Apologies
People apologize for only two reasons; firstly because they were wrong and are truly sorry or secondly because they are under pressure to do so. I don’t care much for the latter and I won’t include those timid souls who are forever apologizing about everything to save the peace; whether they are right or wrong. That’s not apologizing; it is grovelling.
Now don't take offense as I'm not saying anything. This is all hypothetical. Besides, if you do it will only reveal what you think of yourself.
Let’s imagine a hypothetical situation during a small altercation on the blogs where I called another blogger the biggest arsehole I have ever come across. Allegations like that don’t just slip out; such an opinion of him was build from previous thoughts and it takes a lot of frustration to force it into the open.
If he then runs to management and I’m given the options to apologize or face suspension – a
fairytale in itself – I’d apologize but it will not mean a thing. Nothing has changed. I’d still think that he’s an arsehole and I’ll probably apologize by conceding that he’s not the biggest arsehole that I have stumbled across and that I’m sorry for calling him that. Regardless, he will just become an even bigger arsehole in my opinion. Apparently we are allowed to have opinions… as long as we keep them to ourselves. 
On the other hand, if later I should discover that my opinion of the guy was wrong and that he’s not such a big arsehole at all, then I have done him wrong and I should and would apologize in a most sincere way. I was wrong about him and I will tell him so.
Maybe we can look at another hypothetical scenario; let’s assume that I’m told to apologize or face suspension – more wishful thinking
– after expressing the opinion that half the members at CS are arseholes, I believe that I’ll gladly (and honestly) concede that half the members at CS are not arseholes. 
I wish you all a great day.
Comments (48)
When I apologize, I do that sincerely.. whatever the reason is.
That is the only way to apologize. otherwise it is a lie.
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Then why do you apologize when you're not to blame?
Whether they choose to accept my sincere apology or not, I can move on.
Welcome back Catfoot
To me, it’s not important to be right.
I don’t always have to be right ( except when it comes to my Arty
While I'd be more than willing to apologize when I'm wrong, I don't much care about apologies. Anybody can say 'I'm sorry', I'm more interested to know that the same thing will not be repeated.
but the other person need not be right every time either. Nobody wins when one person is right all the time.
He’s really my honeybunch, sugar plum
Pumpy-umpy-umpkin
My sweetie pie
My cuppycake, gumdrop
Snoogums, boogums,
He’s the apple of my eye
I often read opinions when one degrades another, I never join in unless asking who they are talking about. Sometimes I agree with the opinion and many times not but I don't post my opinion either way. On this site I've never posted a blog about another blogger that annoys me but trust me there are some blogs if I read them I would go barking mad so I don't.
Without forgiving you have no peace but the biblical 70 times 7 is stretching it too far. I'm quite prepared to forgive; as long as it does not happen again. My forgiveness is like a suspended sentence. If you do the same thing again your previous transgressions stand up.
Does Arty have a mustache?
The question really is whether you're to blame. I would not be able to apologize with sincerity if I thought that I was not to blame. I mean, I'd apologize but in my own way
Art is so gonna kill his MiMi now!!!
I agree but we all have a price. It all depends on how much we'd like to stay or keep the job or whatever. It does not always go about membership of a free dating site. Sometimes there are more at stake.
I never apologize, Lisa. I'm sorry, but that's just the way I am.
It probably wouldn't be accepted anyway as it would sound so false.
He looks like my brother-in-law with that mustache. Comr to think about it, by brother-in-law shaved his before he as part of the contract when he married my sister. He still cries about it when we're drunk
True but at our age we don't get away with a take-it-or-leave-it attitude as easy as before.
That is probably true for me as well. I think my blog demonstrated the sort of apologies you could expect of me if I believed that I was right.
Dedo
That’s a fake moustache
He sometimes puts it on when we Skype just to make me laugh
I thought you were that good with cutting and pasting.
diplomacy i not my forte
Good to see you back,
That is, if the person you were gossiping with didn't leak your information, how would the first party know?
But which half are those ones.?
I also tend to call a spade a spade. And I'm never politically correct.
Though I won't class myself as a gossiper, I am fond of leaking a story to the right person. I do this whenever I want to address some issue but I want the other person to initiate it.
No sweat and none offered.
Oh dear, but I said nothing. It was all hypothetical ramblings.
Joking? What do you mean joking? Now you have popped my bubble. I thought it was an admission of guilt.
As usual you bring sanity to the "insane online world".
For me , the older we get, the more intolerant I am towards fake people and fake reactions/fake feelings.
hope all is going well with you.
Just trying to restore some balance to our world. So much work and so few helpers. One can only do his best and no more.