Date Doctor's Dating Lesson

GUYS, GUYS, GUYS...

I am on Dating web pages for very long, and always back when a relationship ends.
I think it is a good opportunity to express what we want and check if it really matches and not only look at the person and body and think, that's my man (or from the mans perspective : that is my girl)

I am too old to fall in love on the first sight and everything around a/the person do not matter.
I can see there is a lot of from the other side that matters. So on a web page you can already check
match or not. Like or not.

So please guys, this is a lesson for the first contact.

Please accept the age matches, call it restrictions, but accept the fact, that the person do not want to date someone 10 years younger or older what it is in the description written.
Read proper, before you contact, if you match this description.
If not, just leave it, do not write.

If you are interested in the person, and obviously there is a good chance that you get a good response please follow some rules, you already learned in your childhood from your mother.
Be gentle.
tell your name first.
Don't start with a
"hey great picture"
"age is nothing but a number"
"I like the country, where you are coming from"
"how are you"
"I like your profile, tell me more about you"
"here is my email/WA number, call me, text me"

NO NO, it doesn't work like this!

Introduce yourself nicely, tell your name.
Tell how you found the profile, why you are writing, because "we" have the same interests or what you read in the profile.
Of course the picture is important but nothing more boring is "I like your picture"
"you have a nice and warm smile"
" I like your dimples, very sweet"
"is that Paris, Bahamas, the Alps, x x x x x..." when you recognize something.
"Do you love travelling, as I love? I know the place, have been there already...."
"I can see you like bikes, skiing, swimming, what else hobbies do you have?"
" I like kayaking diving, beach volleyball, chess ,do you play chess"

But please stop asking stupid questions.
Be creative, don't be scared to ask nice and intelligent questions.
Study the profile, what does it tells you?
Ask and please, if we ask you something, then respond with a honest answer and start asking questions yourself.
How do you want her to get to know her better, if you did not ask?

I had contact with stupid copy and paste texts and I was wondering, how they found me and could write, as I could see, that they never checked my profile.
I was wondering, if I ask questions, where are you originally from, when the English was very bad, or when they told me, I am from Europe, Swiss, Bavaria and I started to talk in German.
This a a story for another blog, for the scammers on this side.

Herewith I want to help MEN, not to be too shy and do not ruin it, because of the wrong start.
Be patient, don't be scared, stay gentle and open.
It takes time to trust via Internet and there is no rush to change to email or WA.
If you know each other better, then it might be an opportunity to change, but for the beginning stay here.

When it comes to the first date, then I will tell you how to make it, but that is also another Story for another blog.
For the first contact, Good Luck, stay calm and smart.
Stay patient.
If she do not like you, no problem, the right one is waiting, start again.
Nothing to loose.

Bye for now.