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Sulking Lovers

Sulking is a nurtured anger combined with a refusal to discuss the cause of that anger. When we sulk we need our partners to understand and to refrain from doing anything to get us out of it. professor

(We're not talking about chronic sulkers today and I'm concentrating on sulks where the anger was not caused by the partner but by an external source, maybe work-related, and as such not aimed at the partner. Although the sulker needs time to work out the anger alone, he/she may not need or want to be alone.)

Do you get uptight or worried when your partner goes into a sulk? Don't. You should feel honored when at the receiving end of a sulk. It means that your partner trusts you enough to believe that you understand his or her unspoken hurt without having to explain it. That is one of the gifts of love. heart beating

Sulking can be traced back to our earliest childhoods; the silent understanding. In the womb, we never had to explain. Our every need was catered for and this continued well into our first few carefree years. We didn’t have to ask; caring and loving grown-ups guessed what we needed. They found the reasons for our discomforts while we were unable to put it to words. comfort

That is probably why even the most eloquent among us may prefer not to spell things out when our partners fail to understand us properly. Only when we don’t have to explain do we feel certain that we are properly understood and only then do we believe that our partners fully understand us.hmmm

We may be adults living in an adult world but deep inside we remain infants; needing our partners to be our parents. We need them to correctly guess what is troubling us, as our parents did when we were babies; the time when our concepts of love were first formed. happy place

We do our sulking lovers the greatest possible favor when we are able to handle their tantrums as we would handle those of an infant. hug
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Now don't sulk; here is a banana for you. banana

Comments (50)

Humungus
Sometimes when I'm driving I listen to the radio. Other times I switch it off and sulk.
Catfoot
That's great! Here is a banana for you too. banana
Humungus
I'm allergic to bananas, they give me piles.
mollybaby
Always avoid a sulker with piles.
MiMiArt
I suck .....ooppppssss, blushing I mean, sulk all the time grin

Just last night, Art said something wrong while I was scratching his back. I immediately stopped scratching and told him, “You can scratch your own back from now on!!!” very mad

I then turned around, pulled the blanket up and sulked! mumbling

Art realised the ‘dire’ situation he was in and quickly took over the situation. He said something very silly and funny, knowing that it’d make his MiMi laugh! laugh

In no time, MiMi went back to scratching his back again until he fell asleep. sleep

Art and MiMi try not to stay angry with each other for far too long coz according to him, he’s not getting younger and doesn’t wanna waste precious time by staying angry for a long period of time. professor


Catfoot applause hug
MiMiArt
Molly reunion
mollybaby
Gorgeous Mimi!!! reunion

You haven't been online in ages.
I'm glad to hear that your time was being used so productively...back-scratching laugh
Catfoot
Humungus
Where's the rest of your motorcycle enthusiasts? I feel better when I see you all.doh
Catfoot
Hi Molly,
I wonder what I can give him that does not give hemorrhoids.doh
wine hug
Catfoot
Hi Mimi,
Have not seen you for a few days. Did not want to inquire; know you're on honeymoon. I hope Art's place is near a primary school.laugh
wine hug
mollybaby
Cat, I'd suggest telling him that the banana is for eating.

That may solve the problem.
MiMiArt
Molly

MiMi has been busy scratching Arty’s back! laugh

Of course it’s considered productive coz MiMi will request to be bought this and that or to be brought here and there! cheering

The way to a man’s heart is through his back! giggle
Catfoot
Molly
You always have such a simple explanation for what I perceive to be a major disaster. laugh Why can't I be so economic with my ideas?doh
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EXRED
Mimi laugh laugh good to see you I know all about back scratching dancing I have a long one scold back scratcher rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Catfoot
Mimi
Tsk, tsk, tsk!
You are approaching the issue at hand from the wrong side. I can promise you that the way to his heart is not through his back.laugh
wine hug
Catfoot
Hi Red
I also have one of those but somehow it just ain't the same. Maybe if it worked with batteries... laugh
wine hug
mollybaby
Mimi, we all know it can't be through his stomach with your cooking laugh
MiMiArt
Catfoot

MiMi went out with some new found Malaysian friends here in Omaha.

