Comfortable in my Skin

Never judge a book by its cover. t's a way of saying don't judge others…before you learn who they are on the inside. It’s a great saying but the reality is that human beings judge books by their covers. All the time. Sure, you’re great once you get to sit down and chat but the world is judgmental.
There are different ways people judge you:
1. By your wardrobe
2. By your Time Management (punctuality)
3. By Your Preparation
4. Manners and etiquette
5. By your Language
6. LASTLY BUT MOST IMPORTANT – APPEARANCES

It is the last one that’s my subject of discussion.
Appearances can be deceptive
No One is Perfect
No one is equal
If you are thin, will a stranger assume you are mean, vain, and controlling? And if you are overweight, are you observed as sloppy, slow, and lazy? A poll was conducted by Rebecca Puhl, PhD, at Yale’s Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity, asking women “to envision a female stranger who was either ‘overweight’ or ‘thin,’ then choose one pair of words to describe her.”

Per the results of this poll, overweight women were described as “slow,” “undisciplined,” “sloppy,” and “lazy.”

The article also stated that, “a study of out of the University of Manchester found that obese women had more trouble getting a job … gaining any weight at all or having a baby face (chubbier cheeks, less pronounced cheekbones) could lead to lower wages and reduced career opportunity.”

On the flip side, the poll also concluded that thin women were described as “bitchy,” “mean,” “controlling,” “conceited,” “vain,” “self-centered,” and “superficial.”

All women – thin and fat – are judged by their size.

If these conclusions are based off of what history has depicted and what our minds preconceive, how do we change things for the future? Can’t an overweight woman be a go-getter with game-changing ideas? Because a woman is thin, is she automatically controlling; or, could she perhaps have fantastic genetics and is actually a very understanding, compromising female? And, when you see a woman on the street, at the grocery store, or at the park, are you subconsciously or consciously judging her worth based on the size of her body?

I think we women are all guilty of this. So, how can we change it?

If you are overweight and struggling to find a job, does this information push you to lose some weight? Or, if you are thin and always misjudged to be a snob, would you gain some weight to push those notions away?

Why do we care what others think of us?

What do you think?