantic route. Calling me baby is one of the swiftest ways to burn the bridge with me and get blocked.

I just prefer real genuine people. You don't have to agree on every single thing in life 100 % to be friends or even in a relationship. You can agree to disagree. Variety exists for a reason. Why spend so much time and energy trying to please friends and family, so that at the end of the day you feel empty and alone because you're too scared no one will love the real you ?

You better start loving yourself first. If people have problem with who you are, then they don't love you