MiMi also went out with Art’s sisters. One older sister who’s in her 70’s and two younger sisters who are in their mid 60’s. We had so much fun and laughter, I like his sisters very much.

MiMi and son had their first American cookout last Labor Day weekend. It was nice but Art’s sister and niece were trying to set my 20 year-old son with a 25 year-old nurse! I was like shock My son has other more important priorities and won’t be dating until he’s 40. Thank you very much! snooty
MiMiArt
Red applause

I got a long one too!! yay


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MiMiArt
Catfoot

Care to enlighten the MiMi?!? innocent
Catfoot
Molly,
Her cooking can't be that bad. I still have an open invitation to a plate of real Malaysian curry & rice. I suppose I'd now have to travel to the USA for it. I'll have to do it in secret because some arsehole will do his best to have me deported on entry.laugh
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UnFayzed
Ahhh I guess without a partner one doesn't have to sulk.
MiMiArt
Molly

Arty claims his MiMi’s cooking is....surprisingly..........




edible tongue
mollybaby
Cat, dead men can't deport cool
Catfoot
Mimi
No, I can't tell.blushing

But why can't your son date? Are you fearful that he may do what you do?rolling on the floor laughing
wine hug
mollybaby
Mimi, what choice did he have?
He'd starve and/or have you sulking.

Eat and shut up is the best option grin
Catfoot
Molly,
Hmm, but there are so many ghosts around at the moment, I don't know who is who. Some even have ghosts while alive. I suppose we can call those avatars.mumbling
MiMiArt
Catfoot

I only have 2 packets of these at the moment blues help

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I’ll cook you Chicken Kapitan if you come over to Omaha! applause


However, I can always meet you in Malaysia and take you around, sampling our yummy local cuisine!
Catfoot
Hi UnFayzed,
Oops! I almost missed your comment. It would seem in vain to sulk without an audience. But then who knows?laugh
wine hug
Catfoot
I am yet to meet a woman who cannot cook though many claim that they cannot. Methinks it is just a story to get the man to cook. laugh
Catfoot
I'm sulking. having the right spices is only 10% of the trick.
laugh laugh
That's right. Men sulk because we're not very happy and wish to be left alone. You know how you say "it's fine" to lure us into asking what's wrong, well we're not doing at all. The emotion is genuine and belongs to me.
MiMiArt
Catfoot

My son must make full use of the opportunity given to him.

When he gets his green card ( still in process sigh ), he’d serve the Army National Guard. By serving the Army National Guard, he’d get his tuition fees paid. He’d then go to college, study real hard and make good money. Then them gals will come, naturally and only then he can start dating! grin


This a pic of him and Art going for his very first football game. First game of the season for the Nebraska team, “The Cornhuskers”
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It was lovely of Art to drive like an hour to bring him there smitten
MiMi chose to stay home coz she’d rather have the money to shop! grin
MiMiArt
Molly

He’d rather starve than have his MiMi sulking! laugh
It's not an emotion affected for the group at large... unless we're telling a joke or goofin around. If it seems like a real emotion, it probably is. And this is something you just have to accept about men.
Catfoot
Chesney
Hmm, though sulking is often interpreted as something else.
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Catfoot
Mimi
I'm just teasing you. Education is paramount to all. there'll be plenty of time to play afterwards. But then, do you know love? At his age it comes like a big shit.devil
wine hug
Catfoot
But Chesney,
we all sulk; men and women alike. blues
cheers
Yet being lured into asking what's wrong doesn't necessarily mean you should. Neither all the time or not at all, but only sometimes do you walk into a woman's trap. Alone time often is the best thing for a man or woman in a sulk even if getting her to realise it means closing the door in her face. It's avoiding you, to help you.
Bearwoman
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