Looking for Love ( in a dating site)
Many people here openly say they are looking for love.Where do they think to find it ?
People are so obsessed with finding love. (I feel) But it's not a job/business opportunity, lost puppy or a Diamond in a mine to be found or to look for.
You can not find love signing up in a dating site with an ideal partner solidly etched in your head. Matches are only made in heaven. May be you will find a perfect match if and when you reach there. On earth you have to become the match.
Be open minded. Be kind. Be loving. You have to start loving in order to be loved. Love is in loving. You won't find it anywhere else unless you first find it in your own heart.
So... until you find love within yourself, all you need is not love. A shag, a partner to share your life or loneliness with. (May be.)
Delete the ideal image in your mind and learn to accept people for who they are while not changing who you are. That's the basic seed of love.
Or just say, looking for a shag. That is honesty to a certain degree with most profiles. I think.
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Congrats
Well said Usha!
Hi Usha
Again? More advice?
I wouldn't be looking for love on a dating website. Too many people lying and not many that are capable of building up a healthy relationship from my experience.
Real life, through friends or groups with similar interests would be the way to go for me if I wanted to meet someone.
Hope all is well with you and your daughters usha.
Lovely user name.
I don't know what others are here for. I can speak to myself and say, I like learning. I learn a lot about people's lives and experiences, how they overcome challenges and heartaches. And of course I love chuckles. I like learning English too. I am kind of Thomas the doubter. Seeing is believing for me. So I knew finding a man in here is not going to be easy. Over the years I have learnt the heartaches of wireless fidelity or infidelity. But we are all different beings.
So let's say chuckles and friends.
Ask away darling. But you have to promise me that you are not going to rock me to sleep in missionary services.
I must Google your username.
You shouldn't have gotten one in the first place.
Looks like we made it
Look how far we've come my baby
We mighta took the long way
We knew we'd get there someday
We're all constantly open to love, in a good way I think! We just need to meet someone who we can annoy for the rest of our lives!
This is something I realised recently in real life. So I thought of sharing that experience with online seekers.
I never took interest in men who are younger to me. Even if he was just a year younger. It's something that is natural been a mother of adult daughters. ( I think) But I am falling for a young man. He makes me laugh and we can talk about anything under the sun. So I have to erase that number from my head first.
Now you got me?
I don't know if matches are made in heaven or hell. I was referring to the saying, " Match made in heaven."
Gracious lord, good seeing you. Been a long time. Hope everything is going great for you.
I gave my oldest daughter in marriage March this year. Three more to go. Slow and steady getting there. I want them to be happy, and be sure they are with the right one. My patience never runs out. They have grown up to become women K.
Very well written and spelled out.....it is important to be available as well....I think anyway. I also think that love will let you know when you have found that one.....one way, you will feel it.
Yes. Agree with you. You know it is right when it is right.
She looks after her teeth like gold. I was telling her she brushes too much.
Anyway, I didn't know there are bacteria like rainbows.
Good luck to your daughter.
Methinks some are just trying too hard. Love is best when it comes to you!
iam agree with u usha